You will survive this. Really. The rest of your life starts with one step moving forward. Why aren’t you doing that yet?
You need to tell your family asap. He owes you money and your dad is going to give him more? I’d be trying to stop that.
Maybe even move back home temporarily until you can find your own place.
Get started going through the house and what you have in storage and just get it done. It’s not going to get done on its own.
If you haven’t already, get therapy to help deal with your depression/anxiety.
Plan your future. Where would you like to live? How would you like to decorate your space? Is there somewhere else you’d rather work? Is there maybe a class you’d like to take? New hobby you’d like to try? Somewhere you’ve always wanted to go? Envision it. Plan for it. Save for it. Do it.
Second one is the best. First will be a little dramatic and can backfire.
Absolutely remind her you are in a marriage. That wasn't some nice party you had a few years ago. It formed an obligation for you both. You owe each other more.
You are so fucking lame and gross and a loser and desperate and I would be ashamed to have you as a family member
This guy will divorce by the end of the semester. Dude, you picked up a college girl and expect your wife to be ok with it? Grow the fuck up!!
You will survive this. Really. The rest of your life starts with one step moving forward. Why aren’t you doing that yet?
You need to tell your family asap. He owes you money and your dad is going to give him more? I’d be trying to stop that.
Maybe even move back home temporarily until you can find your own place.
Get started going through the house and what you have in storage and just get it done. It’s not going to get done on its own.
If you haven’t already, get therapy to help deal with your depression/anxiety.
Plan your future. Where would you like to live? How would you like to decorate your space? Is there somewhere else you’d rather work? Is there maybe a class you’d like to take? New hobby you’d like to try? Somewhere you’ve always wanted to go? Envision it. Plan for it. Save for it. Do it.
You got this.
Second one is the best. First will be a little dramatic and can backfire.
Absolutely remind her you are in a marriage. That wasn't some nice party you had a few years ago. It formed an obligation for you both. You owe each other more.
What!? He doesn't even live in my city, how tf would I ever get to know him lmao
Damn. Now that is a question. And I really don't know the answer to that.
Thank you for laying this all out for me.
Would it be stupid to try and trust him again? Or will it be even more painful if I realized over time that I can't trust him, and then leave?
Ugh I wish this was easier.
This guy totally thinks he's an alpha and a “nice guy” ™️
Smoking may not be the same thing as what you’re saying about deflecting. Can you tell other examples?