If you can, I would suggest you talk to one of his doctors/carers and if not that, his parents maybe, so they can talk to doctors.
Ask them what will be more beneficial for helping him recover; letting it happen as it will if it will or fill in the blanks for him. This has to be about what's best for him, and his friends may have opinions, but they're not medical professionals.
Likewise, there is no way anyone here can tell you what's best for him in his specific situation.
Get doctors to weigh in on this.
That said, you should find someone to talk to, yourself, because this is a very heavy situation and you're very young to be shouldering something like this. No one is equipped for this.
I'm so sorry about the havoc thus must be wreaking on you as well as him. hugs
Blacking out and losing memory so frequently isn't a thing unless you have a serious drinking problem and are drinking way to much at a time or he's drugging you.
One of those things you can control if you want and work at it. The other should be able to tell if you cut way down on the drinking quantity and keep your eyes and senses open.
Stare at her blanky and say, let's normalise context.
Because honestly, the stuff you're saying is things I'll randomly see on social media so might as well use the standard response people give when someone states something assuming everyone has the same background knowledge or interests.
It’s kind of petty because it’s a hypothetical thing, and those are always bad wormholes to go down. Just let it go and when your ready give him a bj but don’t let him pressure you into it. If all your relationship rests on is him getting head then it’s not exactly a good relationship.
How the hell does anyone with a 4 and 1 year old have time for an open marriage? I am so sorry you are going through this. This is not about you. This is about him.
I too would never be the same with the marriage, even if my spouse respected my answer.
You need to ask for what you want or you certainly won’t get it.
Playing these “gotcha” games and testing him isn’t going to net you good results.
Just tell him that your bday is coming up on X day and you’d like Y activity or gift.
Clearly, bdays and holidays are not a big deal for him. They are for you. So tell him and give him a chance to meet your expectations. Else you really can’t be upset when you don’t get what you want.
We weren’t trying for kids, and our child was a surprise. Thank you for the advice. I have started seeing my own therapist and am finding this helps me find my voice a lot.
Btw, changing his mind isn't lying.
It's nice to see how excited you seem to be about this relationship. Best of luck! Not that you seem to need it haha
This is above reddit paygrade, friend.
If you can, I would suggest you talk to one of his doctors/carers and if not that, his parents maybe, so they can talk to doctors.
Ask them what will be more beneficial for helping him recover; letting it happen as it will if it will or fill in the blanks for him. This has to be about what's best for him, and his friends may have opinions, but they're not medical professionals.
Likewise, there is no way anyone here can tell you what's best for him in his specific situation.
Get doctors to weigh in on this.
That said, you should find someone to talk to, yourself, because this is a very heavy situation and you're very young to be shouldering something like this. No one is equipped for this.
I'm so sorry about the havoc thus must be wreaking on you as well as him. hugs
Either move on or recategorize as FWB , just like she has done with you
fr, everyone applauding her and patting her on the back like she did something responsible
Something isn't right here.
Blacking out and losing memory so frequently isn't a thing unless you have a serious drinking problem and are drinking way to much at a time or he's drugging you.
One of those things you can control if you want and work at it. The other should be able to tell if you cut way down on the drinking quantity and keep your eyes and senses open.
Stare at her blanky and say, let's normalise context.
Because honestly, the stuff you're saying is things I'll randomly see on social media so might as well use the standard response people give when someone states something assuming everyone has the same background knowledge or interests.
Hi OP. How are you doing now? What decision did you make and did you ever challenge the rest as to why you were left out?
It’s kind of petty because it’s a hypothetical thing, and those are always bad wormholes to go down. Just let it go and when your ready give him a bj but don’t let him pressure you into it. If all your relationship rests on is him getting head then it’s not exactly a good relationship.
Good for him breaking up with his daughter
How the hell does anyone with a 4 and 1 year old have time for an open marriage? I am so sorry you are going through this. This is not about you. This is about him.
I too would never be the same with the marriage, even if my spouse respected my answer.
This can be changed in settings ??
It's not uncommon to have your partner with you for support when coming out to your parents.
Yeah guess time will tell but i gotta move on
You need to ask for what you want or you certainly won’t get it.
Playing these “gotcha” games and testing him isn’t going to net you good results.
Just tell him that your bday is coming up on X day and you’d like Y activity or gift.
Clearly, bdays and holidays are not a big deal for him. They are for you. So tell him and give him a chance to meet your expectations. Else you really can’t be upset when you don’t get what you want.
We weren’t trying for kids, and our child was a surprise. Thank you for the advice. I have started seeing my own therapist and am finding this helps me find my voice a lot.