How people deal with them is important. You can talk to him, and say that you know how much he's hurting and you're sorry, but that it's not right that he behaves like this to his family -add specific examples –
Or you can leave him if it's a deal breaker for you. Now his father is dying, in the future there will be more relatives passing, or he'll have a bad time with work, or whatever. Life is shitty sometimes, for everyone. It's up to you to decide what's forgivable and what's not.
Secrets like that are a giant red flag. If you feel like your friend is making a dangerous choice, you as a true friend should do everything you can to help her realize how dangerous it is
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Your boyfriend is selfish and cruel. Please don’t continue to waste time with this person.
I’ve lost my sex drive for weeks at a time after experiencing loss and dealing with grief. Know what my husband did? Took care of himself and didn’t pressure me for sex while I recovered. Also continued to treat me with kindness and didn’t “punish” me emotionally.
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Honestly, please do get solo therapy. Many people raise children in a co-parenting relationship and do it well. Don't let your bad experience with your stepfather lead you into a very unhappy marriage.
Did your husband get STI testing before you and he slept together?
Throwing your family with young kids upside down to chase an online affair is objectively a pretty shitty move however you want to gussy it up with self-justifying psychobabble excuses and qualifications. However, what's done is done. Now you're fighting him for a chunk of his retirement because you belatedly realize you will have the short end of the stick financially due to your decisions.
Do not expect your kids to appreciate or admire your decision-making as they get older and understand the magnitude of what you did based on an infatuation. They may be polite now because of proximity but as they age and mature and put your decisions and actions in context, your actions will seem less and less acceptable to them, and they will eventually have a low-level resentment as their baseline attitude towards you. It's not here now but I guarantee you it's coming when they grow up and fully grasp what you did.
He needs to tell her point blank it is not going to be reciprocated and to not make advances at him. Politely. Tell her to skip a couple game nights if she needs to but she’s welcome otherwise.
She’s the awkward one- y’all are fine if he sets that firm boundary.
Surveys find coworkers are the #1 source of affair partners. Plus his behavior is already escalated to a point where it's an EA.
Please read: Note Just Friends by Dr Shirley Glass.
It's based on research of couples that experienced infidelity. Good people that did not intend to cheat and weren't even initially physically attracted – and thought they were just friends/and in control of their emotions.
Lessons learned and how to manage friends so they don't threaten your primary relationship.
This book will enable you to intelligently discuss his relationship without sounding insecure or jealous. If he says it doesn't apply to him, then you already lost him.
His job is very physical so he's probably legitimately tired at the end of the day. Top tier dancers put their bodies through a lot every day. You can offer to take him to dinner once in a while but to expect that money is his only reason for preferring nights in probably isn't an accurate assessment of the situation.
it you reversed the genders and he was going into her room when she was naked and straddling her people would shout sexual predator.
Hard times happen.
How people deal with them is important. You can talk to him, and say that you know how much he's hurting and you're sorry, but that it's not right that he behaves like this to his family -add specific examples –
Or you can leave him if it's a deal breaker for you. Now his father is dying, in the future there will be more relatives passing, or he'll have a bad time with work, or whatever. Life is shitty sometimes, for everyone. It's up to you to decide what's forgivable and what's not.
Secrets like that are a giant red flag. If you feel like your friend is making a dangerous choice, you as a true friend should do everything you can to help her realize how dangerous it is
I would too if she stays she’s crazy
Retort with a ring and a compromise of once we're married.
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I would be petty and take a screenshot. Post it on sm. Tag her.
Your boyfriend is selfish and cruel. Please don’t continue to waste time with this person.
I’ve lost my sex drive for weeks at a time after experiencing loss and dealing with grief. Know what my husband did? Took care of himself and didn’t pressure me for sex while I recovered. Also continued to treat me with kindness and didn’t “punish” me emotionally.
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Honestly, please do get solo therapy. Many people raise children in a co-parenting relationship and do it well. Don't let your bad experience with your stepfather lead you into a very unhappy marriage.
Did your husband get STI testing before you and he slept together?
Is it Lin Manuel Miranda?
If he won't change, this relationship isn't sustainable.
The only way he is going to change is if he can understand that lack of hygiene is a problem.
If you can't help him understand this, then you may need to seek the help of a professional, if he's open to it.
Throwing your family with young kids upside down to chase an online affair is objectively a pretty shitty move however you want to gussy it up with self-justifying psychobabble excuses and qualifications. However, what's done is done. Now you're fighting him for a chunk of his retirement because you belatedly realize you will have the short end of the stick financially due to your decisions.
Do not expect your kids to appreciate or admire your decision-making as they get older and understand the magnitude of what you did based on an infatuation. They may be polite now because of proximity but as they age and mature and put your decisions and actions in context, your actions will seem less and less acceptable to them, and they will eventually have a low-level resentment as their baseline attitude towards you. It's not here now but I guarantee you it's coming when they grow up and fully grasp what you did.
You may be able to subpoena them during the divorce proceedings.
He needs to tell her point blank it is not going to be reciprocated and to not make advances at him. Politely. Tell her to skip a couple game nights if she needs to but she’s welcome otherwise.
She’s the awkward one- y’all are fine if he sets that firm boundary.
Surveys find coworkers are the #1 source of affair partners. Plus his behavior is already escalated to a point where it's an EA.
Please read: Note Just Friends by Dr Shirley Glass.
It's based on research of couples that experienced infidelity. Good people that did not intend to cheat and weren't even initially physically attracted – and thought they were just friends/and in control of their emotions.
Lessons learned and how to manage friends so they don't threaten your primary relationship.
This book will enable you to intelligently discuss his relationship without sounding insecure or jealous. If he says it doesn't apply to him, then you already lost him.
They told her the letter exists. They shouldn't have done that but didn't realize that at the time. It wasn't malicious.
His job is very physical so he's probably legitimately tired at the end of the day. Top tier dancers put their bodies through a lot every day. You can offer to take him to dinner once in a while but to expect that money is his only reason for preferring nights in probably isn't an accurate assessment of the situation.
Why are you obsessed with her life instead of putting energy into yourself?
Gonna have to try harder on this writing exercise
Why the fuck do you believe her though? You think she wouldn’t show it if she actually wanted you? Wake up
Why the fuck do you believe her though? You think she wouldn’t show it if she actually wanted you? Wake up
While I appreciate the feedback I don't really care.
Oh no, that’s actually a good explanation. In his sentence he added “?” I’m currently waiting for a response, so I’m gonna find out soon