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Or hurt the poor thing.
No commitment no kids. I see this guy disappearing in the very near future or committing to someone else.
You’re obsessing rather than healing and moving on. He has a partner. Speak to a therapist about why you’re treating yourself like this. Is it safer to obsess over an unavailable man than put yourself out there?
You do understand that you won't be getting PA pay until you actually graduate and find a job, right?
You're so fixated on the fact that it'll fix a certain set of problems you don't see the other, much more massive set of problems it will cause.
This isn't about you getting back on her good side. The fact that you're phrasing it like that and have to ask says how far you still have to go in being responsible for your actions.
She loved you, she thought the world of you, and you dumped her without communication. You broke her trust and her heart. Read that again: You broke her trust. You broke her heart.
Yes, your cutting and running destroyed her feelings for you. She got to see that you weren't the person she thought you were.
If you cared for this woman at all, you'll leave her alone and move on. She deserves to heal in peace. Use this experience to do better in your future relationships.
Oh eff right off. Is that why I forget to take them unless someone hands them to me? Ever see a meth user forget to take it?
This man sounds like a loose ass cannon and you should hit the ground running. Fuck that
So she has sexual trauma from childhood, but has no problem reminiscing about an ex FWB and their sexual escapades…
Those two things don't add up, OP. I believe the trauma can be an issue, but why wasn't it an issue with her “divine sexual connection?”
This is some heavy drama, and I would be second guessing the relationship. Sounds like you're a crutch for her…because sexually, she's still got ex FWB bouncing around in her head. That isn't fair to you at all
Someone to be his bangmaid, raise his kids and keep the house clean.
do something asap. cover your ass.
Someone to be his bangmaid, raise his kids and keep the house clean.
My dad died last year. I told my wife a week or so after his passing that if she had any issues or second doubts about our marriage, I needed to know right now so we can address them.
Why? Because I was about to go through some heavy grieving and I wanted someone to help me who was authentic and really wanted to be there with me on the worst days of my life.
Some of these behaviours are sounding very familiar to someone I was unfortunate enough to be with.
She's the abusive one here, emotionally manipulating you and trying to gaslight you, I dare bet she wanted you to post on here in he hopes it would feed into her victim complex.
Seems like she has a major problem with rationalising any sort of difficulty, and needs a person to blame for circumstances out of your control, which has ended up being you.
Also sounds like she doesn't want a partner, she wants someone to baby her and act like a parent.
At the risk of armchair psychology, are we sure there isn't a personality disorder in the mix of her issues here? Specifically cluster B, it would fit in with what you're describing, alongside the comments you've made about her parents being abusive.
I genuinely hope that you get out of this situation, because until she can learn to grow up, rationalise and regulate her emotions a bit, she will be a hazard to anyone who gets too close.
Tell her you won't pay for her dress but you'll chip in for her abortion
Oh good! Yes I was going to say, it sounds like your husband's is “acts of service” and that is much harder when you're pregnant.
I'd try writing him little notes. It's a nice middle ground. Shows you're putting in time to thinking about him and want him to smile. Put one in his shoe, on his toothbrush, on the coffee maker, under his pillow.
You seem really stressed about the imbalance, but if your husband and you are happy then it's okay! You can also have a bit of an imbalance when you're literally growing 'his' (and yours) child inside of you, that's a lot of work on its own!
Maybe you would prefer a community college where the classes are less rigorous? You could work on the side and have less stress while still getting a degree.
Your university most probably has a career guidance counsellor or a student mentor of some kind.
It would be a good idea to talk to someone like that and see if you can get a sense of what you want to study and what you want to do with your life.
Buy him some tools for Christmas and tell him about the elaborate home improvement projects you expect him to do.
Then why does he hang around with female friends having deep talks with them?
Given the length of his comments and his attempts at condescension:
He's a sociopath, which means he doesn't feel empathy. It doesn't mean he can't act good, but he won't do it because he empathizes with you. He didn't tell you because he didn't think about your feelings (because he is a sociopath).
You can maybe still get an abortion. There is nothing wrong with that. There are no babies yet. You're not killing anyone. You're just making sure there aren't any more sociopaths born into this world. You don't have to tell anyone you got an abortion (except someone you trust for medical support). You can just tell them you had a miscarriage.
I'm not saying sociopaths are inherently bad. But it's a lot harder, and it requires a lot of therapy. So is that really something you want for your children? And they will probably also make other people's lives worse if they are sociopaths.
It will just suck a lot because you really wanted children and prepared for them. But it's the most ethical thing to do, imho.
9 days of posts in this group .. Kylie, sweetheart, you’re the problem.
Since we’re on the topic can anyone raise there hand if they weren’t spanked as a child or did we all get whooped from our parents
She doesn't explain, she may have left out some specific details for post length but saying her husband “coached” their sons sounds like she had more of a conversation with them.
Mine you have to hit filter up in the top left corner
I don't do it lol, but I wouldn't blame for something they are doing unconsciously/sleeping, people literally sleep walk, is that also a red-flag? You can't control your body when you're sleeping
It’s your happiness, and your life.
Why are you still spamming about your obsession with this guy? You either need a mental health intervention or to stop trolling. How many users on this sub are aware of your constant baiting posts and comments?
Chess.com which probs means I’m around 1600-1650 in in person tournaments, most people online just use chess.com ratings tho tbh. And it was uno or chess, and uno sucks as a two person game
So why don't you take photos of you and her together? Then send her the photo. Seems odd for you to want her to have photos of you but you don't want photos of her.
Uh, I'm the same height and am usually around 125-130. I have never felt overweight at all. What is he concerned about?? How silly
A million different possible reasons. Who knows?
Whatever the reason was isn’t relevant, what is relevant is your wife cheated on you with this couple and has continuously lied about everything.
How are you even debating staying with her? Any life would be better than one shared with her.
I breathed quite a bit with the last girl I was dating. Breathing makes me sad now so I decided to stop doing that.
Why wouldn’t you tell her? This is important information she needs to know so she can also decide if it’s worth carrying on dating you until she moves or break up now.
Why do you think it would be a good idea not to tell her?
No one said it doesn’t happen.
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Poly and virgin? I'm completely lost here. What are you talking about?
I mean when it’s a girl and a guy he’s still imagining he’s the guy. He’s not imagining he’s in a threesome with the guy there. So I don’t think that logic holds the full weight of why this bothers you. It would be one thing if he was watching some random girl with 300 followers. That’s someone who theoretically is attainable by him. If it’s a porn star or some model with hundreds of thousands of followers, he’s never going to actually get to pursue her.
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Yeah, you are an adult, you can take care of yourself. You have the flu, you’re not dying. Lol.
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I doubt it’s the first time sadly 🙁
Oh and no. The friend is a girl I saw her video of her talking about proposing the takeout.
lol look at OP’s post history – posted about being dumped by gf
I believe, from what I've read, it's more and more common. (I think the stat I read was 14% of young couples in europe).
But it's not for everyone and if it doesn't align for you, it's not fair on you xx
Sounds like she has her own insecurity issues that probably pre-dated you arriving on the scene
You need couples therapy. This is not a healthy relationship and it's not going to be better for the kids if the relationship continues to deteriorate.
Are you constantly eating stuff that is “his”? Seems like he's getting tired of it
I had this with my last ex. We lived together and at first I loved the sex and my feelings were very strong for him. But after some months I noticed he NEVER did any foreplay. I think you're using the hygiene thing as a valid reason, but that's still an excuse for the real problem here. Feelings for someone, how we see them, is not only emotional. It sure as hell is also physical. People tend to downplay the importance of a good and healthy sex life as long as “you still love each other”. That's bullshit.
Sex is how you emotionally and physically bond with your partner. My ex never did foreplay on me but I did loads of foreplay on him every single time. And I am a person with a very high sex drive, like I could have sex daily. But this started to make me feel disgusted basically of him, despite my feelings. For a long while, I felt confused as to why I felt suddenly repulsed by him. And not just by sexual things like his dick rubbing up against me, over time I ever hated kissing or hugging him and every other type of touch. I'd physically cringe.
Sometimes your body tells you how you feel before your heart can accept the truth. Have an open and honest conversation with him. And see how he responds. When I told my ex, he immediately got defensive. Saying the things I do (BJ's and HJ's for example) “don't count” as foreplay so I shouldn't expect anything from him. I told him what I wanted to feel emotionally and physically desired again. Sadly he gave no fucks, and a month or so after that convo I left him due to this and a few other issues.
Physical and emotional connection are linked, do not forget that. If either of those gets neglected, it will affect the other too.
Don't shit where you eat. Nobody cares about your exceptional special-snowflake sparkly Feelz.
Stop talking you your coworker unless it's absolutely necessary to do your job.
Posts like this make me suspect certain people just aren't qualified enough or mature enough to be working in a professional office environment, if they can't keep their personal feelings and their professional life ves seperate. If they have to come over here and whine about how they're married but have a such a huge crush on their coworker.
Adult the hell up, people. Zip your pants back up. You're not a teenager in grade school. Coworkers are off limits.
If you want kids, you have no business being with someone who is still ambivalent at the age of 33.
Don't tell him. your in a position of temptation, and you turned it down. If it was a test, you passed. Talk to your husband about putting some romance back into your relationship.
He may have a love language, but you won't see it because he doesn't love you.
I’m sure she’s got more important things to worry about than texting Op tbh you don’t just get over a suicide attempt in a weekend
Unless you want this to be your life, probably with kida added to the equation sooner or later, you gotta run.
From what you're describing it sounds like early stages of trying to manipulate you into staying home with him, serving him all thw time. This can leas to you going out less often and losing friends (or your supprt system). This is how people get trapped in controlling relationships or worse.
Also, not to be rude, I'm around his age and dating a 25yo is such weird concept to me. There is too much development happening between 21 and 30, imo.
What I do not get here is that all your comments are pushing back on the advice. You are not willing to even consider or try to understand what people telling you to figure something out with her.
So what is your goal with this post if you do not want to take the advice?
Are you hoping someone will agree with you, so that you feel better about yourself for being this selfish?
It sounds to me that you do not love her enough to figure out a small compromise by spending a half a day to have lunch with her family is seriously not a big deal.
She did it for you…(i do not care if you told her that she does not have to do it)
No. Absolutely do not put your professional plans on hold for a relationship. Especially not a relationship still in Q1. You will always be there for yourself, whether this man is there or not. Put your own aspirations at the forefront, if he wants to be with you he will choose to be.
Manchild. Dress. MY OWN DAD was not allowed to walk around with only boxers or no shirts because WOMEN AND YOUNG GIRLS GETS FUCKING WEIRDED OUT BY DICKS AND MAN TITS 🙂 manchild brain understand?
yeah, he's been amazing because he gets to lie and be selfish and he still gets the gf(s) at the end.
He's probably stringing you and the “ex” along. He is in a relationship with you both, and getting you back just means that he has your car and can get to his other girlfriend easier.
I bet you 100 dollars that the BF is the reason the ex is “crazy”. He has probably lied to her and told her “oh you are the only one”, ” i will only be with you”. I bet you he has told the ex the same exact stories he's told you, but about you to her.
I bet he is using the same “crazy gf” lies on you both, so he doesn't have to commit to either.
he's a sad loser and you and the ex should probably have a sit down and compare the BS he's fed you both.
Sounds like she wants both of best worlds
Thats what mattress pads are for
This is why internet chat buddy relationships are shit. They are not real.
You fell for what you imagined him to be, he told you what you wanted to hear to make you fall for him.
Break up and find a real life boyfriend. You’re a teenager, dont “settle” at your age, that’s stupid.
I agree. I hate how they act like it was so accidental. It is like “I slipped and I happened to be naked and he happened to be naked and he went to catch me and I ended up falling on his pe&&is. Man I hate that when it happens.
Irrelevant. She wants to break up.
You don't have the power to force her to stay.
That's the thing about relationships and why I say you're not ready for one: It's a two yes or one no situation.
She has already told you she wants out.
You also say she's giving you emotional whiplash. Time to move on.
None of this is healthy.
How you deal with the grief is your issue tbh.
Stop discussing COVID vaccines. Live your lives. It’s not really very hard.
Oh so now rather than fighting my ideas you want to resort to attacking my appearance
Can you possibly list a few examples of things you could do for her? I mean her just vaguely saying you need to do more but then saying she can’t tell you what isn’t very helpful. So maybe try offering a few things and seeing if anything strikes a cord:
Do you want me to plan more of our daily activities? Do you want me to help more around the house (if you live together) Do you want me to touch you/cuddle you/whatever more?
See where this conversation gets you.
It's a normal feeling, it doesn't mean that she loves you less, or that she wants to break up.
What is definitely not right is that you went through her messages and from up to almost 4 months ago, it seems sick to me.
Get ahead of the curve and block her.
Interesting. I read it as “to her credit she does more than I do”, but english isn't my first language so I might have gotten the wrong end of the stick. If that is so, I apologize.
Because she'll always be my daughter. Her siblings will always love her. My husband certainly adored her and was so proud of her. And the only people who knew were my husband and I, and my mother. It wasn't everyone but her.
Still I can see we messrd up and we're naive about it. Ill definitely try to fix it and get therapy
Yes, we thought it would be best for her not to know about what her biological mother was.
this is like the number 1 mistake in adoptions. check out /r/adoption if you want some insight.
I told her exactly that. If she does not change, I will leave.
I think you should discuss this with your therapist. They can provide better insight esp in comparison with what you’ve been through. I did the same thing when I was dating. It helped me prepare to date and look for bad signs before dating and then use those while dating to figure out if someone was right for me. I also voiced concerns and how to handle them with that person.
Why she needs others when she have me!!!
I’ve been told by people to open the relationship on his side or to let him cheat once with someone random because it’d make him feel better, idk how I feel about it
She says the feelings started a few months ago, and they each began texting each other the issues they’re having in their relationships.
This is (probably) why you are feeling betrayed. She should have voiced those concerns to you but instead she vented to her co-worker she also had feelings for.
She says she said she felt the same, but loved me and wanted me to be with me.
Did she indicate WHY she wanted to be with you? Because at the end of the day, she allowed her feelings to let her co-worker get closer to her.
She has pleaded her case and says she knows what she did is wrong and wants to work it out via couples therapy. She says she loves me but was confused and felt unloved and pushed away from me.
It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, why the couples therapy? She could use some individual therapy though.
She put effort in and developed the relationship with her co-worker instead of coming to you with her concerns. She destroyed the trust between the two of you. Oh, and her co-worker is not going to tell his wife.
You should sit her down and tell her that her feelings cannot be helped and love will find a way. You're going to give her a chance to be with her co-worker! And to help her out you're going to tell her co-workers wife what you've been up to, so he should be single too in a short while too. Then break up with her.
Did your dad cheat on your mom?
Yeah i still think that's weird but ok i can aknowledge that everyone has a past. Something still doesn't sound right about this though.
I normally don't play this card, but a few weeks back there was a woman on here whose husband wasn't attracted to her after she cut her hair short, and the sentiment in the replies was much different than it is in this thread.
I think the problem is that she’s in college and you’re a father. You’re just at two completely different phases of your life.
ALLLL OF THIS, OP.
Hi hun, maybe some people have extremely high libidos but having sex daily is unnecessary in a relationship, because intimacy doesn’t always mean sex.
From how you describe your boyfriend, he is inconsiderate and doesn’t care about your pleasure. Even if you had sex 200 times a day every day, it doesn’t cause your vagina to “get loose.” Vaginas were made to birth babies! They’re extremely resilient.
Anal in comparison is much tighter, but that’s because unlike a vagina, it doesn’t naturally loosen up when you’re aroused. He is ignoring your pleasure and inflicting pain, doing something that affects your health physically and mentally, without disregard for you, all while verbally abusing you and calling your vagina a hallway.
He’s not a good guy. No one who cares about you willingly puts you through pain. Get out before you turn 30 and feel like the cost-benefit trade off is too great to walk away. You have time to find a partner who actually makes you feel good and cares to do so.
I had to read this so many times to make sense of it
I’m 99% sure this is fake and that I read a similar sick story a few months back with some very similar elements.
But just in case it is true, I am glad your son got his closure. He certainly deserves it and it sounds like he made quite a happy life for himself. What did you honestly expect? Him to want to mend fences with you? First, you started a sexual relationship with his friend, there is an abnormal age gap, you clearly stated that Max because the main source of joy for you…reflect on that for a minute, your secret teenage lover became the main source of joy for you over your own child. You then ditched your child repeatedly, missing events and his birthday, all to screw a teenager. Then your son found out, left you, and you had relief lol. Instead you should have felt shame and looked in a mirror. On top of that, you accepted a proposal from this teenager the NEXT DAY when you should have dumped him and flown to beg your son for forgiveness. And not once in the 4 years does it say you made even a half ass attempt to try to communicate with him.
And now you finally feel emotional pain lol?? You should have had therapy years ago because this is all just sick and sordid. And yes, you chose this teenager over your own child. Repeatedly. I wouldn’t ever associate with you again either. You also have to wonder how long Max will hang around when he enters his 30s and you enter your 50s, because that is not a recipe for success. And then you would have thrown away your own son for nothing.
But I’m glad your son got a happy ending and that’s what matters here.
He ended your marriage the second he asked to open it.
You know it.
We know it.
And I think he knows it but is pretending he doesn’t.
I’m sorry. You can try couples counseling, but that’s only hitting the pause button to give him more time to make excuses and try to convince you to stay, which gives you more time to hurt.
The harsh truth of it is—you weren’t enough.
He wanted to find someone else.
He wanted to kiss someone else.
He wanted to touch someone.
He wanted to fuck someone else.
But not only that—he wanted you to do the same.
He couldn’t be happy in this life with just you.
Get your duckies lined up, my love.
And again, I’m sorry.
I was just having fun with the use of the term corn. I haven't actually considered the ethical implications or the situation. It's a bit creepy though ?♂️
OP, ask your wife about how her ex might feel about it, but really, it's your daughter's call.
And you'll note that I left out the “step-” prefix.
You should leave this nice girl alone and let her find someone who'll go that extra 500 miles (and 500 more) to make her happy. Meantime, you should go find a new girl.
No, no other assets. Just the GICs and his home.
You do know that eventually someone is left on read for a while because a specific text conversation has to eventually conclude. Someone has to be the last to respond or everyone would be texting 24/7 for eternity. She may also be waiting to move from texting to action. So, if that’s what you want why not come out and ask her something like, “Want to meet for lunch tomorrow?” Or “Want to go for a hike on Saturday”, or whatever. What have you got to lose. She’ll either say yes or no and you can take it from there. If she ignores you after asking a direct question like this, then she’s just rude and you don’t want to be with her. Good luck.
Posted what? Can you send it to me?
Yep. No one’s got sympathy for this.
He may want more uninterrupted time now that the newness of the relationship has worn off, and that's ok. I really do understand having difficulty giving him that. Legit, I am only this comfortable saying this stuff to you because I have similar attachment issues that have required a lot of work. I am still in touch with my partner when we're apart probably more often than the majority of people in this sub.
I think for situations like this, it can just feel kinda smothering if you're not also playing the game. It might be better to see if you can arrange for a phone call at a specific time. That way, he can focus on his game and talk to you
I’m not. When we dated we lived 5 min away from each other. Then because of life we moved in together too quickly and broke up. We have lived 8 hours away for the last 2 years. We have taken a break since all that and have improved a lot. The biggest problem now is just that we’re 8 hours away and neither of us are in the position to move. So with no end goal in sight, we had to admit that at some point we have to move on. So this is finally that time. As I said, we had a really understanding conversation about letting each other go right now. I did also say I don’t want to disrespect their relationship by talking still. It’s really a right person, wrong time scenario I believe.
BRO?! block his number already dude. he’s not worth it.
you said it yourself that he is controlling and lovebombing. don’t go back to him ?
A pity she deleted the post, but the reason I used the feminine gender was because OP wrote as a woman being jealous over another woman for liking a few posts her guy made. it has nothing to do with being stereotypical and everything to do with it just being the gender of the poster. had it been a guy crying over another dude liking the bikini pics of his girl I would have compared it to 2 little boys fighting over a tonka truck or something equally stupid, because it is stupid. please don't bring sexism accusations into a conversation that literally has nothing to do with a stereotype and everything to do with a portrayed behavior being called out.
I don’t pay for everything. I meant I pay the bills as in I’m the one that makes sure they’re paid. Currently, we make about the same. Once my business is more established, I’ll be making double what we both make.
I think most people who are independent would recoil at the idea of living in a home where the parents can come and go as they please and hold that over them.
And being tied to one spot for your dad to promote fraud isn’t exactly wise. You could end up in some legal trouble.
You’re 25. I think you should get out on your own and out from under your parents.
This can't be real.
This post has to be fake or OP is just beyond nice /naive.
Like bro you really have to ask for advice on what to do when your girlfriend cares more about her shampoo than your health ?
Perhaps she can change to a different birth control?
I don’t know about birth control, but if there are different medications that work or act differently to achieve the same result, perhaps switching to one of those may help.
I will say that yes getting the IUD put in kind of sucked, but I love mine. I lost most of the weight I gained from the pill, my periods are way lighter and less painful, and I only ever get acne around my period anymore
Pretty much agree on that front. Id be out of the door before he could double back and try to backtrack. I don't play with that shit either.
But even then how long is he doing it for that the period of time is long enough for her to wake up, realise it’s happening, go back to sleep and then wake up and repeat the cycle another two times? That’s just as bad!
He sounds like an arsehole tbh.
I bet there are plenty of “factual observations” he does not make. About all kinds of things.
He is choosing to spout this toxic negative bs at you. He gets something out of it.
What is even the point of posting these posts here? As a 25yo don’t you have your own judgement? Why do you need validation from us about something that should be so obvious?
Because abusive behavior can be extremely obvious to outsiders but not to the person experiencing it. It doesn't matter what age someone is; abuse is still hard to recognize even throughout the lifespan. There are people in their 60s and 70s in abusive relationships who aren't able to leave and also have to ask others for advice and support.
It's not obvious to her, and I don't think it helps anyone to make someone feel weird or bad for not recognizing abuse right away.
The point of posting these things here is to get advice, another perspective, support, concrete resources. Everybody who posts in this sub about abuse deserves empathy, no matter how oblivious they may seem or how trauma-bonded they are.
I'm not angry at you; I just see these comments all the time and it's really disheartening. I would never want to post here as someone in an abusive relationship and be shamed – even if unintentionally – for posting in this sub and wanting help.
Also I'm not surprised at all women still have to post things like this. It's not obvious to everyone because we live in a world where misogyny and abuse against women are so commonplace, normalized, accepted, even encouraged and condoned that there's no wonder so many women have to ask questions like OP's – “Am I overreacting?”
Do a search in the sub for ” love isn't enough” and you'll be inundated with stories of age gap relations
Same, this is sounds like executive dysfunction.
Okay, unpopular opinion. I want to make it clear hitting your spouse is NEVER okay, however reactive abuse is a thing. Looking at the big picture here, I almost wonder if that’s the case. OP clearly does things that upsets his wife on purpose, given she brought this up their previous vaca.
ESH until more info. Just divorce and be done, y’all don’t sound like you even like each other
Don’t fuck her. Dude…cmon.
You seem to be asking, “I've been dating this guy for three months — how can I tell whether I'm going to be happy with him forever?”
You can't. There is no test. We date to get to know people better and see how we work as partners in the long run. If you realize at some point that he isn't the right match for you, it doesn't mean that he was a “rebound,” or that you were unfair to him, or that you are a bad person.
Be honest about your feelings, act in good faith, remember that you have barely started getting to know him and learning what it could be like to spend your life as partners, and trust that you are both adult enough to cope with the possibility that the relationship may end at some point.
I feel like this is your pride speaking. You mentioned money and how rich you are several times. We get it—you’re comfortable.
I think you are conflating receiving gifts with charity, especially since you don’t mind giving gifts and give more than expected. Giving more is also an ego boost and a way to show off how rich you are.
I’d give in on this one. It’s a weird hang-up and you want your wedding to be about you and your wife, not you and your wallet.
It’s your choice and your way to stylish yourself
Reporting for spam. Again.
Visited him 6 times? Is visited now code for sex?
Im going to be hard on you because you need it ok…
You should stay with her because you have no self respect and youve already let this one shit all over why start fresh with a new one. You know.
Just tell her she can visit her ex but ask her to record it so you can cry softly in the bathroom then come out and act like nothing happened.
In fact i think you should record it so you get the angles you like.
You're a lucky man, congrats.