Wow, you’re a real romantic huh? Get a roommate. You don’t have time in your life or heart to share it with someone else. And that’s fine. We all have times in our life like that. But don’t act like she’s in the wrong for wanting a bar minimum relationship
If he is a perfct boyfriend he understands a “No, I'm not comfortable doing this. Don't ask no more.” He also doesn't go and cheat or leave you because one of his sexual fantasies didn't get fullfilled.
It seems the bigger problem here is that BIL has always been allowed to play out his cruel jokes without consequences. It needs to stop now.
If fiancée is uncomfortable with saying “No” to her I’ll mannered family member, I would just not bring it up anymore. But, in the meantime, tell the planner/venue supervisor that you have been warned about a family member planning to crash the wedding in an inappropriate costume and ask them to watch out for this, and to not allow entrance to this person. I would even go so far as to offer to pay extra for security at the door to block his entrance.
You help somebody cheat on their marriage your is guilty. Interestingly enough, I told myself that one time until I caused some real harm to somebody else’s life. Plus you created a baby at least I didn’t do that.
And what, you're out at an event, hanging with family and friends, doing things on social media with more and it is not rude for you to message him while he is off having time to himself?
Screw that, this is a you issue, you got no grounds for complaint. He does, he has grounds to ask you to give him more space and stop pestering him.
Dude, if this has you crying help, you’re going to be a hot mess when she leaves you for being overbearing. Someone she’s never met likes her TWEETS? Come on. Why are you even monitoring her account like this to know? Stop. Focus on your own shit and lighten up.
I think 6 to 9 year olds would have more decency to close the door when she's upset, instead of pointing and laughing. The guy is a tool, time to upgrade and trade that clunker in!
OP you are partially disabled. While you do have live I. Child Care and you help you are not reliable 100% of the time due to your disability. When you bring in another kid that means your wife will have to take care of him. He's a 13 year old likely with severe trauma that will need a lot of patience, care, and therapy. It's going to take a LONG time for this poor kid to feel functional.
You have 4 kids under 4. It sounds like your wife is the breadwinner and has to handle almost everything. She loves you but loves your kids more. The choices are 1) bring this kid in and hope for the best, but your other kids could be collateral damage 2) give you the time and space to figure out your relationship with him and separate while having a support system for your kids. 3) you fight this in court which is going to be costly (for you and her) and likely she will be able to move anyway. I can't see the courts siding with someone who is partially disabled and has flare ups where he's unable to take care of his kids without help. (This isn't your fault obviously it's just the reality)
I would suggest you get a lawyer for custody purposes. I would also suggest you think long and hard about how to be there for your son and make sure he gets all the support he needs. He will need lots of therapy, attention, love, patience and support.
You’re creepy because you’re dating a 22year old
You said it yourself that the relationship back then was immature. He’s got a lot of history now – I’d leave it alone.
Okay but how big are the titties lol
“Our rent is really good”
Wow, you’re a real romantic huh? Get a roommate. You don’t have time in your life or heart to share it with someone else. And that’s fine. We all have times in our life like that. But don’t act like she’s in the wrong for wanting a bar minimum relationship
Decide what you want. Go all in.
If he is a perfct boyfriend he understands a “No, I'm not comfortable doing this. Don't ask no more.” He also doesn't go and cheat or leave you because one of his sexual fantasies didn't get fullfilled.
I agree, he needs to break up with her. And then he needs to attend therapy because he has absolutely no right being in a relationship.
He didn't warn her, he threatened her. And then he carried through with said threat and continued the attack when she dodged.
It seems the bigger problem here is that BIL has always been allowed to play out his cruel jokes without consequences. It needs to stop now.
If fiancée is uncomfortable with saying “No” to her I’ll mannered family member, I would just not bring it up anymore. But, in the meantime, tell the planner/venue supervisor that you have been warned about a family member planning to crash the wedding in an inappropriate costume and ask them to watch out for this, and to not allow entrance to this person. I would even go so far as to offer to pay extra for security at the door to block his entrance.
If I saw another man inside my Partner, I wouldn't want to go near the dirty so and so again.
If you have such fantasies, stay single, simple as that, don't fuck with another persons head living out your fantasies.
You help somebody cheat on their marriage your is guilty. Interestingly enough, I told myself that one time until I caused some real harm to somebody else’s life. Plus you created a baby at least I didn’t do that.
And what, you're out at an event, hanging with family and friends, doing things on social media with more and it is not rude for you to message him while he is off having time to himself?
Screw that, this is a you issue, you got no grounds for complaint. He does, he has grounds to ask you to give him more space and stop pestering him.
Dude, if this has you crying help, you’re going to be a hot mess when she leaves you for being overbearing. Someone she’s never met likes her TWEETS? Come on. Why are you even monitoring her account like this to know? Stop. Focus on your own shit and lighten up.
I think 6 to 9 year olds would have more decency to close the door when she's upset, instead of pointing and laughing. The guy is a tool, time to upgrade and trade that clunker in!
OP you are partially disabled. While you do have live I. Child Care and you help you are not reliable 100% of the time due to your disability. When you bring in another kid that means your wife will have to take care of him. He's a 13 year old likely with severe trauma that will need a lot of patience, care, and therapy. It's going to take a LONG time for this poor kid to feel functional.
You have 4 kids under 4. It sounds like your wife is the breadwinner and has to handle almost everything. She loves you but loves your kids more. The choices are 1) bring this kid in and hope for the best, but your other kids could be collateral damage 2) give you the time and space to figure out your relationship with him and separate while having a support system for your kids. 3) you fight this in court which is going to be costly (for you and her) and likely she will be able to move anyway. I can't see the courts siding with someone who is partially disabled and has flare ups where he's unable to take care of his kids without help. (This isn't your fault obviously it's just the reality)
I would suggest you get a lawyer for custody purposes. I would also suggest you think long and hard about how to be there for your son and make sure he gets all the support he needs. He will need lots of therapy, attention, love, patience and support.