When people cheat repeatedly with different random people, they do so because they see their partner as a weak person who won’t leave.
Your instinct to “try therapy before anything else” is exactly why she will keep doing this. Try something else first- something that affects her. Right now, you absorb the shock and emotional labor and struggle- nothing bad is happening to her. She knew everything and didn’t confess through tears. She has no significant guilt.
Consequences for her now. Or just know, after you’ve spent the next 18 months struggling to “process” this, she’s going to have her ankles behind her head again with another work or gym hookup.
She says sex is painful and even after months of treatment options with her doctor there’s been very little change she’s not petite but she is thin/fit and I am an average build guy normally endowed I find her incredibly sexy to me I can’t look at her and not get turned on but I’m very afraid that eventually I may stray and I wouldn’t want to hurt her in any way
That couldn’t be fake. It is so realistic and everything. I saw everything when I was in the parking lot.
When people cheat repeatedly with different random people, they do so because they see their partner as a weak person who won’t leave.
Your instinct to “try therapy before anything else” is exactly why she will keep doing this. Try something else first- something that affects her. Right now, you absorb the shock and emotional labor and struggle- nothing bad is happening to her. She knew everything and didn’t confess through tears. She has no significant guilt.
Consequences for her now. Or just know, after you’ve spent the next 18 months struggling to “process” this, she’s going to have her ankles behind her head again with another work or gym hookup.
You deserve better.
Personally, I couldn’t deal if my BF had banged six of my sorority sisters. I’d say if it’s still bothering you, then she’s not “the one.”
She says sex is painful and even after months of treatment options with her doctor there’s been very little change she’s not petite but she is thin/fit and I am an average build guy normally endowed I find her incredibly sexy to me I can’t look at her and not get turned on but I’m very afraid that eventually I may stray and I wouldn’t want to hurt her in any way