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So they started dating when she was 18 and he was 25? That’s strike 1. He has broached the subject of her needing to lose weight. Strike 2. He told her to her face when he was drunk that he doesn’t find her attractive. Strike 3. He called her horrible names behind her back. Strike 4.
I don't know if you trust them both I don't really see a problem with it.
I mean it ended badly so it would make sense she wouldn't want contact but now she obviously only remembers the good times and here we are… Ah the good times ?
Either he is utterly oblivious of your needs or just doesn't care? Neither option is good for a long term relationship, especially if you are considering having kids.
If he is oblivious – is he willing to learn and make an effort to step back and consciously examine his assumptions on acceptable behaviour?
An intimate partner relationship should be two people supporting each other to be the best version of themselves. Traditional wedding vows include “in sickness and in health” – meaning that they will support each other whether their partner is sick (requiring more support) or well (needing less support).
The fact that you are here needing to ask suggests he has gaslit you about what is a reasonable response to this situation.
How are you experiencing 'quality time' if you feel sick and are not hungry and just want to lie down? You 'helping' him cook was for his benefit, not yours.
What else do you do in your relationship that is solely for his benefit? I'm sure it's not just 'sharing' cooking dinner when sick.
Unfortunately, I think the best play is to be honest here. “I’m sorry, but after all this time I really don’t believe I’m a lesbian. You’re great and my feelings were real, but it wouldn’t be fair to continue this knowing I’m not all in with you.” Good luck.
You don’t have to agree to open your marriage. If my wife asked for this I would divorce her. She can’t change the rules in the middle of the game. Most likely the marriage you thought you had is ending.
What issue? There is no issue. You don't go with a man to the barbershop. It doesn't matter if you've been together 2 years, 20 years, or 60, you will NEVER be welcome to accompany him to the barbershop.
I think it's reasonable in a scenario where someone his accusing you of cheating and has “video evidence”. It would be different if no one mentioned anything about cheating and he wanted to check because he thinks she might have cheated. Anyone would be pissed then.
The fact you're asking says you should. Not all people are going to be ok with a past like that. And that's OK. And having a past like that is ok, too. But, starting a relationship, you could see going somewhere, with a lie of omission is not ok.
it's definitely not just proximity for why were friends, for me. firstly, I do love him as my brother, and closest sibling. but I'm also friends with him too, we like a lot of the same things, we share a lot of friends. I like to spend time with Alex, I love hanging out with him, but just us.
might ask our older brother to check to see if Alex will meet me, since I think my number may be blocked by now
So they started dating when she was 18 and he was 25? That’s strike 1. He has broached the subject of her needing to lose weight. Strike 2. He told her to her face when he was drunk that he doesn’t find her attractive. Strike 3. He called her horrible names behind her back. Strike 4.
OP, how many strikes does he get?
I don't know if you trust them both I don't really see a problem with it.
I mean it ended badly so it would make sense she wouldn't want contact but now she obviously only remembers the good times and here we are… Ah the good times ?
You sure you trust her , I mean many wouldn't.
Good luck
Is your BF a robot or strongly ND?
Either he is utterly oblivious of your needs or just doesn't care? Neither option is good for a long term relationship, especially if you are considering having kids.
If he is oblivious – is he willing to learn and make an effort to step back and consciously examine his assumptions on acceptable behaviour?
An intimate partner relationship should be two people supporting each other to be the best version of themselves. Traditional wedding vows include “in sickness and in health” – meaning that they will support each other whether their partner is sick (requiring more support) or well (needing less support).
The fact that you are here needing to ask suggests he has gaslit you about what is a reasonable response to this situation.
How are you experiencing 'quality time' if you feel sick and are not hungry and just want to lie down? You 'helping' him cook was for his benefit, not yours.
What else do you do in your relationship that is solely for his benefit? I'm sure it's not just 'sharing' cooking dinner when sick.
She clearly and bluntly told you she was having mental issues and needed time to work on them…
And somehow you decided it was about you?
You did overreact but it sounds like you two are incompatible
This is rapez or at the very least assault. I would suggest filing a report, and then getting g tested and going no contact.
Unfortunately, I think the best play is to be honest here. “I’m sorry, but after all this time I really don’t believe I’m a lesbian. You’re great and my feelings were real, but it wouldn’t be fair to continue this knowing I’m not all in with you.” Good luck.
“Having dinner” does not mean “hey, let's get something at the cafeteria before it closes after we study”.
“seeing each other outside of class” does not mean bumping into each other between classes.
You don’t have to agree to open your marriage. If my wife asked for this I would divorce her. She can’t change the rules in the middle of the game. Most likely the marriage you thought you had is ending.
Breaking up with her is absolutely the right thing to do.
How should I handle this issue?
What issue? There is no issue. You don't go with a man to the barbershop. It doesn't matter if you've been together 2 years, 20 years, or 60, you will NEVER be welcome to accompany him to the barbershop.
How do you not know this?
I think it's reasonable in a scenario where someone his accusing you of cheating and has “video evidence”. It would be different if no one mentioned anything about cheating and he wanted to check because he thinks she might have cheated. Anyone would be pissed then.
The fact you're asking says you should. Not all people are going to be ok with a past like that. And that's OK. And having a past like that is ok, too. But, starting a relationship, you could see going somewhere, with a lie of omission is not ok.
it's definitely not just proximity for why were friends, for me. firstly, I do love him as my brother, and closest sibling. but I'm also friends with him too, we like a lot of the same things, we share a lot of friends. I like to spend time with Alex, I love hanging out with him, but just us.
might ask our older brother to check to see if Alex will meet me, since I think my number may be blocked by now
What the fuck
Go no contact with this person
Open marriages end in divorce 80% of the time
So? Your point is.. what? He can’t be into someone else because he asked for your number? Sounds like you’re jealous ?
You two are not together. You two are not exclusive. She's told you that.
You have to accept that. Or tell her exactly what you want. If she doesn't want the same. Then it's time to leave.