You genuinely enjoyed your time at the spa, even though she was sobbing and crying at times at said spa? But she tried to “perk up” a couple of times during this fairly public surprise, so obviously it was enjoyable for her too? What?
And then on the way home you asked her what the problem was, and she told you in detail?
And you're talking like she pretty much ruined your day and owes you an apology?
I'm just trying to figure out if I read this right.
He shouldn’t have touched you- no excuse for that and that needs to be addressed.
However, as a side note, you need to learn to allow others to finish speaking before interjecting. It’s rude and condescending behavior to believe your opinions are more important than the person presently speaking. It’s not a good habit to have- regardless of what the conversation is about/if you’re “right” or “wrong “ in reality.
Your bf handled the situation poorly, you should never touch other people and he treated you in a condescending manner as well, two wrongs do not create a right- contrary to popular belief.
You need sit and talk about this in a non confrontational manner. Explain that him covering your mouth was disrespectful, and treating you like a toddler. However, you also need to acknowledge your part in this whole situation. I think if you can maturely discuss this issue and the wrongs you both “committed”, you guys can also come to terms with the fact it was an unfortunate and unnecessary situation and learn from it. Discuss different ways to deal with this in the future (you interjecting before allowing him to finish his thoughts, and his childish response to said interruptions). If you can both recognize the “wrongs” y’all committed, odds are you both can come up with better ways to handle this type of issue in the future and thus grow from this experience.
Give them some time. I understand that will be hard with you hurting, but after losing a 24 year old child, they are hurting way more. I lost a brother who was 24 when he passed away, that is devastating for parents and siblings. Just console yourself with their advice that he didn’t say anything bad about you. The note to you could have been a goodbye note to you and they may not want to share that so that you can move on with your life, you are 24 and have a lot of life ahead of you still.
Thank u kind stranger. Stay blessed❤️
Woot woot! All is well that ends well! All you needed to do is have an honest conversation with.
You genuinely enjoyed your time at the spa, even though she was sobbing and crying at times at said spa? But she tried to “perk up” a couple of times during this fairly public surprise, so obviously it was enjoyable for her too? What?
And then on the way home you asked her what the problem was, and she told you in detail?
And you're talking like she pretty much ruined your day and owes you an apology?
I'm just trying to figure out if I read this right.
Have you seen a therapist since your last disaster relationship?
I think your response to the coffee/drinking suggestion was irrational. He just said it so you didn't feel the need to drink alcohol
He shouldn’t have touched you- no excuse for that and that needs to be addressed.
However, as a side note, you need to learn to allow others to finish speaking before interjecting. It’s rude and condescending behavior to believe your opinions are more important than the person presently speaking. It’s not a good habit to have- regardless of what the conversation is about/if you’re “right” or “wrong “ in reality.
Your bf handled the situation poorly, you should never touch other people and he treated you in a condescending manner as well, two wrongs do not create a right- contrary to popular belief.
You need sit and talk about this in a non confrontational manner. Explain that him covering your mouth was disrespectful, and treating you like a toddler. However, you also need to acknowledge your part in this whole situation. I think if you can maturely discuss this issue and the wrongs you both “committed”, you guys can also come to terms with the fact it was an unfortunate and unnecessary situation and learn from it. Discuss different ways to deal with this in the future (you interjecting before allowing him to finish his thoughts, and his childish response to said interruptions). If you can both recognize the “wrongs” y’all committed, odds are you both can come up with better ways to handle this type of issue in the future and thus grow from this experience.
Goodluck op!
Brush your teeth at night before you go to bed to reduce morning breath. Or brush your teeth and go back to kissing
Be strong on the bad days, look forward to the good ones.
Give them some time. I understand that will be hard with you hurting, but after losing a 24 year old child, they are hurting way more. I lost a brother who was 24 when he passed away, that is devastating for parents and siblings. Just console yourself with their advice that he didn’t say anything bad about you. The note to you could have been a goodbye note to you and they may not want to share that so that you can move on with your life, you are 24 and have a lot of life ahead of you still.
okay then enjoy your life as a housewife
They‘re adults. You have no say whatsoever in who they love. If you dont like that, thats your problem, not theirs.