A lot of the time she will be receptive to my feelings and want to talk to me about them, however its incredibly hard to know whether she will talk reasonably or feel attacked and blow up. She can get really emotional and says stuff she doesn't mean (she will backtrack and tell me she didn't mean it the next day sometimes).
4 years in, you are not going to want to listen to this.. but if this doesn’t escalate until it ends up with you in jail, it could still end with your life ruined. She has mental fucking problems, she can’t reconcile her delusional, belief system with the reality of being a human being. She’s going to make those problems your problem, so the best case scenario is that you end up just as mentally damaged as her, gaslit into believing you’re a rapist and a deviant. The worst case is that this escalates until she tells everyone you know that you’re abusing her. That can lead to you losing friends, family, your career, or even ending up in handcuffs.
You need to get away from her, but I would not bring up this situation ever again, and avoid giving it as the reason you are leaving. Depending on your options, I would probably not give her any reason whatsoever, I would just leave at this point. You are sitting on a powder keg: if you stay, this is going to escalate, but if you leave incorrectly, she is going to tell the world some insane, delusional story about how you are some kind of sexual predator who abused her.
Wow you said it really well, tonight i'm most likely going to have a talk to her about this whole thing and what I truly think about it. I'll be sure to pick out some points out of this.
She asked you to go through her phone and make space then blamed you when you didn’t like what you found? That’s called blame shifting. Your feelings being hurt are valid, if she can’t acknowledge that, then she isn’t a better person now.
Unsure on what to do about this
Myself, as a man who has zero faith in any God…………this event would have sent me to the pulpit, post haste…….?
I've seen this before. She's got problems. It's probably not worth it.
A lot of the time she will be receptive to my feelings and want to talk to me about them, however its incredibly hard to know whether she will talk reasonably or feel attacked and blow up. She can get really emotional and says stuff she doesn't mean (she will backtrack and tell me she didn't mean it the next day sometimes).
Good time to ask for a raise!
4 years in, you are not going to want to listen to this.. but if this doesn’t escalate until it ends up with you in jail, it could still end with your life ruined. She has mental fucking problems, she can’t reconcile her delusional, belief system with the reality of being a human being. She’s going to make those problems your problem, so the best case scenario is that you end up just as mentally damaged as her, gaslit into believing you’re a rapist and a deviant. The worst case is that this escalates until she tells everyone you know that you’re abusing her. That can lead to you losing friends, family, your career, or even ending up in handcuffs.
You need to get away from her, but I would not bring up this situation ever again, and avoid giving it as the reason you are leaving. Depending on your options, I would probably not give her any reason whatsoever, I would just leave at this point. You are sitting on a powder keg: if you stay, this is going to escalate, but if you leave incorrectly, she is going to tell the world some insane, delusional story about how you are some kind of sexual predator who abused her.
Creative writing. Does anyone really believe this? Come on.
No offense but your wife is nuts lol
This sounds like healthy progress. Good for you!
Wow you said it really well, tonight i'm most likely going to have a talk to her about this whole thing and what I truly think about it. I'll be sure to pick out some points out of this.
Something about it feels like a malicious set up.
Do you know how much he makes?
Like, really know? Do you see the original paychecks?
She asked you to go through her phone and make space then blamed you when you didn’t like what you found? That’s called blame shifting. Your feelings being hurt are valid, if she can’t acknowledge that, then she isn’t a better person now.
…Do you guys ever have sex? If he's literally ever been behind you, he's seen your butthole before
Where do people find these disrespectful fucking clowns and decide it’s a great idea to marry them?