Your bf is mean and he’s not joking. This is how he sees you. Don’t allow anyone to insult you. Why are you still with him? You should be with someone who loves and appreciates you. Not this jackass who think he’s a know it all and take advantage of you.
I have no idea why you’re being downvoted for this. The amount of people who-if they were OP- involve themselves in someone else’s situation/life without being invited, is astounding to me. As close OP is to her friend, she doesn’t have a say in the decisions she makes. Be her friend. You can be honest with your disapproval of the relationship. But be there for her when it ultimately crashes and burns, because it will. But don’t involve yourself beyond that. Someone will eventually find out, whether you do anything or not. If you can’t do that, you also have the option of walking away from the friendship. If it bothers you to this extent, you may have to tell her that you can’t be friends with her while she’s doing this. Just don’t put yourself in the middle of this. It’s just not your place.
There’s nothing you or her can do about the ex moving in, as the rest of the flatmates would just over rule her.
So you have 2 choices.
One tell her that as she didn’t respect you enough to say no (even though it wouldn’t have changed anything) that you are ending the relationship with her.
Or you continue your relationship with her.
If you choose the second option, if I was you the first sign of anything suspicious I’d dump her.
As while you trust her now, she’s obviously going to be living with someone she had feelings for not that long ago, and it’d only take you and her to have a argument and he’d have a crack to manipulate his way back.
I know you said you don't want to divorce but honestly you've got to learn from his past – three other women pulled the plug on marriage with him, you should follow their lead and get out, because it clearly isn't getting any better.
I WFH from usually 8:30-5pm and my son goes to bed at 7:30pm at the latest. So 5Pm-7:30pm is spending time with him / getting dinner ready / eating dinner together while feeding him. Then we clean up a bit then go up to do his bedtime routine all together. After he is in bed we both clean up some more then on designated days we have either me time or our together time.
She is definitely against it all now because I haven’t been great about remembering to do some of my chores and she also believes my mood / energy is being drained since I am not prioritizing my sleep. I partially agree but I do not think it is a gaming issue. More of me needing to prioritize my chores at certain times / come up with a system for myself to get them done.
That's right.
Your bf is mean and he’s not joking. This is how he sees you. Don’t allow anyone to insult you. Why are you still with him? You should be with someone who loves and appreciates you. Not this jackass who think he’s a know it all and take advantage of you.
I have no idea why you’re being downvoted for this. The amount of people who-if they were OP- involve themselves in someone else’s situation/life without being invited, is astounding to me. As close OP is to her friend, she doesn’t have a say in the decisions she makes. Be her friend. You can be honest with your disapproval of the relationship. But be there for her when it ultimately crashes and burns, because it will. But don’t involve yourself beyond that. Someone will eventually find out, whether you do anything or not. If you can’t do that, you also have the option of walking away from the friendship. If it bothers you to this extent, you may have to tell her that you can’t be friends with her while she’s doing this. Just don’t put yourself in the middle of this. It’s just not your place.
There’s nothing you or her can do about the ex moving in, as the rest of the flatmates would just over rule her.
So you have 2 choices.
One tell her that as she didn’t respect you enough to say no (even though it wouldn’t have changed anything) that you are ending the relationship with her.
Or you continue your relationship with her.
If you choose the second option, if I was you the first sign of anything suspicious I’d dump her.
As while you trust her now, she’s obviously going to be living with someone she had feelings for not that long ago, and it’d only take you and her to have a argument and he’d have a crack to manipulate his way back.
I know you said you don't want to divorce but honestly you've got to learn from his past – three other women pulled the plug on marriage with him, you should follow their lead and get out, because it clearly isn't getting any better.
I WFH from usually 8:30-5pm and my son goes to bed at 7:30pm at the latest. So 5Pm-7:30pm is spending time with him / getting dinner ready / eating dinner together while feeding him. Then we clean up a bit then go up to do his bedtime routine all together. After he is in bed we both clean up some more then on designated days we have either me time or our together time.
She is definitely against it all now because I haven’t been great about remembering to do some of my chores and she also believes my mood / energy is being drained since I am not prioritizing my sleep. I partially agree but I do not think it is a gaming issue. More of me needing to prioritize my chores at certain times / come up with a system for myself to get them done.