My question is.. why’d you get with a smelly dude ? but also, my advice: I was with someone for a little over 3 years who had bad hygiene. I’m talking sucking his thumb while taking a shit and not washing his hands afterwards type of gross. He also got mad at me when I told him it bothers me when he doesn’t clean himself. His bad hygiene eventually caused me to get a bad kidney infection that nearly killed me.
Ask yourself this. Are you sure he’s an okay guy? Is this the only thing that he has said “cool, I don’t care” to? Does he frequently shut down your emotions like that?
IMO, he sounds like a Manchild. Throw him out, girl.
I notified the police and they ran a search, discovering that his guns are unregistered, which is an additional charge to whatever else comes to light.
The thing about porn is this. It isn’t real, and it literally ruins any chance of a healthy sexual relationship. Real sec with a real person is far better, but it takes the right mindset to realize how fake and unrealistic porn really is.
Well, he’s my best friend and if he gets with this girl he will continue to be and i will absolutely put my feelings aside like he did with me when i got with my partner. I’m just scared of not taking action when I should’ve- because he mentioned to me so many times he still hasn’t found anyone like me and he is still looking for her. What if i am her?
So when he says “I was inside that instead,” while you are actively having sex, that’s sexual abuse. Maybe he doesn’t realize it, but that would severely cause anyone that doesn’t want to do that distress. He keeps crossing a known boundary while you are at your most vulnerable. Maybe he doesn’t realize it.
You should explain this to him and if continues then you need to reconsider why you stay. Bluntly put, you need to break up with him because you are sexually incompatible. This is clearly something more important to him than you are. It’s something he wants to explore and it’s clear it can’t be with you.
If you compromise on this, it will destroy your soul. Stick to your guns. If you don’t do it it’s going to erode your relationship, if you do it, it will feel coerced and it will erode your relationship. So I’m sorry to say, ending the relationship is the only option left.
My question is.. why’d you get with a smelly dude ? but also, my advice: I was with someone for a little over 3 years who had bad hygiene. I’m talking sucking his thumb while taking a shit and not washing his hands afterwards type of gross. He also got mad at me when I told him it bothers me when he doesn’t clean himself. His bad hygiene eventually caused me to get a bad kidney infection that nearly killed me.
Ask yourself this. Are you sure he’s an okay guy? Is this the only thing that he has said “cool, I don’t care” to? Does he frequently shut down your emotions like that?
IMO, he sounds like a Manchild. Throw him out, girl.
Got a point there maybe? Unless she thought she couldn't hide it somehow? That's worse case scenario I think.
No. It isn't working for a reason. That reason will never change.
Move on.
I notified the police and they ran a search, discovering that his guns are unregistered, which is an additional charge to whatever else comes to light.
The thing about porn is this. It isn’t real, and it literally ruins any chance of a healthy sexual relationship. Real sec with a real person is far better, but it takes the right mindset to realize how fake and unrealistic porn really is.
According to her it's because I was holding it instead of cuddling with her
What are you even talking about your male best friend on jest dates? You may be giving off unrequited love vibes.
Well, he’s my best friend and if he gets with this girl he will continue to be and i will absolutely put my feelings aside like he did with me when i got with my partner. I’m just scared of not taking action when I should’ve- because he mentioned to me so many times he still hasn’t found anyone like me and he is still looking for her. What if i am her?
On vacation is not “in public” unless they're exhibitionists. But in a hotel room or vacation rental, absolutely!!!
Should I apologize for this? I feel really guilty.
So when he says “I was inside that instead,” while you are actively having sex, that’s sexual abuse. Maybe he doesn’t realize it, but that would severely cause anyone that doesn’t want to do that distress. He keeps crossing a known boundary while you are at your most vulnerable. Maybe he doesn’t realize it.
You should explain this to him and if continues then you need to reconsider why you stay. Bluntly put, you need to break up with him because you are sexually incompatible. This is clearly something more important to him than you are. It’s something he wants to explore and it’s clear it can’t be with you.
If you compromise on this, it will destroy your soul. Stick to your guns. If you don’t do it it’s going to erode your relationship, if you do it, it will feel coerced and it will erode your relationship. So I’m sorry to say, ending the relationship is the only option left.