I'm curious about why you won't take birth control pills. There are more than one kind. What about an IUD?
The sex thing is easy. Tell him that you are at a point in life where you are not interested in casual. You want to find that guy for the rest of your life. So this is how it is going to play out. He does not have the make the commitment now or even later. You're going to let the relationship run it's course. You're going to decide if and when sex will happen. If you decide it's a no, you'll tell him and move on.
You know, just live your life. I also knew at 19 that I was absolutely going to marry the guy I was insanely in love with. Spoiler: I didn’t. I dated a handful of other men & got married at 28 to the finest man I’ve ever known. We’ve been together a really long time now – long enough to understand what a lifetime means.
You know what, though? I did love that 19yo as far as it went & I wouldn’t trade being in love like that for anything.
Just enjoy where you are. You have no reason to worry about what’s going to happen down the road.
Pro tip: don’t move in together or get engaged until you’ve been dating for at least 24 months. No matter how tempting it is, just don’t.
So I’m assuming you’re friends with the cheating wife and not the cheated husband, at least not directly ? I can understand that. In fact, I’ve been through that and I get it. Only that I’m a woman with an old group of guy friends -since high school, we’re all pushing 40 now; and one of these friends would cheated a couple of times, BUT my husband has never demanded I cut the friendship… or tried to tell me how to manage ANY of my friendships.
Now, while I was friendly with the gfs, whom I met through their relationship with my friend, and considered them friends at the time, my friend is the cheater ??♀️ so I kind of just stayed friends with him. His sex life kind of doesn’t have anything to do with me, as long as it’s with consenting adults, and even I can see he’s been trash to other women, as a friend, we’ve been through a lot and I love the guy. But I’m not going to make excuses for his shitty behavior.
Downvote!!! OMG I had to get a waffle maker because I can't eat pancakes since
I'm curious about why you won't take birth control pills. There are more than one kind. What about an IUD?
The sex thing is easy. Tell him that you are at a point in life where you are not interested in casual. You want to find that guy for the rest of your life. So this is how it is going to play out. He does not have the make the commitment now or even later. You're going to let the relationship run it's course. You're going to decide if and when sex will happen. If you decide it's a no, you'll tell him and move on.
You know, just live your life. I also knew at 19 that I was absolutely going to marry the guy I was insanely in love with. Spoiler: I didn’t. I dated a handful of other men & got married at 28 to the finest man I’ve ever known. We’ve been together a really long time now – long enough to understand what a lifetime means.
You know what, though? I did love that 19yo as far as it went & I wouldn’t trade being in love like that for anything.
Just enjoy where you are. You have no reason to worry about what’s going to happen down the road.
Pro tip: don’t move in together or get engaged until you’ve been dating for at least 24 months. No matter how tempting it is, just don’t.
So I’m assuming you’re friends with the cheating wife and not the cheated husband, at least not directly ? I can understand that. In fact, I’ve been through that and I get it. Only that I’m a woman with an old group of guy friends -since high school, we’re all pushing 40 now; and one of these friends would cheated a couple of times, BUT my husband has never demanded I cut the friendship… or tried to tell me how to manage ANY of my friendships.
Now, while I was friendly with the gfs, whom I met through their relationship with my friend, and considered them friends at the time, my friend is the cheater ??♀️ so I kind of just stayed friends with him. His sex life kind of doesn’t have anything to do with me, as long as it’s with consenting adults, and even I can see he’s been trash to other women, as a friend, we’ve been through a lot and I love the guy. But I’m not going to make excuses for his shitty behavior.