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Date: October 13, 2022
So he's ubemployed and have no friends? He's happy with you paying for everything? You can't watch trashy TV or whatever cause it's not highbrow enough for the unemployed moocher?
This is just weird.
Hmm. Well, I'll say this speaking as someone who did give up weed for a partner: I don't think I would do it in your case.
With my then-girlfriend (now wife) she had a terrible experience with her previous partner, who was a pothead, deadbeat, and domestic abuser. So pot kind of got rolled into all the other anxiety-inducing triggers she had around this guy, and when we started dating I let her know I smoked and she let me know it made her uncomfortable. But the difference is all in the delivery.
First off, she told me why it made her uncomfortable and that was completely reasonable. Secondly she didn't try to pressure me into giving it up or even ask me to give it up, instead she just asked me to not do it in front of her and give her a heads up if she was going to come over and the apartment smelled like a Phish concert. She made it clear from the outset that she knew this was her issue, not mine, and she wasn't going to ask me to change my lifestyle just for her as long as I was considerate about it.
So I gave it about 5 seconds of thought and figured “I really like this girl, she's being super reasonable about it but it clearly makes her uncomfortable, and it's just weed…fuck it, I'll quit.” So I did. She was amazed I was willing to give it up for her (I get the impression the last guy would have reacted violently to that suggestion) and immediately got more comfortable around me.
That went on for about a year, and eventually she got so comfortable that she told me it wouldn't bother her anymore since if I could quit at the drop of a hat clearly I used it in moderation, and told me she was fine with me picking it back up again if I wanted. So I started back, and now she even joins me every now and then. We get goofy and watch MST3K reruns, it's great. Also she later developed an autoimmune disorder that comes with a lot of nerve pain, and it has really helped to dull that for her.
The point of all that was that we both approached the situation with a lot of mutual respect and understanding. From your story so far the respect and understanding seems very one-sided. You are going out of your way to respect his boundaries and he's still treating you like a leper. He's also holding you to a vastly different standard than anyone else he associates with, and to top it all off he has given you no real reason whatsoever for any of this.
So no, even as someone that has cheerfully given up weed for a relationship in the past I sure as hell wouldn't do it for this guy. Plus, there's this:
But I honestly love weed as stupid as it sounds. I have an auto immune disorder and anxiety disorder it helps with and I look forward to doing it at night to relax.
Listen, you don't have to apologize to anyone for anything, especially not that. If it helps you it helps you, the end. Like I said, my wife uses it to help with her autoimmune disorder as well and I've seen the difference it makes. NOBODY has any right to try to dictate how you treat something like that, especially when he doesn't even actually have a reason. If this guy is demanding you give up something that helps with your health problems then he'd better have a damn good reason and even if he did (which he apparently doesn't) I'd probably still say to stick with what helps you.
She didn't mention anything about dating
Um, what does a 'mutual crush' mean to you?
I know next to nothing about open relationships and even I know this isn’t how it works. You both need to figure out what a healthy open relationship actually is (assuming there is such a thing) and then decide if you both want that. I’d bet my mortgage that if you close the relationship now, he’ll magically want to reopen it the next time he has a prospect.