If you mean the effort and work to bring into the relationship then it should be 100/100 not 50/50.
Just remember, it's not always perfect and some of the time you will be carrying the other and vice versa. You're a team. Communicate well and pull your weight.
For a fresh perspective: imagine anything but her beauty.
Her cooking. Imagine if you had to say anything not cooked by her tasted unpalatable.
Her music. No, love, only your violin by itself is music to my ears. All other instruments or musicians are rubbish.
Her voice. Please, take the phone. There is a woman calling and her voice is terrible.
My wife would have been happier if I looked like John Travolta, and I'd be over the moon if she looked more like Jessica Alba. So very glad we are much more concerned about other things, because neither of us look like movie stars of any type.
Imagine your wife stretching it to non humans. “What do you mean that puppy is cute?!”
Lol are you seriously thinking you’ll feel better when you beat him up? Okay go try- let me know how that goes. I promise you instant gratification does not last. They will still be together later. Doing the things and going to the places you were supposed to go. You’re living in the past right now instead of looking towards your future- that’s the issue
Start talking to folks on Instagram and let them know that your place will be free because she’s going over there. How do you think she’d react?
Look, she’s not great at communicating. You’re both supposed to be supportive of each other.
She’s either oblivious, emotionally cheating, physically cheating, not good at setting boundaries, whatever the combination might be, you’re upset and she’s not even taking a step in your direction to understand your frustrations. Even if she was oblivious and not setting boundaries, she’s not taking to you and addressing your concerns.
Think deep and hard if you think that she will change that type of behavior in the next month, six months, year, five years. Are you okay with this behavior going forward forever because that’s usually the conclusion if everything is going well. Otherwise it ends in breaking up or divorce.
Well what is more important to you, this competition you’ve been training for for a very long time and is important to you or your double standard having girlfriend with insecurity issues?
Everyone is allowed to be insecure about things. That’s only human. You’re not allowed to use those insecurities to control someone else’s behavior the way she’s trying to do here.
In reality if you were going to cheat on your girlfriend on this trip you’re going to do it regardless. The room you’re assigned isn’t going to make a difference.
If she wants to break up over something trivial and is causing this big of a ruckus about it then so be it, let her.
Yeah, but to him; “his memory is better than mine” and he knows he's correct. So he's mad that I'm being “bizarre” and he won't move on from it. Rather avoid me
I think that it would be really helpful for you to have someone neutral to talk with. I like therapy, and I think you would too. I also feel like there are a few different emotions being overlapped here. I think that you are a little bit insecure about how introverted you are. And that maybe these comments from the gf aren't as targeted as they seem. Some people say, “what would you without me?” When they are scared their partner is going to leave them as well. Maybe she can feel you slightly pulling away?
I think it would be great if you sat down with her and had a “roommate talk.” I put that in quotes because it's important to separate relationship issues and roommate issues and right now your clearest problem is a roommate problem. Tell her that you have been feeling a little couped up in your solitude, and that it would be really helpful for your mental health if you could discuss the division of roommate responsibilities in concrete ways. You should also say it's because you feel like it's more lopsided right now.
I don't think there's enough here to see if she's taking advantage (personally doesn't seem like it to me. Some people just have a hard time noticing their slop:clean ratio), but I definitely wouldn't say to just break up over it.
You should tell her parents before she tries to spin it onto you. If they're as good of people as you believe them to be, they will be on your side with this.
You should tell her parents before she tries to spin it onto you. If they're as good of people as you believe them to be, they will be on your side with this.
Just because she is young doesn't mean she didn't cheat on him.
If you mean the effort and work to bring into the relationship then it should be 100/100 not 50/50.
Just remember, it's not always perfect and some of the time you will be carrying the other and vice versa. You're a team. Communicate well and pull your weight.
Maybe he just doesn't like it.
Dreams are just your brain doing whatever it chooses to do at night.
While they can reflect your mindset at times, they don't have any deeper meaning to the point of seeing them as a meaningful sign.
For a fresh perspective: imagine anything but her beauty.
Her cooking. Imagine if you had to say anything not cooked by her tasted unpalatable.
Her music. No, love, only your violin by itself is music to my ears. All other instruments or musicians are rubbish.
Her voice. Please, take the phone. There is a woman calling and her voice is terrible.
My wife would have been happier if I looked like John Travolta, and I'd be over the moon if she looked more like Jessica Alba. So very glad we are much more concerned about other things, because neither of us look like movie stars of any type.
Imagine your wife stretching it to non humans. “What do you mean that puppy is cute?!”
That really is unfortunate. I'm not sure if there was a withdrawal limit, but he was at least able to take out some of the money. How much is unknown!
I would completely agree with you there.
Lol are you seriously thinking you’ll feel better when you beat him up? Okay go try- let me know how that goes. I promise you instant gratification does not last. They will still be together later. Doing the things and going to the places you were supposed to go. You’re living in the past right now instead of looking towards your future- that’s the issue
Start talking to folks on Instagram and let them know that your place will be free because she’s going over there. How do you think she’d react?
Look, she’s not great at communicating. You’re both supposed to be supportive of each other.
She’s either oblivious, emotionally cheating, physically cheating, not good at setting boundaries, whatever the combination might be, you’re upset and she’s not even taking a step in your direction to understand your frustrations. Even if she was oblivious and not setting boundaries, she’s not taking to you and addressing your concerns.
Think deep and hard if you think that she will change that type of behavior in the next month, six months, year, five years. Are you okay with this behavior going forward forever because that’s usually the conclusion if everything is going well. Otherwise it ends in breaking up or divorce.
Well what is more important to you, this competition you’ve been training for for a very long time and is important to you or your double standard having girlfriend with insecurity issues?
Everyone is allowed to be insecure about things. That’s only human. You’re not allowed to use those insecurities to control someone else’s behavior the way she’s trying to do here.
In reality if you were going to cheat on your girlfriend on this trip you’re going to do it regardless. The room you’re assigned isn’t going to make a difference.
If she wants to break up over something trivial and is causing this big of a ruckus about it then so be it, let her.
Yeah, but to him; “his memory is better than mine” and he knows he's correct. So he's mad that I'm being “bizarre” and he won't move on from it. Rather avoid me
I think that it would be really helpful for you to have someone neutral to talk with. I like therapy, and I think you would too. I also feel like there are a few different emotions being overlapped here. I think that you are a little bit insecure about how introverted you are. And that maybe these comments from the gf aren't as targeted as they seem. Some people say, “what would you without me?” When they are scared their partner is going to leave them as well. Maybe she can feel you slightly pulling away?
I think it would be great if you sat down with her and had a “roommate talk.” I put that in quotes because it's important to separate relationship issues and roommate issues and right now your clearest problem is a roommate problem. Tell her that you have been feeling a little couped up in your solitude, and that it would be really helpful for your mental health if you could discuss the division of roommate responsibilities in concrete ways. You should also say it's because you feel like it's more lopsided right now.
I don't think there's enough here to see if she's taking advantage (personally doesn't seem like it to me. Some people just have a hard time noticing their slop:clean ratio), but I definitely wouldn't say to just break up over it.
like i mentioned that im planning to get married late so im not looking for a relationship, then she’s like yeah me too
Excellent praxis. Keep flexing it.
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You should tell her parents before she tries to spin it onto you. If they're as good of people as you believe them to be, they will be on your side with this.
This is a bullet dodged.
You should tell her parents before she tries to spin it onto you. If they're as good of people as you believe them to be, they will be on your side with this.
This is a bullet dodged.
Dude wants to get back to his bad ex0 and when is doesn't work out, he will be chasing you again
Lol keep going, this is pro trolling
No, just no…any possible chemistry was nuked by all the red flags.
Why does he ask TODAY then?
He STILL doesn't KNOW any better now then he knew back then!
He ASSUMES, because of “his mom saw ressemblances”.