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Do NOT go back. The way he has ups and downs and won’t let you even talk to him without shutting you down??? RED FLAG! Run.
it actually does make a lot of sense, a woman shouldn’t have to worry about a possible child, condoms aren’t 100%
i personally don’t care for them with my partner but that’s because i’m on birthcontrol (the implant) and we both don’t want kids, so he’ll be getting the snip eventually and agree that if an accident pregnancy happens, we get rid of it. i’ll probably stay on birth control because it helps w my period though.
Yes we are all selfish. When I fly i will always take an aisle seat. If my partner prefers to sit somewhere else I am fine. But usually they take the window in the same row and switch if someone is in the middle or sit in the opposite seat across the aisle
Marriage is definitely not the way to go with a woman who has already demonstrated controlling and violent tendencies. Use that engage,ent money for something that'll improve your life. It doesn't sound like she will.
Exactly. And it’s a very unsexy place to be.
I mean
I wouldn't be angry, just extremely sad.
I would ask her to reconsider, as i want her for myself.
Why should anyone else see her It's just the feeling of belonging.
Yk it's like how kids act when their mothers coddle some other kid.
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Yes but if Rick gets wind OP wants to talk to Mia, he is going to do damage control.
You didn't praise his height out of nowhere. They asked you what you liked about your boyfriend. Except if they specifically asked for personality traits, it is totally stupid to police your preferences. Why prefering guys with green eyes would be better than tall guys? Now, I don't like discussing physical preferences because usually people are blind to the “good” and “bad” criteria passed on by the media and think their tastes are 100% personal. But if you start the discussion, don't make it about your insecurities.
Do you guys think he’s going to scam me?
He already has hasn't he?
You got assaulted and he’s making your trauma about himself.
That’s fucked.
There are people who will help you without causing you to feel they’re focusing on anyone but you.
Not to excuse his behaviour, but you’ve said he said this often before you started dating and I am assuming he is saying this more “generically” versus trying to be hurtful. If so, then you need to anticipate that he will say it, hopefully not intentionally, until he can train his mind differently.
I think you need to reinforce that it is hurtful for you to hear the word, it’s a deal breaker long term, and that you will be working with him to stop saying that. I believe with time, this should decrease and stop being apart of his vocabulary. Now if it doesn’t seem like he is making any effort to stop, then that is a different story and you’ll need to re-evaluate the relationship.
I agree! This comes off to me as her being goofy and a bit of a brat. Not a terrible, immature person.
I have no experience with this, but I can’t see why it wouldn’t work, if you trust and respect each other and set boundaries etc then it should ideally work well.
I’d think long term though, regarding how it’s going to work. Will you ever live together again? What if she decides to stay there, will you move with her? Maybe attend therapy or counselling to help adjust to a new environment, or to come to an agreement? Just something to think about for the future. Children isn’t for everyone but that’s something to think about also if you have them or are planning to. Keeping the intimacy and romance is also important, will you see each other regularly, spend time at your home or hers, etc. Once you work out the kinks it could work well.
In the foreseeable future once our baby is a little older my husband will be moving back to London for work, we live about 400-500 miles north in the deep country at the mo. He’ll be coming back weekends, and we will also be spending 2:4 weeks there as well. I’m not thrilled about it as I’m worried about our intimacy and our son too of course, but it’s something that can work. If you’re happy, secure, have boundaries and still set aside time for your intimacy and relationship it shouldn’t be a problem!
He chose to leave for work (skeptical eyebrow raise) for a year and blames you for…not being there? While he was away, like he decided to be? He didn't HAVE to go. He could have chosen to find work that allowed him to stay close. He could have chosen to speak to you if he felt neglected. He could have chosen not to sleep with a ton of other women. He could have chosen not to be oddly proud of that fact.
Leave. He isn't remorseful, so he'll do it again. And he'll always say you're at fault.
I'm not sure, I didn't want to happen like this, maybe he will find someone who gives he everything he wants, even tho he says I'm all he wants, I'm pretty sure that some day he will get tired of this, I can't blame him.
His method is disgusting, foolish and very insensitive to everyone around him. What is he sooo afraid that plunging is going to do that he comes up with alternative gross methods??? Plunging poop does not hurt the toilet, really it doesn’t. I would not support teaching children rude, disgusting, pointless and selfish habits like this either.
Life is about compromises and in any good relationship people sacrifice to make it work. So if he's not willing to accommodate you on this career opportunity it'll say a lot about his level of commitment to you. There'll just never be a time as an adult when there won't be something pulling at your ability to spend time together. Better to know now if he's got what it takes to keep it all together. Maybe make a pact to stop “both crying” about it and to commit to accepting reality so you can grow together.
He won't get better, he will get worse. This is as good as your relationship with him will ever be, all the work you do won't change this. What the hell is wrong with you that you're so desperate to accept this??
That's not how I mean it. I meant, does the friend who sent you the videos have a grudge against your former fiance? Or, does the friend who sent you the videos have a reason to want the 2 of you broken up?
I believe that what the videos show is real.
I have taken into consideration it could be something like depression. He has struggled with weight his whole life. His mom and sibling are also very overweight. He grew up overweight and lost it all a few years before we met and started gaining it back shortly after. I feel like it was partially because he was spending so much time with me and not going to the gym much and then he just slowly stopped going all together. Im really afraid to mention anything to him about his weight or eating habits because I don’t want to say anything that could hurt him. When I do say things I say stuff like “I really want to start eating better and stop buying junk food, would you wanna do it with” or “I wanna go to the gym tomorrow you should come with”. Sometimes he says he will but then he doesn’t. I also tell him like “oh we have some extra money this week do you wanna go get a hair cut and then go shopping for a couple new outfits” and he same thing. He says sure but doesn’t. I wanna be able to encourage and motivate him to take better care of himself I just worry about hurting his feelings. I know these things aren’t fixable overnight especially weight issues which is why I would hate to make him feel insecure with me.
I see what you're saying, I do.. but I feel like it would only get worse. And the testimonies of others more or less confirm that. I also have to add that when we discussed the break up there was no sign on her part of trying to find a compromise. She agreed that she is not ok with me “believing in COVID”. I thought maybe, MAYBE she would think “ok, do I want to lose potentially a husband and a stable relationship because of something I've been reading on the internet in the past 3 years? maybe I could stop following that stuff and see where it goes”. None of that happened
It seems like a lot of men love the idea of having kids and doing all the fun stuff you mentioned.
What they don’t seem to consider are things like the impact of pregnancy and childbirth on a woman physically and emotionally, the loss of lifetime earning potential, the fact that it’s usually the woman who does all the heavy lifting, and so forth. When some women sit down and contemplate the impact of having kids on their life and dreams, it just doesn’t look like an awesome idea.
Break up and find someone who wants kids.
You ARE NOT ruining her family.
He ruined her family. PLEASE warn this woman what a douchey scumbag she is marrying before she's in too deep to make a clean break and start over.
And don't hold it against her if her first reaction is “shoot the messenger”. All you can do is give her the gift of Truth.
There is no greater Gift one human being can give to another, even if it takes her some time to realize that.
Please, PLEASE warn her. He will cheat on her with someone else. Might end up giving her a bad STD or bring some “Fatal Attraction” nutjob into her life.
I know it's hard and doesn't always feel good….but “Truth” is always the right answer.
Wow, kind of rude, my guy. Its only been a day, give people time.
Anyway:
You really need to talk to your partner about this oversharing first and foremost. It's fine to telk your best friend things, but if it is personal things that involve you, and you aren't comfortable with them being shared, you need to set that boundary firmly. If they can't follow it, maybe take a step back from the relationship and see if it is worth your time and energy.
Are you in therapy? You mentioned having a mental disorder, so it's possible that this could be skewing your perspective of things and a professional could help you figure this situation out. I know my own disorders can skew certain things for me, and my therapist really helped me figure out that that was what it was.
Again, talk to your partner. Ask them to be completely honest about whether or not this friend likes you. Tell them all that you said here, minus the sex part as you aren't certain that happened, and see what they say. If they continue to insist the friend likes you, you may need to ask if the three of you can have a heart to heart as the only way for this to end is everyone to be honest to each other.
If it turns out the friend does not infact like you, you're gonna have to evaluate how much their approval matters to you. If it doesn't bother your partner, and it doesn't effect your relationship, does it matter? Do their other friends like you? Does their family? The sad reality is not everyone is gonna like you. Even SO's best friends. And as long as they're not actively trying to sabotage your relationship, that's perfectly okay. Some people are just not other people's cup of tea.
So he is “traditional” but not pulling his end of the bargain – which is to provide financially. what a hypocrite. D I V O R C E