Why are you still putting up with that!? It's extremely rude and disrespectful and he will continue to do it because you let him do it. Two options… option 1: dump him or option 2: next time give him 30 minutes and if he doesn't show you take yourself out. Don't contact him and just do something for you.
Sounds like a scam, and he may even be doing things online and have a submission kink, and using that out this all together to scam you guys. Just have a heart to heart with him and ask him if he has any kinks he may be embarrassed to share and that you won't judge. You sound very open and that you aren't the type to judge anyway so if it was the truth he'd probably tell you. He may just not have wanted to do so at the time of the phone calls or while away.
Otherwise what people said above is also likely. We have cameras on everything these days. This is why I will never have security cameras in my house. Too easy to hack, I also cover my cameras on laptops, PCs, and even my phone regularly.
If you have wildly differing political views, I don't see how this will work.
Based on what I have personally experienced and observed, people who are Conservative/Right-Leaning (more specifically, far-right) tend to be very “traditional”. They like the “Status Quo” and are against anything that challenges that. Those people are also fixed-mindset types. They aren't interested in learning about the experiences of others, and lack empathy & understanding and their views don't change.
That is the antithesis of everything that I believe in, and personally, I don't have anything to do with them.
However, I have also met people who are right leaning, but more moderate in their views. They have a slightly more “growth” mindset, they are more understanding and tolerant, and are prepared to lend their support to what might be considered “progressive” causes. I tend to tolerate those people in small doses, but I don't let them too close.
If you aren't prepared to throw away the relationship just yet, it might be worthwhile exploring just how different your views are, and working out if in general he is someone who has a fixed or growth mindset. If it turns out that he is someone who is a “moderate conservative” (I guess you could call it), has a growth mindset and is prepared to live and let live, then this might work.
Yeah, I wouldn't
Why are you still putting up with that!? It's extremely rude and disrespectful and he will continue to do it because you let him do it. Two options… option 1: dump him or option 2: next time give him 30 minutes and if he doesn't show you take yourself out. Don't contact him and just do something for you.
Please rethink that tone.
This guy is in an abusive relationship and she has been tearing him down mentally and emotionally.
Have some compassion, even if it isn't something you can immediately relate to.
I seem to have lost my meat thermometer, can I borrow yours? I was looking for it when cooking the holiday beast.
no. Thats why im not talking to her unless she shows proof.
Sorry, but don't waste your time. Trust yourself.
Besides this experience your wife fucking sucks and treated you like shit. Maybe she’s closeted but fuck her for putting you through this
Sounds like a scam, and he may even be doing things online and have a submission kink, and using that out this all together to scam you guys. Just have a heart to heart with him and ask him if he has any kinks he may be embarrassed to share and that you won't judge. You sound very open and that you aren't the type to judge anyway so if it was the truth he'd probably tell you. He may just not have wanted to do so at the time of the phone calls or while away.
Otherwise what people said above is also likely. We have cameras on everything these days. This is why I will never have security cameras in my house. Too easy to hack, I also cover my cameras on laptops, PCs, and even my phone regularly.
You were upset this was shown to a guy, but yet you posted it online for the world to see. Sounds like maybe you are the problem
You have actively agreed to a relationship with someone who is completely unreliable.
If you think that is a bad idea you need to take action.
If you have wildly differing political views, I don't see how this will work.
Based on what I have personally experienced and observed, people who are Conservative/Right-Leaning (more specifically, far-right) tend to be very “traditional”. They like the “Status Quo” and are against anything that challenges that. Those people are also fixed-mindset types. They aren't interested in learning about the experiences of others, and lack empathy & understanding and their views don't change.
That is the antithesis of everything that I believe in, and personally, I don't have anything to do with them.
However, I have also met people who are right leaning, but more moderate in their views. They have a slightly more “growth” mindset, they are more understanding and tolerant, and are prepared to lend their support to what might be considered “progressive” causes. I tend to tolerate those people in small doses, but I don't let them too close.
If you aren't prepared to throw away the relationship just yet, it might be worthwhile exploring just how different your views are, and working out if in general he is someone who has a fixed or growth mindset. If it turns out that he is someone who is a “moderate conservative” (I guess you could call it), has a growth mindset and is prepared to live and let live, then this might work.
Okay stay with me: the fat bf, the rapist bf, this bf and my ex are all the same person. I'm so sorry this is my life.
well said & true too.