OP OP OP This man raped you when you said no, he should've listened instead he put it in anyway and manipulated you into thinking it's fine because you liked up WAKE UP he's a perverted old man who preys on naive women like yourself because if he's sleeping with you how many other young girls is he doing this to and to answer your question yes your being groomed. Grooming when it comes down to it is when a older person manipulates a younger person into believing the relationship is ok you don't have to be a minor
I don't think any of us can really tell you whether what he did was okay or not. Only you know what about the experience is bothering you.
Did it seem light-hearted? Were you mostly surprised by the suddenness and strength disparity? Or did he suddenly seem serious or cold? Did you feel like he was trying to “put you in your place”?
Two people performing the same motions can have completely different motives. One might be completely innocent and the other testing your boundaries. So it's good that you're taking a step back and thinking on this. Our gut is there to protect us.
Not to mention, you think he’s gonna be in top parenting shape when he gets back from a 5 day bender? You’re gonna be on the hook watching the kids full time during his hangover too.
Herpes can lay dormant for years before ever showing up through physical symptoms. If this is her first outbreak, it would make sense that you hadn't contracted it from her seeing as it's most likely to transmit during an outbreak.
Really… it's a toss up. She could have contracted it years ago or it could have been somewhat recently.
Exactly. I graduated in 2018 and people who dated freshman when they were juniors or seniors were bullied to fuck for rightful reasons. I was preyed upon by a 19 year old when I was 14 year old. All these people in here excusing it are nauseating. Just because it happened, doesn’t mean it’s okay.
This a bit difficult to answer. You don’t know what they agreed on what is acceptable to do during this break. Can they see other people? See if you can talk to her about this. Then tell her what you know. This woman can be his sister or someone they know. She can make the decision then to talk to him about it.
It might be worthwhile to write down what both of you and to achieve (short and long term) so you can properly set ground rules. Beyond the ground rules, that would also allow you to better appreciate what each other wants.
For instance (Him, short term) – limited contact with your family (Him, long term) – ? (You, short term) – allow relationship to stabilize (You, long term) – Have him eventually develop a healthy relationship with family.
I think it is worth agreeing on what each of you want to achieve ST and LT. Otherwise, it is hard to develop boundaries and a plant to get there. For instance, maybe at some point (although goal, not time based), you could have dinner with the family member that he likes the most and work your way up.
Honestly, what’s the harm in telling her? It sounds like you’re more acquaintances than true friends. Either she reciprocates and you stay in touch, or she doesn’t and you move on. It doesn’t sound like a friendship that’s going to last after graduation, so there isn’t much to lose.
I accept that we've broken up. I don't expect her to act like we're still dating. I just don't understand why she's being affectionate sorta like when we were together and then suddenly becomes slightly distanced.
I don't mind however she wants to be like. But logically, anyone would be weirded out or curious why someone becomes all close but suddenly changes, regardless of what your relationship is with them.
Idk. I'm kind of hoping that he'd eventually pick up social cues after a while of being in a relationship. He does say that he doesn't want to have another gf and he's improved a lot in terms of showing how he cares when he's around me. It's just the days we're apart is more than when we're together and when I try to close the gap, it feels like he doesn't want to meet me halfway.
It feels like falling into a routine like we're bf/gf Friday nights to Sunday evening and then just two people on earth the rest of the week.
Even people who have talked extensively about 'sleep play' and who approach the kink with full, open communication acknowledge the tricky nature of consent in a sleep play scenario. For consent to mean anything it must be FIRE: Freely given, Informed, Revocable, Enthusiastic. When you are approaching sleep you can freely give consent and you can be enthusiastic about it. The problem comes with being Informed because when you are asleep you are not aware of what your partner is doing and they could go 'off script'. Lastly, you can't revoke your consent if you are asleep. This means that fundamental basis for consent – EVEN IF YOU ARE BOTH IN FAVOR OF SLEEP PLAY is undermined. Some people go ahead carefully ready to stop at a moment's notice, some people just pretend and some don't do it even though they'd like to.
And this is the people who have discussed it thoroughly, not just climbed atop a sleeping woman and had a go.
Oh… I'll look into it. Never heard of a dennis system in my life. Thanks for the info ☺️
OP OP OP This man raped you when you said no, he should've listened instead he put it in anyway and manipulated you into thinking it's fine because you liked up WAKE UP he's a perverted old man who preys on naive women like yourself because if he's sleeping with you how many other young girls is he doing this to and to answer your question yes your being groomed. Grooming when it comes down to it is when a older person manipulates a younger person into believing the relationship is ok you don't have to be a minor
Is he a surgeon by any chance? What a horrible bedside manner this obtuse man must have w his patients.
I don't think any of us can really tell you whether what he did was okay or not. Only you know what about the experience is bothering you.
Did it seem light-hearted? Were you mostly surprised by the suddenness and strength disparity? Or did he suddenly seem serious or cold? Did you feel like he was trying to “put you in your place”?
Two people performing the same motions can have completely different motives. One might be completely innocent and the other testing your boundaries. So it's good that you're taking a step back and thinking on this. Our gut is there to protect us.
Not to mention, you think he’s gonna be in top parenting shape when he gets back from a 5 day bender? You’re gonna be on the hook watching the kids full time during his hangover too.
Try it, you may like it.
Herpes can lay dormant for years before ever showing up through physical symptoms. If this is her first outbreak, it would make sense that you hadn't contracted it from her seeing as it's most likely to transmit during an outbreak.
Really… it's a toss up. She could have contracted it years ago or it could have been somewhat recently.
Exactly. I graduated in 2018 and people who dated freshman when they were juniors or seniors were bullied to fuck for rightful reasons. I was preyed upon by a 19 year old when I was 14 year old. All these people in here excusing it are nauseating. Just because it happened, doesn’t mean it’s okay.
Nope, I work in a greasy dirty environment. I shower everyday not just for me but for my wife.
This a bit difficult to answer. You don’t know what they agreed on what is acceptable to do during this break. Can they see other people? See if you can talk to her about this. Then tell her what you know. This woman can be his sister or someone they know. She can make the decision then to talk to him about it.
Dude you really have to ask? She sounds insane
It's not every man's dream to watch his wife enjoy herself on top of 4 men.
He can't be happy with you knowing that he will never be enough for you and that you will always want more from him.
I think he will go out soon and find a woman who only knows how to be happy with himself.
you can be happy with all men
without your husband
Maybe I am him… 🙂
It might be worthwhile to write down what both of you and to achieve (short and long term) so you can properly set ground rules. Beyond the ground rules, that would also allow you to better appreciate what each other wants.
For instance (Him, short term) – limited contact with your family (Him, long term) – ? (You, short term) – allow relationship to stabilize (You, long term) – Have him eventually develop a healthy relationship with family.
I think it is worth agreeing on what each of you want to achieve ST and LT. Otherwise, it is hard to develop boundaries and a plant to get there. For instance, maybe at some point (although goal, not time based), you could have dinner with the family member that he likes the most and work your way up.
Honestly, what’s the harm in telling her? It sounds like you’re more acquaintances than true friends. Either she reciprocates and you stay in touch, or she doesn’t and you move on. It doesn’t sound like a friendship that’s going to last after graduation, so there isn’t much to lose.
I accept that we've broken up. I don't expect her to act like we're still dating. I just don't understand why she's being affectionate sorta like when we were together and then suddenly becomes slightly distanced.
I don't mind however she wants to be like. But logically, anyone would be weirded out or curious why someone becomes all close but suddenly changes, regardless of what your relationship is with them.
Idk. I'm kind of hoping that he'd eventually pick up social cues after a while of being in a relationship. He does say that he doesn't want to have another gf and he's improved a lot in terms of showing how he cares when he's around me. It's just the days we're apart is more than when we're together and when I try to close the gap, it feels like he doesn't want to meet me halfway.
It feels like falling into a routine like we're bf/gf Friday nights to Sunday evening and then just two people on earth the rest of the week.
Is it really wrong to prefer not to date a prostitute?? Wtf
Even people who have talked extensively about 'sleep play' and who approach the kink with full, open communication acknowledge the tricky nature of consent in a sleep play scenario. For consent to mean anything it must be FIRE: Freely given, Informed, Revocable, Enthusiastic. When you are approaching sleep you can freely give consent and you can be enthusiastic about it. The problem comes with being Informed because when you are asleep you are not aware of what your partner is doing and they could go 'off script'. Lastly, you can't revoke your consent if you are asleep. This means that fundamental basis for consent – EVEN IF YOU ARE BOTH IN FAVOR OF SLEEP PLAY is undermined. Some people go ahead carefully ready to stop at a moment's notice, some people just pretend and some don't do it even though they'd like to.
And this is the people who have discussed it thoroughly, not just climbed atop a sleeping woman and had a go.