I think you need to tell her. It's clearly something she wants to know, lying to her it trying to hide it is not going to work. If it ends the relationship, then you probably weren't right for each other anyway.
Yes, there is value in not disclosing the crush to the BF. I think there needs to be more discussion about that. If the bestie does the healthy thing and withdraws for a while, I don't think that OP necessarily needs to invade bestie's privacy to explain the besties absence to the BF.
Wait what? That’s none of your business. It’s your friend that’s pregnant, it’s your friend that knows him, it’s your friend that dumped him, it’s your friend that has made the choice not to reach out. It would be a massive overstepping of boundaries to trample on her decisions because you think you know best. And he’s in a relationship. Wow.
I had met my husband before moving and the choice to move was mostly mine due to a job offer. We got married after we relocated. I left all of my friends and family.
However, I have noticed over time that my husband is becoming more and more controlling about me having any contact with males, even in my line of work (which is a male dominated industry), and it's becoming increasingly suffocating.
No one should be pressured to make permanent alterations to their body by someone else. Especially if the relationship is already on the rocks.
And I know what you are going to say. “vasectomies are reversible”. Yes, they are. Up to a certain point. But as any doctor worth their degree would tell you, you should treat it as permanent. Because there is a very real chance you will never be able to reverse it, and even if it is successfully reversed, it will likely still negatively effect your virility.
Vasectomy, or any other procedure aimed at permanently sterilising someone, should always be decided by the person getting the procedure. Without outside influence and pressure. I got mine done, because i don't want kids. Not because of my partner's wants or needs. But because I decided so, and it was my decision to make.
How old are you, and how old is your baby brother? This isn’t about salsa.
I think you need to tell her. It's clearly something she wants to know, lying to her it trying to hide it is not going to work. If it ends the relationship, then you probably weren't right for each other anyway.
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Walk away and find peace!! Go sleep on a friend's couch and get a divorce lawyer!!
I do this every time my wife tries to shush me when I'm winning argument, works every time. She's always so surprised I licked her lol.
Yes, there is value in not disclosing the crush to the BF. I think there needs to be more discussion about that. If the bestie does the healthy thing and withdraws for a while, I don't think that OP necessarily needs to invade bestie's privacy to explain the besties absence to the BF.
Wait what? That’s none of your business. It’s your friend that’s pregnant, it’s your friend that knows him, it’s your friend that dumped him, it’s your friend that has made the choice not to reach out. It would be a massive overstepping of boundaries to trample on her decisions because you think you know best. And he’s in a relationship. Wow.
Thanks for your comment.
I had met my husband before moving and the choice to move was mostly mine due to a job offer. We got married after we relocated. I left all of my friends and family.
However, I have noticed over time that my husband is becoming more and more controlling about me having any contact with males, even in my line of work (which is a male dominated industry), and it's becoming increasingly suffocating.
God damn what an update
No one should be pressured to make permanent alterations to their body by someone else. Especially if the relationship is already on the rocks.
And I know what you are going to say. “vasectomies are reversible”. Yes, they are. Up to a certain point. But as any doctor worth their degree would tell you, you should treat it as permanent. Because there is a very real chance you will never be able to reverse it, and even if it is successfully reversed, it will likely still negatively effect your virility.
Vasectomy, or any other procedure aimed at permanently sterilising someone, should always be decided by the person getting the procedure. Without outside influence and pressure. I got mine done, because i don't want kids. Not because of my partner's wants or needs. But because I decided so, and it was my decision to make.