A very quick look at the subs about “JUSTNO” in laws will tell you that it is absolutely valid and reasonable to prioritize the mental health of your future spouse, your future kids and yourself.
Plus, not being abusive or involved into criminal activities doesn’t automatically make someone a keeper. You are entitled to have whatever dealbreakers you need and if you were constantly fighting about it, your ex obviously wasn’t planning on respecting your boundaries.
I get leaving your marriage, but the way you did it probably wasn't the best way to do it. You cheated. You were having an affair with a man you'd never met, who knew you were married, and still wanted a relationship with you. That should've been a red flag right there, and you were wrong for cheating on your husband. You could've gotten a divorce first and then gotten to know the other guy.
She has been to counselling and we both for sure have our issues. We’ve both been down that route. I tend to be a bit more active in my shadow work but she isn’t completely ignorant of hers. I have dreams where I know I am dreaming about a serious problem we’re having in the relationship but I just wake up in a bad mood and if she asks I just say I had a bad dream, because I don’t want to make her feel bad for what I’ve dreamt.
That’s exactly how I feel. They had a group chat where it was just his parents, his siblings, and their spouses. That was a running chat before me and I had no feelings about being added or not. But the fact that now the newest siblings girlfriend to the family was added to a whole family chat, I don’t even know how soon after they started dating and I have never been added really stings.
You're welcome. Sorry people are piling on to tell you how you can fix the problem instead of expecting your husband to give a fuck about you and how you feel. Super disappointing.
A very quick look at the subs about “JUSTNO” in laws will tell you that it is absolutely valid and reasonable to prioritize the mental health of your future spouse, your future kids and yourself.
Plus, not being abusive or involved into criminal activities doesn’t automatically make someone a keeper. You are entitled to have whatever dealbreakers you need and if you were constantly fighting about it, your ex obviously wasn’t planning on respecting your boundaries.
100% she cheated on you already and is projecting, time to end it my man, sorry to hear, some ppl r just not what we think they are
I get leaving your marriage, but the way you did it probably wasn't the best way to do it. You cheated. You were having an affair with a man you'd never met, who knew you were married, and still wanted a relationship with you. That should've been a red flag right there, and you were wrong for cheating on your husband. You could've gotten a divorce first and then gotten to know the other guy.
She has been to counselling and we both for sure have our issues. We’ve both been down that route. I tend to be a bit more active in my shadow work but she isn’t completely ignorant of hers. I have dreams where I know I am dreaming about a serious problem we’re having in the relationship but I just wake up in a bad mood and if she asks I just say I had a bad dream, because I don’t want to make her feel bad for what I’ve dreamt.
You know what to do.
Hire an attorney and serve him with divorce papers. Why are you even thinking of this second wedding thing?
That’s exactly how I feel. They had a group chat where it was just his parents, his siblings, and their spouses. That was a running chat before me and I had no feelings about being added or not. But the fact that now the newest siblings girlfriend to the family was added to a whole family chat, I don’t even know how soon after they started dating and I have never been added really stings.
was there a request for advice that i missed? what was the point of this post?
i donno if this is real .. 1 sentence was off.
“he’s a great man” mm no sis he ain’t !
But fuck IT IS RAPE .. and being a wife has nothing to do with it .
You need to get your things in order .. especially being there is kids in order
Too many red flags. Likely cheating.
Updateme!
You're welcome. Sorry people are piling on to tell you how you can fix the problem instead of expecting your husband to give a fuck about you and how you feel. Super disappointing.
Tf are you buying that you want to put 300k+ down? Just do the 150?