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Date: October 8, 2022
I’m going to say this. Looking at other people is normal sometimes after years of marriage. Even thoughts on occasion. Doesn’t make it right but it is normal. But to take it as far as flirting and acting on it in any way is not right, and is a huge disrespect.
My husband is not very sexual. And I have a huge high sexdrive. When we were going on five years of being together I had this job at a gas station, and there was this very pretty man that would come in and gamble at my counter and chat with me. We would laugh and talk, there was nothing too it. And I didn’t think anything of it nor did I have a crush on him at all, until I don’t remember how it got brought up he called me sexy, and told me my husband is so lucky and must be all over me. I played it off. But that gave me huge butterflies. And made me think, my husband in fact was NEVER all over me. And I don’t mean to boast, but I am very conventionally attractive. And in a way that interaction made me resent my husband. Made me start thinking that maybe I would get better treatment from another man. And every time that man came in after that I would get butterflies. And I hated it sooooo much. No I never told my husband, but only because it never got acted on. No talking, nothing physical, and no flirting on my part. I quit a couple months after to focus on my kids at home. And we’ve worked on our relationship since. Hope this helps.
Very interesting. I do have to agree on more spontaneous dates. But I’m still unsure how to figure out exactly what their chats were about and if she was emotionally cheating, which to me would be a deal breaker as I have put a lot of effort into trying to help her battle her demons and really cannot imagine that’s what I deserve for it.
I never said that? But you’re literally on Reddit writing how you’re hurting and constructing your own narrative, so clearly you’re incompatible. If you ‘can’t live’ without that connection, why date someone who can’t offer it to you?
And I understand that too. My dad opened a business, mom ended up helping to manage it, and now they’re divorced.
If Jess is uncomfortable then it is surely the time for you to get in “hey can you just stop disrespecting my relationship? We are uncomfortable with your behaviour”, have you ever told him to fuck off?
If Jess is uncomfortable then it is surely the time for you to get in “hey can you just stop disrespecting my relationship? We are uncomfortable with your behaviour”, have you ever told him to fuck off?
So if we can hold grudges, why on earth did the US accept Germany into their sphere? Shouldn’t we stay permanently mad? What about those Vikings? The Mongols? The Romans? Egyptians? They all benefitted financially from being the dominant force at the time and suppressing others. How about the Hutus and the Tutsis? When does permanent victimhood end? Seems to me to only go one way. Maybe stop making excuses for racists, instead of bringing up spicy food comparisons that have nothing to do with the issue OP posted about.
You're right. No one ever has irrational fears about major life events.
In another comment, he revealed that she threatened to kill him if he leaves her. I am sure this pillow incident is only a brick in the wall of all that goes on in this toxic wasteland he is calling a marriage.
Kids just aren’t something you can compromise on. Unless you both are 100% on board, you shouldn’t have children together.
I know multiple people—men and women—who didn’t want kids and got talked into having them. They’re all good parents and they love their kids but they do not much enjoy being parents and resented the hell out of their spouse. Every one of them are divorced for one reason or another but being coerced or ultimatum’d into parenthood was definitely part of it.
As for your BF…I think that some men like the idea of having kids but haven’t put much thought into it. They love the idea of coaching T-ball and going fishing or whatever. They’re not thinking about things we women have to consider like: pregnancy and childbirth and the changes to our bodies, loss of lifetime earning potential, being the one who is often the default parent organizing doctor, dentist, etc, being the one who does the lion’s share of the childcare, and so on. Those guys don’t see their life changing much because they don’t intend to do anything but the fun stuff.
Kids can be terrific but they’re not for everyone. And while you might change your mind down the road, you may not. So if you’re feeling like it’s a no now, it’s best to break up and date someone else who is childfree. There’s not a lot of time to snatch up guys your age who haven’t already had a kid by choice or not. Being a step parent can be rewarding too but it comes with it’s own set of challenges.
Personally, when I (44F) was your age, I just assumed I’d have kids some day but I sure didn’t want them right then. As time went on and I really put thought into it, I realized that I didn’t want kids at all. I like kids fine enough. I’m good with kids. But I pretty much raised my brothers and I knew how much work it is to do things right.
I couldn’t have the career I have or the hobbies I have or travel and move the way I have if I had children.
My partner has a son and he’s a great kid. But I’m in more of a “fun aunt” role and his dad does the parenting. He, by the way, is one of the people I know who was told “we are having a baby or I’m filing for divorce”. He’s a great dad but he didn’t want to be one.
Many of my friends are child free as well. Most of them actually work with kids in some capacity as teachers, therapists, coaches, etc. it’s not always about hating kids, sometimes it’s just about knowing yourself and wanting to spend your energy in other ways.
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My partner of one year tells me I am not caring for him enough.
The ways he wants me to care for him are mostly “traditional” like cooking, cleaning, but also partially financial by helping with groceries, for example. He is unemployed but formerly cash-rich for a period of time (before we met). He is absolutely broke now and owes me money. We do not live together. He says he has ADHD, depression, and recently I discovered some technology related addiction. He doesn’t have any money to pay for therapy and is essentially struggling to meet his basic needs at this point but the mental health symptoms seem to preclude him from taking steps to help himself. Vicious circle.
He says that he needs my softer support and encouragement to get out of this and back to himself. He would like me to “hold his hand through it”, and to be by his side taking some of the load off him.
However, I have been resentful and frustrated for a variety of reasons I won’t mention here. I want him to understand my actions/energy/feelings are a direct reflection of his behaviour. I am often trying to get him to understand my point or to get him to help himself…but I am not caretaking in the right way apparently.
He has asked for something interesting: 28 days of unconditional support. It’s not a contract per se but terms discussed include: – [ ] -seeing each other 2-3 times a week – [ ] -I should be more fun/positive – [ ] -make the plans for us if going out – [ ] -encourage him to tidy up or achieve a goal – [ ] -take the lead on cooking meals – [ ] -initiate affection/sex – [ ] -be softer/gentler in my mood/energy – [ ] -demonstrate my admiration/respect – [ ] -not accuse/bring up the past that starts fights
In theory this is also the kind of relationship I want but how do we determine if this is codependent caretaking OR something that makes a relationship better and deserves effort?