Very not likely. If he's not on the birth certificate it's going to take some time for court to prove he is the father and legally go after him. By that time he will be of age and no support needed.
I have told him he has either imposter syndrome, bipolar or something. He describes his brain as “fucked up thoughts all the time and he doesn’t care what happens to him”. Dw I don’t be touching him until he gets a check and I am very diligent when I visit my doctor.
There are three interpretations of this and none paint a good picture of him.
One is this guy is extremely arrogant and hates being proven wrong ever. You were logical and pointed out a simple contradiction but that hit his ego so he freaked out and is simply bullying you into never pointing out he is wrong ever again
Two this guy is extremely paranoid and thinks you’re going full detective on him. This is less likely tbh because arrogance is way more common but if it’s this then any questions you ask is an interrogation to him
Three he didn’t want to see you and is now obfuscating cuz you caught a hole in his story. So it’s just attack until you’re apologizing and forget.
Either way call it out and don’t buckle cuz once you do it becomes the norm or just walk away. Often times how people react to conflict matters more than the conflict itself
Man but its fact that the reason was flawed in the first place and at this point the reason is probabbly dead in the water like she had an abusive ex before me she was a few months with she never blocked him or anything, but somehow she decided the first real guy she was with for 2 years and wanted to move in that I needed to be blocked even though i wanted no contact with her but she begged me to stay at least friends. There is so many mixed signals and emotions it really eats at me especially since she thinks I cheated and used our friends to stalk her and stuff i never did which makes it easier for her to hate me and believe im the bad guy and even after a year it can still bother me sometimes when i remember stuff abt her i just want the peace of mind at this point since reven tho she said and did many bad things i bring myself to hate her and not care at all :/
Well, I know nothing of what they are doing so far. With that said, think about how he would be acting towards someone he has a crush, if he was single.
Tell him, you feel insecure regarding her, that you do not want him to cut her off, but you don't want their conversation to get intimate. You can also address how much they communicate if it affects your relationship with her. For example, if he interrupts your time together to message her, ask him to please not to do it.
You should also be the person he talks with about his feelings and worries. Tell you worry that she will be his emotional support, so he won't come to you with your problems and thoughts.
What do you care if he spirals? He's an ex. Don't be over-concerned. I think it's a good idea if you stop playing DND with that group, and you should also block him on socials. Enjoy your new relationship.
It is sexism. You can be statistically correct in saying that men are more likely than women to be violent, murder, abandon their partners, etc. That's fine. But once you generalize into the entire gender being trash because of that, that's sexism.
What percentage of men are violent criminals vs NOT doesn't criminals? What percentage have committed murder vs NOT committed murder? What percentage would abandon their spouse/offspring vs NOT abandoning them?
You can't say “men suck” as a rule while ignoring that there are also many good men, unless you are indeed being sexist.
Very not likely. If he's not on the birth certificate it's going to take some time for court to prove he is the father and legally go after him. By that time he will be of age and no support needed.
I have told him he has either imposter syndrome, bipolar or something. He describes his brain as “fucked up thoughts all the time and he doesn’t care what happens to him”. Dw I don’t be touching him until he gets a check and I am very diligent when I visit my doctor.
God damn this is a lot of assumptions about a total stranger that would have cost you $0 not to write out.
No, he is also eating like a child as well as acting like one
What an ass. Sorry you found one of those idiots too
Some things you just cannot come back from.
I hope OP takes the trash to the curb, she’s already been letting it stink up her house for way too long
If the situation is too messy for you, drop him. But you're not doing anything wrong by being with him.
He gave her his snapchat and phone number. Hackers wouldn’t do that ?? don’t tell me you actually believe that
There are three interpretations of this and none paint a good picture of him.
One is this guy is extremely arrogant and hates being proven wrong ever. You were logical and pointed out a simple contradiction but that hit his ego so he freaked out and is simply bullying you into never pointing out he is wrong ever again
Two this guy is extremely paranoid and thinks you’re going full detective on him. This is less likely tbh because arrogance is way more common but if it’s this then any questions you ask is an interrogation to him
Three he didn’t want to see you and is now obfuscating cuz you caught a hole in his story. So it’s just attack until you’re apologizing and forget.
Either way call it out and don’t buckle cuz once you do it becomes the norm or just walk away. Often times how people react to conflict matters more than the conflict itself
OP, you are in a purgatory of your own design.
There is no coping skills against abuse
Someone, who really loves you won’t hurt you.
You can’t change you relationship orientation or sexuality to please a cheater. It will only continue to eat you alive.
Respect yourself, love yourself OP and leave this cheater.
Man but its fact that the reason was flawed in the first place and at this point the reason is probabbly dead in the water like she had an abusive ex before me she was a few months with she never blocked him or anything, but somehow she decided the first real guy she was with for 2 years and wanted to move in that I needed to be blocked even though i wanted no contact with her but she begged me to stay at least friends. There is so many mixed signals and emotions it really eats at me especially since she thinks I cheated and used our friends to stalk her and stuff i never did which makes it easier for her to hate me and believe im the bad guy and even after a year it can still bother me sometimes when i remember stuff abt her i just want the peace of mind at this point since reven tho she said and did many bad things i bring myself to hate her and not care at all :/
…they literally discussed meeting up while you’re at work. I’m unsure why you think this isn’t likely.
Long story. Don’t give her money.
Well, I know nothing of what they are doing so far. With that said, think about how he would be acting towards someone he has a crush, if he was single.
Tell him, you feel insecure regarding her, that you do not want him to cut her off, but you don't want their conversation to get intimate. You can also address how much they communicate if it affects your relationship with her. For example, if he interrupts your time together to message her, ask him to please not to do it.
You should also be the person he talks with about his feelings and worries. Tell you worry that she will be his emotional support, so he won't come to you with your problems and thoughts.
What do you care if he spirals? He's an ex. Don't be over-concerned. I think it's a good idea if you stop playing DND with that group, and you should also block him on socials. Enjoy your new relationship.
It is sexism. You can be statistically correct in saying that men are more likely than women to be violent, murder, abandon their partners, etc. That's fine. But once you generalize into the entire gender being trash because of that, that's sexism.
What percentage of men are violent criminals vs NOT doesn't criminals? What percentage have committed murder vs NOT committed murder? What percentage would abandon their spouse/offspring vs NOT abandoning them?
You can't say “men suck” as a rule while ignoring that there are also many good men, unless you are indeed being sexist.