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You were invited and chose not to go. You asked him to find someone else to go with them and he did. You expecting him to cancel because you weren't going and to just know that's what you wanted him to do is ridiculous. If you wanted him to do a specific thing (or not) you should have told him directly rather than constantly moving the goalposts for him.
You're upset because of your own choices.
Racist moment
He’s plain selfish, run.
Unless someone has a kink lmao
yes!! you hit the nail on the head here.
I grew up in a very conservative state where women are routinely shamed for their bodies. My *family* culture, however, was quite different. I saw my parents naked all the time growing up, and even asked questions about the human body as a kid that I never would have thought to ask otherwise if I was made to fear or villify nudity.
“Why do you have that scar on your belly?” turned into an informative conversations about natural birth vs C-sections. “How come one of your breasts is different than the other?” turned into a conversation about human body diversity. “Why do you have hair there?” was a great segue into discussing how I would eventually hit puberty.
These were all important lessons, taught with love, that occurred organically and as the result of my natural curiosity.
I was on a swim team when I was a child, so I saw lots and lots of naked bodies growing up. When I got older and heard some girls making fun of another girl in the showers, I was first to say, “Everyone's body is different and develops differently, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. you just sound insecure, which you don't have to be, because you're beautiful in your own way, too”. that response came naturally to me, because of how I was raised.
I have never hated my body, or questioned its validity, and I genuinely beleive that is in large part due to being exposed to body diversity so young, and having those conversations with my mother, her friends, other elder women in saunas, in the locker room, skinny dipping in lakes. and I'm grateful for those lessons.
“Don't EVER let anyone tell you that your body is a source of shame to be covered up”, my mom said to me once. “But be cautious around men. Cautious, but never ashamed.”
I wish we taught more children this.
You should get counseling hun. I say this with kindness. ❤️
I don't think bringing it up would really help, it would just hurt her.
I also think it's problematic to moralize your own sexuality too much. Being into a certain body type is not reprehensible. You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. You can have great sex even if your partner is not 100% what you find visually attractive. Good sex is more than that. Take a relaxed approach, maybe combine the new sexy lingerie with other new things you want to try together and don't put yourself under pressure. Sex is supposed to be about having fun, and guilt doesn't help with thatY
If you try it and it doesn't work out, maybe a (sex) therapist would be a good person to talk to.
You and your girlfriend could also do more sports together, cook healthy meals, etc. This way, the problem may solve itself.
I can accept that, yeah. We were putting away groceries and I found it and before throwing it just looked at it. I know she hates Red Bulls and I was just curious. But I do see how that could be the case. I need to work on myself on that part. Prior to this with our rocky month we both agreed that therapy was a good idea for us both to be better with our habits and behaviors.
I would tell him he can get the paternity test and divorce papers at the same time. He has no reason not to trust you. He’s listening to his friends so he can go live with them too.
Important to remember that in some places (like where I am in Australia) you might be limited to only two people at the appointment (COVID). Make sure you look into this beforehand so you don't get blindsided if that's the case.
Yeah, buddy…if you aren’t even through a “cool off” period with the ex, why are we moving in with someone else. The cool off implies you need time to get past the emotional part before you deal with logistics in a mature manner. So how can you move in with someone when you are admittedly still in the emotional part?
In your update you say you got the appliances needed. So while my opinion is you need to fix this rushing in somehow, like move out, if you aren’t willing to do that, you need to tell Jane to cool it. If you have everything you need and your share of bills are being paid, this does not concern her. You are not married, and that money does not automatically become hers. OP, I’m going to tell you that with this pettiness and pushing, she thinks it does. Is that what you want? A woman so concerned with your money she is willing to make things painful and awkward?
You will get it all taken care of, it sounds like you are on your way to it, and I commend you for making sure this was as amicable as possible, but look around you! You can’t be over and eight year relationship of this level in a couple of months! Now you have a woman demanding money that isn’t hers living with you! What happened here OP?
Get out of that apartment, this isn’t going to end well regardless.
I am glad that it’s all on paper. But, sweetheart, he is still married to his wife in every real sense of the word, sans sexual relationship.
You need to give some sort of ultimatum. Where you two get your own place together.
Shut it down now. You're not looking at this as friendly, you want something more. Shut it down don't be selfish.
That is not your problem. Maybe she can go to the guy she cheated on you with? You have your whole life ahead of you and I promise once you cut ties it will be the best decision you ever made.
Agreed. Unfortunately, some people don't know how to let go even though they see the writing on the wall.
Scenario 4. You dump her and she can go sleep with whoever she wants and you find a better partner.
Why? If she decides that being Poly is not for her and really wants to come back and he wants her back why should he refuse
It's more expected that guys are probably constantly hitting on your gf, not so much the other way around.
What does that even mean?
You'll find out.
This seeing everything on a transaction level, something I have heard before when talking to a therapist about him. I would never feel comfortable with him paying for everything because the leave of control he may possibly feel he has. I’m not saying he’s a monster, he can actually be a nice guy. Just saying I don’t like how he goes about things. I don’t think I have to subject myself to it especially now we have a child involved. I don’t see it getting better unless he recognizes what he is doing wrong and changes it. He’s not there yet and I’m not going to stay there until he figures it out.
Just because you are feeling insecure, you questioning her about it doesn’t have to be laid out as insecurity Just ask her why she doesn’t like your pics or stories or why doesn’t she post about the both of you. Tell her that you would like to have people see you together on her page. People change continually what they are posting and what they want to share. Like the other posters you maybe overthinking. Just ask her.
hurt me daddy
your 'art work' is simply mediocre copies of famous art with no expansions on the style. It bores, and you bore'
Don't ask him about the money! Get a lawyer. Even if it's not cheating, lawyers can advise you. They are an outside source who is on your side bc you are paying them. Yes, lawyers can sometimes fleece ya but ask around for personal reviews. If you remember a case of divorce in which the wife got a fair result, ask that person who they used. You don't have to say it's for you, you can tell people it's for another friend of yours. Reviews from the people that used a particular lawyer are best, not necessarily internet reviews.
If you ask your husband anything, ask about the girl not working there anymore. Then, you can see how he reacts.
“Hey, when I came by your office, the other day I didn't see Ashley(the girl), someone told me that she doesn't work there anymore. What happened to her?”
Unless he’s gonna do it, for me, I would rather save face, then create a massive drama for a family who really like this part of him. I could see this creating a massive row/rift between families.
It’s totally obvious that he shouldn’t do it, but to this family they’re into it. This could be beginning of the end of their marriage depending on how this handled.
Boundaries are important he should be shut down. But how do you it!!?????
Thank you! We've had conversations where I've used stonewalling because I know that's what he does. Thank you for your response, I'll being that up!
Yeah you could be wrong. If you're a journaler like I am you might have up to 30 or 40 notebooks hanging around at any one time. I certainly do; couple that with living with somebody. And yeah you can have all kinds of journals. In fact I feel sorry for people who don't have journals going most away through their life
Baby girl, you need to flat out call him, tell him to come home and tell him the relationship is in crisis and you are at a point where you are questioning the entire relationship.
This is something he can't run away from, but unfortunately, this really isn't something that can change unless HE wants it to change.
You are marrying into a toxic group of friends that are willing to allow one of their members to be a huge piece of shit to you because HIS COMFORT is more important than yours.
He needs to sit down with you face to face and explain to you why he thinks it's okay to sit there and stand by when someone was vile to you. His partner. the person he is building his future with.
If he can't grow up and be an adult that is capable of dealing with this, he is NOT ready to be married, and OP, frankly, you need to really put your foot down.
A partnership isn't worth shit if you can't depend on your partner not wanting you to be treated like shit.
She brought up the topic of looking “chubby” and said she wanted to burn fat around her stomach and arms but said it was really hard with what she was currently doing (mostly cardio).
I said that since she wanted to target fat, she could mix in more muscle toning exercises in those areas along with her running. I also suggested a reduced calorie intake for her goal. I glossed over her calling herself chubby and I think me not verbally disagreeing made it seem like I view her that way, too.
I didn't think it was cruel at the time, but I was treating her more like a gym buddy than a romantic partner when she was expecting more of the latter. I regret how I handled this but I didn't mean for it to come out the way it did.
He is never going to be ready to marry you and is killing time until Mrs. Right comes along.
where are you getting that from? You need to go to therapy and fix whatever trauma you went through. She doesn't seem like the type of girl to stick around if she didn't want to.
Right! Her dad owes me like over 30K lol.
Don’t overthink this, you expected to much from such a new relationship and you need to verbalise if you want something (even if if you think it’s the typical/ norm).
You need to relax a little and stop thinking of all the worst case scenarios, he’s done nothing wrong at all.
Don’t have any more children with this man, and take your child and I know this is a lot easier said than done but I really think you should leave him until he gets his life in order. I know the lifelong pain of having an alcoholic angry father and I hope your husband gets better for your child’s sake.
You can't treat HPV infections. If you get a wart you can treat that but you will always carry the HPV virus. That's why the HPV vaccine is so important.
Just because you had a wart also doesn't mean that you are carrying a disease that will give your partner cancer or that you can never have sex again. Only some of the strands have a higher risk of causing cancer. But you can't test whether you are carrying a dangerous strand afaik.
You can reduce the risk by wearing condoms and not having sex while you have a genital wart and of course by getting vaccinated. But other than that it's a small risk that we all have to live with. HPV just like herpes is so widespread that it is absolutely impractical to try not to spread it through abstinence. Protecting yourself from the risky strands with a vaccine is though.
Leave the country. Be wary of a similar experience with the next guy.
It's called the just-world hypothesis. It's very comforting to believe that everyone gets what they deserve. The problem is that it's not true.
Yeah you're absolutely right. I'm thinking about it more from a is he cheating? way, but should be more focused on his character
Indeed. She has a drinking problem. Time to address it now rather than at 40.
As for her getting pregnant, we were always safe, she did not want kids yet, so she would always ask for condoms before we started anything
She is now planning on kids. Dont do anything sexual with her. Also, it dont have to be yours she could try and lie after getting knocked up by someone else as it takes time to prove that deceit.
I'm not sure what more there is to say; she's literally treating him like she'd treat any other friend.
It doesn't make sense to you, and that's fine. Neither I or anyone else can tell you how to feel. I can only tell you that it's objectively possible for exes to have legitimately platonic friendships. Now, let me also be crystal clear with you here that there are often times where situations like these are completely inappropriate.
But that goes back to what I said earlier; context is everything. There's a marked difference between two people realizing they don't work romantically, there's no residual romantic feelings, and they can have a truly platonic friendship, no more, no less. In this case, you've been shown nothing but honesty, openness, and two people who interact like a friendship.
The opposite would be two people breaking up, remaining in contact due to a romantic connection they can't let go, speak inappropriately and not in a friendship context, and it's crystal clear that something is off. You can't say that here. You don't like it so you're projecting your feelings onto it as if something's off..
Again though, all that matters here is that you take a step back and be honest about how you feel. If you can't handle it, then you can't handle it. It's your life, and you can't just live life constantly on edge if that's going to be the case. You either trust her or you don't. If you're on edge, you're essentially saying that you can't trust that she is being a faithful partner to you. Healthy relationships can't work without trust.
Definitely not a demanding or triggering person. I am so non confrontational- she always yells at me and curses at me in disagreements because she is so upset. But I never raise my voice and am always very respectful to her. I mentioned both forms of therapy and she seemed like it could be something she would try
You wouldn’t be choosing a trip over a guy, you’d be choosing yourself and your autonomy. Don’t let a guy dictate the limits in your life and your experiences. If he can’t understand it he’s no worth it.
Sir, don’t invite her back into your life by messaging her. She clearly wanted to feel less guilty so she would say you were cheating on her, that is her issue. Be glad and happy you don’t have to deal with her abusive and alcoholic ass. Cheers!
so half of this affair you knew ?? wtf
Comments are wild. His reaction was not great. The parents reacted horribly. The sister prob knew her parents views and could have been a bit for tactful in approach. I don’t think the busbsbd is wrong in the fact that for these parents maybe private softer conversation would have gone over well. Not saying these people weren’t assholes but this has not tact for a positive response to something they view a negative
I'm really baffled about people going through marriage without talking about values and things like this. They've been together for 8 years and it's the first time “what if one of our kids is gay” hypothetical question came up. It's crazy. You can't really know someone, even your partner completely but you should be able to know that you have similar views on life and values before having a longterm commitment and kids.
(explains how SIL walked into an explosive situation and got shocked that things exploded)
Why do people like putting themselves in very precarious situations for the sake of perceived moral high ground.
You can be right and still fumble because of what you do with your truth. Truth isn't a trump card to social dynamics and upbringing.
Downvote me if you want but it's a dark reality of the world we we live in.
If he was feeling unfulfilled and unhappy, he has the responsibility to take care of himself and break up with her.
And that's exactly what he did.
Only shitty men would do this. While it's true objectivly beautiful women or people in general get better treatment in many situations any decent person would not mistreat someone based on looks.
Personally I'm not really attracted to people who's done changes to fit into a mold, especially lips and cheeks. I think it takes away from their uniqueness and makes them less interesting.
In the end it's your body, your choice. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. I hope you have talked with a psychologist about the procedures because as others have said it can become an addiction and never enough.
Know that you have a partner who seems to love you for you. Also be warned that if you change too much you might lose him.
A person cheats when they want out of their relationship. Cut ties and move on. Toss out all the pictures you have of her. She doesn’t deserve your attention or your love. To “love” is to “accept”. You cannot love a person that cheats. Cheating should never be acceptable.
It truly feels like he thinks he’s better than me because of his skin color.
Sweetheart, that is racism.
You don’t do anything because he already made his choice. Focus your energy in establishing good relationships with other friends.
You need to stop wasting her time and move on. You might ever travel but if you stay with her you will always resent her as if she is the cause and little at a time you will pick at her self esteem. Also being upset among things prior to your relationship is an ahole move.
but that the lack of sex is going to be eventually become a deal breaker.
Is this not an ultimatum?
You deserve better.