You’re not a couple on the second date. Sure she’s being entitled expecting you to pay again but your behaviour sounds absolutely appalling. If she ever communicates with you again it’s because she has zero self-respect.
OP you're looking at things from your perspective only. Nothing wrong with that , but nothing about your relationship seems casual. You don't want to commit but since this is your first serious relationship you don't want to let go. You don't want to hurt her. But don't want to participate in anything to do with her life. She could be planning her residency surrounding your relationship and you are in a place where you're comfortable with your life and don't want a long distance relationship.
Let her go already. If you haven't, in one whole year of meeting family etc., not arrived at a decision on if you even see a future together, then chances are you will not. You have the luxury of staying firmly in place with your life intact and being indecisive. She does not. You make her sound like an option and as someone whose presence or absence makes no real difference. Let her go.
Op is innocent and subservient and trying so hard to appease at all turns. Husband is irrational, consistently angry, and harsh.
Is this written by a bot? Is OP really living in a weird Cinderella household? Is OP mischaracterizing her and her husband's dynamic and leaving out parts of the story?
This comment rubs me the wrong way. It is perfectly ok for him to be sad. It is perfectly ok for her to be sad (and OP has pointed out that she IS sad about it). It is perfectly ok for him to communicate his feelings. HOWEVER – the goal of having a conversation with her should NOT be “oh maybe she'll decide to keep it”. She's high risk and has health issues already. I'm sorry but her decision needs to be reaffirmed and supported.
I'm glad OP has friends like you guys. Keep lifting him up through this. It's good that he's young and got that proof now (props to the one who showed him too).
It's going to hurt, but you'll get your family one day.
You’re not a couple on the second date. Sure she’s being entitled expecting you to pay again but your behaviour sounds absolutely appalling. If she ever communicates with you again it’s because she has zero self-respect.
OP you're looking at things from your perspective only. Nothing wrong with that , but nothing about your relationship seems casual. You don't want to commit but since this is your first serious relationship you don't want to let go. You don't want to hurt her. But don't want to participate in anything to do with her life. She could be planning her residency surrounding your relationship and you are in a place where you're comfortable with your life and don't want a long distance relationship.
Let her go already. If you haven't, in one whole year of meeting family etc., not arrived at a decision on if you even see a future together, then chances are you will not. You have the luxury of staying firmly in place with your life intact and being indecisive. She does not. You make her sound like an option and as someone whose presence or absence makes no real difference. Let her go.
She has a big ass, it is her boyfriend!
He needs to lawyer up immediately and get the courts and CPS involved – like Monday.
You’ve got a mother who intentionally ha kept this child from their father – serious grounds for CPS involvement and a psych eval at a minimum.
He needs to get a court-ordered coparenting plan on the books ASAP.
This is really oddly written.
Op is innocent and subservient and trying so hard to appease at all turns. Husband is irrational, consistently angry, and harsh.
Is this written by a bot? Is OP really living in a weird Cinderella household? Is OP mischaracterizing her and her husband's dynamic and leaving out parts of the story?
How do you give a 30 year old man a curfew with sound like him mom. Girl. Are you for real?
This comment rubs me the wrong way. It is perfectly ok for him to be sad. It is perfectly ok for her to be sad (and OP has pointed out that she IS sad about it). It is perfectly ok for him to communicate his feelings. HOWEVER – the goal of having a conversation with her should NOT be “oh maybe she'll decide to keep it”. She's high risk and has health issues already. I'm sorry but her decision needs to be reaffirmed and supported.
I'm glad OP has friends like you guys. Keep lifting him up through this. It's good that he's young and got that proof now (props to the one who showed him too).
It's going to hurt, but you'll get your family one day.