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I think you should leave him because he definitely deserves better
Power move: invite Jackie for dinner
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You are probably right!
Oof – that sucks, /u/queermirrorball and I have nothing but sympathy for you. I've been where you are, and it took me three times to break up with her, and decades of therapy to recover from the experience. You are self-aware enough to know that you don't want to be in the relationship and that it's actively hurting you. That's all you need to know to break up. Here's the thing tho – breaking up isn't a negotiation. If you don't want to be with her, you don't have to. If she does something, that's her responsibility – you can't MAKE her do anything. She CHOOSES what to do.
The good news is that most of the time, threats of suicide are merely manipulations to control the other person. It's a bluff, intended to keep you in the relationship, and the person making the threat has no intention of doing it.
BUT:
Even if it's not, and she tries to kill herself, none of the responsibility for that is on you. If she tries to kill herself, that's HER choice, and HER responsibility. It sucks that she's doing this, and it's scary as fuck – but between that blatant emotional manipulation, and physically putting hands on you, you don't owe her anything.
She needs therapy – trauma and abuse informed therapy. You are not obligated to stay in a relationship that is harming you, in any way. Since this is /r/relationship_advice, I'll tell you what I think you should do: Break up with her, and if she threatens suicide while you're doing it, call the police and ask them to intervene. Call her friends, and ask that someone come be with her. And then walk away. Because that's where your responsibilities end.
Don't talk to her after you break up with her. Block her on your socials. Block her phone number. Filter any emails. If friends try to tell you about her, stop them and tell them that you don't want to know. And then work with a therapist yourself to recover from the trauma of this. Because, if you don't talk about it, it WILL end up haunting you until you do. And the longer you go without getting guidance and support about this, the harder it will be to recover.
I get that you care about her – but you're NOT responsible for her. You're responsible for YOU first. YOU are being damaged by the relationship. Take care of /u/queermirrorball and let her deal with her own issues. I hope that you find yourself in a peaceful and safe place in your life very soon. If you need to talk, my DMs are open.
yes but were they NEW female friends? Or female friends he had before you guys met?
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And her friend is even worse for making his ex talk her through her feelings for him. Both horrible people, I hope their relationship blows up in their faces?♀️
Well if it isn't the consequences of your own actions
Thats still not the same lmao you need to think with some more nuance than “follow your oaths”
I disagree. You can demand he's cut. Because not cutting him off means he's still in your life.
This will impact your job, your clearance, your finances, etc. What happens if your wife invites him over when you're not home and a different cousin or niece is around?
You never have to have sex if you don't want to. Have you considered couple's counseling to figure out what the issue is and if it can be fixed?
Does respecting your partner's feelings work both ways? She is literally imposing restrictions on his career, and phrasing it like he doesn't respect her if he doesn't follow it. To me that would be disrespectful enough to leave I think.
Your sister did do you a favor. He's a complete cheater.
As someone that loved to party in my late teens, early 20s, I find their excuse flimsy as best, bullshit at worst. When I had commitments, even if I was hung over, I had to find a way to suck it up and go. In your case, I would have set my alarm clock, showed up hung over, told you I was hung over and asks for coffee and lots of water. Their shit excuse also neglects to explain why they just blew you off, unless they live in caves and have no cell phones and text ability’s.
I know you feel bad but look at this, you just did some weeding out who the real friends actually are. Find more like your real friend and ditch the selfish losers.
At minimum, stand next to him amd watch him delete every picture and video. And then break-up anyway.
OP, This is experience talking: GET. OUT. RIGHT. NOW. Build a bug-put bag and go. This man is abusive. This behavior is abusive. It is not normal. It WILL escalate. He won't apologize because he's selfish, self absorbed and, frankly he needs help. Not the kind you can give him. The kind a doctor can give him.
Please, PLEASE leave.
Is he doing things he can’t explain more often? Early onset dementia? Psychosis? Was part of his brain removed? Either those or he’s an absolute jerk and I have sneaking suspicion it’s the latter.
NTA You should’ve been told that someone was coming over especially right after you get home after work. It isn’t your responsibility to greet everyone with incredibly energy and openness after a hard day, especially when it’s your wife’s friend and you don’t even know they’re over