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Have you tried to simply talk to her about it, i.e. tell her you would really like to have a good relationship with her, ask if she wants the same and talk about how you can make that happen?
Hygiene issues and possible mental issues aside, it sounds like you really want to bond with your sister, but it also sounds like you already have a certain idea in your head about what that bond is going to look like.
If you want to have a good relationship, you have to meet here where she is at right now and not where you would ideally like her to be.
Tell him you’ll only be covering 50% of expenses from now on, so he can work or not work, but his half of the money needs to come from somewhere. You’re not his mommy.
How long have you been together? You're not giving a whole lot of context here, which makes it hard to give solid advice. I get a little annoyed when asked repeatedly if I'm annoyed, but that's just me. I would maybe give a little space. It sounds like it might be giving you anxiety? Which is a powerful emotion that can project and cause us to act on that by looking for reassurance. Depending on the stage of your relationship, this can be a turn-off. Give some space then ask her to dinner or coffee or something of interest and have an adult conversation about your feelings and insecurities. In the meantime, try not to spin out of control mentally. Do siding that YOU enjoy, AKA self-care. That's what will bring you peace which will be a welcoming powerful emotion that will attract positivity. If it's meant to be it will be, if it's not you'll grow from it and hopefully learn more about yourself.
You do realize there are people who present as entirely under control but are actually incredibly drunk right? Expecting every man to understand the limits of every woman is unreasonable and unrealistic. Expecting every person, women included, to know their own limits and manage their own lives is both reasonable and realistic.
Wow you are controlling and overreacting. Friending her just because she talked to your boyfriend when you don’t even know her is super creepy. I’d be embarrassed by your behavior.
There's not much else to do here. You want to spend more time with him, and he never wants to do it. You could maybe try giving him an ultimatum, maybe that will wake him up. Otherwise you just need to go your separate ways probably.
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Have you tried to simply talk to her about it, i.e. tell her you would really like to have a good relationship with her, ask if she wants the same and talk about how you can make that happen?
Hygiene issues and possible mental issues aside, it sounds like you really want to bond with your sister, but it also sounds like you already have a certain idea in your head about what that bond is going to look like.
If you want to have a good relationship, you have to meet here where she is at right now and not where you would ideally like her to be.
Tell him you’ll only be covering 50% of expenses from now on, so he can work or not work, but his half of the money needs to come from somewhere. You’re not his mommy.
Make sure when you get a chance to thank and reward the friend that sent you the head's up video. Sorry for this unfortunate event in your life.
And u don’t deserve to get married nor have friends again
Omg leave him.
How long have you been together? You're not giving a whole lot of context here, which makes it hard to give solid advice. I get a little annoyed when asked repeatedly if I'm annoyed, but that's just me. I would maybe give a little space. It sounds like it might be giving you anxiety? Which is a powerful emotion that can project and cause us to act on that by looking for reassurance. Depending on the stage of your relationship, this can be a turn-off. Give some space then ask her to dinner or coffee or something of interest and have an adult conversation about your feelings and insecurities. In the meantime, try not to spin out of control mentally. Do siding that YOU enjoy, AKA self-care. That's what will bring you peace which will be a welcoming powerful emotion that will attract positivity. If it's meant to be it will be, if it's not you'll grow from it and hopefully learn more about yourself.
You do realize there are people who present as entirely under control but are actually incredibly drunk right? Expecting every man to understand the limits of every woman is unreasonable and unrealistic. Expecting every person, women included, to know their own limits and manage their own lives is both reasonable and realistic.
Wow you are controlling and overreacting. Friending her just because she talked to your boyfriend when you don’t even know her is super creepy. I’d be embarrassed by your behavior.
Cantaloupe is tasty
There's not much else to do here. You want to spend more time with him, and he never wants to do it. You could maybe try giving him an ultimatum, maybe that will wake him up. Otherwise you just need to go your separate ways probably.