If he had proposed and you had moved etc. And he got cold deer before the wedding when it's most common, your rule would have been useless?
I think this is the second time I hear about someone with the same rule. And she broke it and is happily married now. So I wouldn't say it's so common. The original rule was to get married first. Before sex, moving in together or really anything much together. That was mostly done so there were men responsible for the women and children. Then it was later romanticized. After that a large portion of the world noticed that it wasn't that great for people and the tradition started to brake down and women got their rights. I'd get your rule more if it was until marriage, definitely not my thing but I'd understand it better. But engaged is imo a strange line. Just reminds me of all the people I knew when I was young that kept getting engaged and them braking it few months later and then getting engaged again a bit later with the same or another person. Kinda shows how little it means to some people so if a guy you date is one if those then the rule is useless.
After 5 years of dating, you already know whether you want to marry her or not. And if you’re being honest, obviously the answer is no, you don’t want to marry her.
People are downvoting you because you say you don’t want to string her along, yet that is exactly what you are doing. Be honest with her, break up, and let her find someone who wants the same things in life.
Who knows? Social media is meaningless and if you want to have a healthy relationship, you'll stop stalking your girlfriends accounts. It doesn't matter why she is friends with some people and not others, it is meaningless.
I don’t know that you’ll be able to convince her entirely because the societal things others have mentioned, but I think the right dirty talk/not in the moment foreplay would be really helpful. If she’s someone who’s into that, at least.
Like, if you message her early in the day about what you want to do to her when you get home, she might be able to mentally prepare to open up that window a bit, rather than being put on the spot later. Or if you’re starting to get heated and you tell her you NEED to taste her? Hot. I’d also recommend making these attempts one day outside the current window at a time. If it’s something she’s anxious about she may be more receptive to allowing it one day outside the window than a handful, and you can potentially build from there.
Don’t stay with a cheater. Respect yourself. She fucked up, and needs to experience the consequences of her actions. You sticking around is an enabling behavior.
It could also be the saying…”If he wanted to, he would or would've” I would feel hurt also. Then also remember the good things you have now because you aren't with him.
Be friends with who you want to be friends with. I slept like shit last night and had a long day, but reading this made me so exhausted that I fear I'm going to fall asleep before dinner time.
How did you 2 even meet? I'd find someone closer to your own age and you most likely will have someone who is in the same boat as you
If he had proposed and you had moved etc. And he got cold deer before the wedding when it's most common, your rule would have been useless?
I think this is the second time I hear about someone with the same rule. And she broke it and is happily married now. So I wouldn't say it's so common. The original rule was to get married first. Before sex, moving in together or really anything much together. That was mostly done so there were men responsible for the women and children. Then it was later romanticized. After that a large portion of the world noticed that it wasn't that great for people and the tradition started to brake down and women got their rights. I'd get your rule more if it was until marriage, definitely not my thing but I'd understand it better. But engaged is imo a strange line. Just reminds me of all the people I knew when I was young that kept getting engaged and them braking it few months later and then getting engaged again a bit later with the same or another person. Kinda shows how little it means to some people so if a guy you date is one if those then the rule is useless.
After 5 years of dating, you already know whether you want to marry her or not. And if you’re being honest, obviously the answer is no, you don’t want to marry her.
People are downvoting you because you say you don’t want to string her along, yet that is exactly what you are doing. Be honest with her, break up, and let her find someone who wants the same things in life.
Do you have an exclusive relationship with Jane?
If not talk to ex.
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Who knows? Social media is meaningless and if you want to have a healthy relationship, you'll stop stalking your girlfriends accounts. It doesn't matter why she is friends with some people and not others, it is meaningless.
I don’t know that you’ll be able to convince her entirely because the societal things others have mentioned, but I think the right dirty talk/not in the moment foreplay would be really helpful. If she’s someone who’s into that, at least.
Like, if you message her early in the day about what you want to do to her when you get home, she might be able to mentally prepare to open up that window a bit, rather than being put on the spot later. Or if you’re starting to get heated and you tell her you NEED to taste her? Hot. I’d also recommend making these attempts one day outside the current window at a time. If it’s something she’s anxious about she may be more receptive to allowing it one day outside the window than a handful, and you can potentially build from there.
“Grooming, red flag!”
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desperation on both parts
Don’t stay with a cheater. Respect yourself. She fucked up, and needs to experience the consequences of her actions. You sticking around is an enabling behavior.
It could also be the saying…”If he wanted to, he would or would've” I would feel hurt also. Then also remember the good things you have now because you aren't with him.
Be friends with who you want to be friends with. I slept like shit last night and had a long day, but reading this made me so exhausted that I fear I'm going to fall asleep before dinner time.
Good advice.
Do yourself loads of good.