I am chronically disabled and married. You clearly gave caretaker fatigue and need to step down from that position for a bit. When was the last time you did something romantic or fun together?
The biggest piece of advice I can give you here is that you are a team, you do things together and share the burden. You need to discuss what is working or not working, and ask her to work with you to fix the issues.
If she can do more work from home where she is comfortable, great, if not then you need to start making some cutbacks and changes elsewhere. Do you need to move somewhere cheaper and hire a cleaner / helper to do some of the cooking and cleaning? Is there a family member who might be able to help with some things?
It can work if you work together. If neither of you is willing to work together or even talk about the issues together, then this marriage has already failed.
Cheating/emotional affair aside, why do you want to be with someone that doesn’t even act like they like you? That is not how your even treat a friend. She doesn’t see you as a friend or a significant other. Why stay?
Why would you get back together with him? He tries to control your every move. Stay away from him. Block him. Surround yourself with trusted friends and family.
When people show you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM.
Is he saying “you probably don't want to come” because you have declined going with in the past? Or maybe they are doing something you won't enjoy?
I am chronically disabled and married. You clearly gave caretaker fatigue and need to step down from that position for a bit. When was the last time you did something romantic or fun together?
The biggest piece of advice I can give you here is that you are a team, you do things together and share the burden. You need to discuss what is working or not working, and ask her to work with you to fix the issues.
If she can do more work from home where she is comfortable, great, if not then you need to start making some cutbacks and changes elsewhere. Do you need to move somewhere cheaper and hire a cleaner / helper to do some of the cooking and cleaning? Is there a family member who might be able to help with some things?
It can work if you work together. If neither of you is willing to work together or even talk about the issues together, then this marriage has already failed.
Cheating/emotional affair aside, why do you want to be with someone that doesn’t even act like they like you? That is not how your even treat a friend. She doesn’t see you as a friend or a significant other. Why stay?
Why would you get back together with him? He tries to control your every move. Stay away from him. Block him. Surround yourself with trusted friends and family.