See, this is the real issue, that you do want that constant check in and you’re masking it with saying you are worried. It’s not fair to set your partner up for failure if they do what you ask but you claim it “doesn’t count” if you had to communicate your needs. Expecting clairvoyance in relationships will always leave you resentful.
Speaking of communication, it seems you both aren’t great at it. You are both demanding to have things exactly your way without compromise. You want this end of night check in, he doesn’t want to feel like he’s having tabs kept on him. If you would just communicate that you feel love through words, and would like, at any point in the night, just some kind words, instead of demanding a specific time check in with the threat of a panic attack, then he might meet you half way after not feeling like he is being tracked. He also needs to understand that he has to bend a bit for others feelings in a relationship, and could do you a solid in just a gesture in the night that he is thinking of you.
I think this starts with you, because the way you have sold this is in a tracking manner, which he does not like and is clearly pushing against. Talk to him about what you really need.
Good luck and don't you dare lose weight and change for him, do it for yourself.
See, this is the real issue, that you do want that constant check in and you’re masking it with saying you are worried. It’s not fair to set your partner up for failure if they do what you ask but you claim it “doesn’t count” if you had to communicate your needs. Expecting clairvoyance in relationships will always leave you resentful.
Speaking of communication, it seems you both aren’t great at it. You are both demanding to have things exactly your way without compromise. You want this end of night check in, he doesn’t want to feel like he’s having tabs kept on him. If you would just communicate that you feel love through words, and would like, at any point in the night, just some kind words, instead of demanding a specific time check in with the threat of a panic attack, then he might meet you half way after not feeling like he is being tracked. He also needs to understand that he has to bend a bit for others feelings in a relationship, and could do you a solid in just a gesture in the night that he is thinking of you.
I think this starts with you, because the way you have sold this is in a tracking manner, which he does not like and is clearly pushing against. Talk to him about what you really need.
Yeah I've never used the same pet name for anyone.
She may not use it because it reminds her of her ex.
Couldn’t agree more, the edit speaks volumes to why he said he doesn’t consider her to be “wife material” and why she didn’t know what that meant.
I mean we still have sex. It’s just blow jobs that have stopped so I would still consider it mild
There is a reason he's with someone your age because it's easier to manipulate.
Dump him, and women his own age wouldn't put up with him.