If you're gonna choose to be a single mother over a guy watching porn, then I'm sorry but you're gonna end up single and alone until the day you die. I get that you're allowed to choose who you want to be with, and any boundary is allowed, yeah sure. But that doesn't mean a guy who fits all your checkmarks will fall into your lap. And even if there is a perfect guy out there, who's to say he'd even be into you?
You already cut out the vast majority of the male population with that boundary alone, and the one's you didn't are either extremely young / old or just aren't that interested in women and definitely don't wanna be dating a single mother.
My advice is to talk to someone and get over your ex boyfriend and his problems. You're letting your ex corrupt all your future relationships. Do you want your ex to have that kind of affect on you for the rest of your life?
I have ADHD as well. Punching holes in walls as well as destroying items in the home is considered acts of violence or physical abuse. That is very alarming that he did that, but even worse that all it took was half hour tardiness.
Don't do this. Yes, this is a horrible decision. No, there is no benefit to you going. You have your closure. You were able to move on and find the actual love of your life, and are now happily married to him.
The other guy is a part of your past and he is wanting to dredge up old memories from 5 years ago. He's not doing this just for closure. And he doesn't have to meet up with you to give his POV over it.
Don't drag unnecessary issues or drama into your marriage.
In regard to being afraid of the state of the world, there will always be hardship to overcome in every walk of life. You said you and your wife are pretty financially secure and have a house so you’re already better prepared than a lot of people. You won’t be bringing kids into poverty.
What kids need most of all is love and security, and a lot of dedication. It’s okay to be nervous about it since no parent is ever 100% prepared, you learn on the go.
If you have the capacity for empathy, compromise and patience, it’s a good sign that you can grow into the role
My wife recently did this with all the living room furniture. She got it to about 75% and I helped with the remaining. I was shocked that I liked it so much. She did a great job.
I'm a former college prof, and I highly recommending noping out of this immediately. She's taking advantage of your naivete. She's creeping on you.
If you're lonely and want to meet women your age, clubs (if you're in college) are great. Sports, activities, volunteering, online dating, all of these are great ways to meet new people and get more confident socializing. But please take all the warnings here seriously.
The thing is, he wasn't embarrassed to tell you not to flush it and put it in the trash so I wouldn't be too worried about discussing your point of view. I wouldn't be mean about it but I would bring up how it is unnecessary and unnecessary it is. Bagging it is still gross and absolutely unnecessary. The solution is so easy…..FLUSH IT! If he isn't willing to do that, you will have to decide if it's something you can live with.
I could see it if there were plumbing or septic system issues but since there aren't, this is just unnecessarily gross and unsanitary. He's a grown man so there's no reason to keep doing this.
If you're gonna choose to be a single mother over a guy watching porn, then I'm sorry but you're gonna end up single and alone until the day you die. I get that you're allowed to choose who you want to be with, and any boundary is allowed, yeah sure. But that doesn't mean a guy who fits all your checkmarks will fall into your lap. And even if there is a perfect guy out there, who's to say he'd even be into you?
You already cut out the vast majority of the male population with that boundary alone, and the one's you didn't are either extremely young / old or just aren't that interested in women and definitely don't wanna be dating a single mother.
My advice is to talk to someone and get over your ex boyfriend and his problems. You're letting your ex corrupt all your future relationships. Do you want your ex to have that kind of affect on you for the rest of your life?
Why do you keep spamming this?
I have ADHD as well. Punching holes in walls as well as destroying items in the home is considered acts of violence or physical abuse. That is very alarming that he did that, but even worse that all it took was half hour tardiness.
Don't do this. Yes, this is a horrible decision. No, there is no benefit to you going. You have your closure. You were able to move on and find the actual love of your life, and are now happily married to him.
The other guy is a part of your past and he is wanting to dredge up old memories from 5 years ago. He's not doing this just for closure. And he doesn't have to meet up with you to give his POV over it.
Don't drag unnecessary issues or drama into your marriage.
Go jerk off, then slap yourself in the face, and realize you are thinking with your penis and considering throwing your life away.
I'm glad to hear it! Reddit has got your back 😀
Ever here the phrase “So smart and yet so dumb?” Maybe he is book smart, but in other ways an idiot.
In regard to being afraid of the state of the world, there will always be hardship to overcome in every walk of life. You said you and your wife are pretty financially secure and have a house so you’re already better prepared than a lot of people. You won’t be bringing kids into poverty.
What kids need most of all is love and security, and a lot of dedication. It’s okay to be nervous about it since no parent is ever 100% prepared, you learn on the go.
If you have the capacity for empathy, compromise and patience, it’s a good sign that you can grow into the role
My wife recently did this with all the living room furniture. She got it to about 75% and I helped with the remaining. I was shocked that I liked it so much. She did a great job.
I'm a former college prof, and I highly recommending noping out of this immediately. She's taking advantage of your naivete. She's creeping on you.
If you're lonely and want to meet women your age, clubs (if you're in college) are great. Sports, activities, volunteering, online dating, all of these are great ways to meet new people and get more confident socializing. But please take all the warnings here seriously.
Evidence??
I plan on it. Trust me. Therapy and peace and quiet
I wouldn't even say what I saw , that's just gonna generate grief
Just say the distance is not working for you anymore and it's best to end it
If she really starts giving you a hard time then you can drop the bomb but otherwise just get out animosity free.
You should read Why does he do that? It'll help you recognize manipulation tactics
Sounds like he broke you down and love bombed you which is a very common manipulation tactic
The thing is, he wasn't embarrassed to tell you not to flush it and put it in the trash so I wouldn't be too worried about discussing your point of view. I wouldn't be mean about it but I would bring up how it is unnecessary and unnecessary it is. Bagging it is still gross and absolutely unnecessary. The solution is so easy…..FLUSH IT! If he isn't willing to do that, you will have to decide if it's something you can live with.
I could see it if there were plumbing or septic system issues but since there aren't, this is just unnecessarily gross and unsanitary. He's a grown man so there's no reason to keep doing this.