Imagine if the genders were reversed. If a woman said stop and acted distressed and the man said “wait it feels good” and kept going, no one would hesitate to say rape.
the 180 is true and I recognize that as being unfair to her; however it was never intentional and came about organically. I can't robotically ignore feelings that emerge 6-7 years into a relationship.
I'm also wondering why a detailed description is a bad thing?
Absolutely. I do wonder if perhaps OP’s wife had a period in between, and he just doesn’t want to get into that-if so that would be a good reason for assuming he is not the father. Otherwise, it seems there is a lot of room for doubt.
Well, you'd have to decide whether that makes a difference to you.
For me, I could see how I might think I'd be okay with something in advance, but then in the actual moment I might realize I'm not as okay with it as I'd thought. In that case, I'd talk to my partner and tell them what I was feeling.
You might've thought you'd be okay with her not telling her parents, but if you're not okay with what that means in practice, then you should talk to her about it. And you two will have to figure out what to do about that. And, ultimately, if she refuses to tell them and you do not want to live with what that means in practice … then you have to make some decisions.
You are going on this hideous tlc show don't you?
A wife in one house is different for a wife in another house.
This question is can be answered the same as to how does one become a girlfriend.
OP is a shitty person for cheating
So are you easy?
Imagine if the genders were reversed. If a woman said stop and acted distressed and the man said “wait it feels good” and kept going, no one would hesitate to say rape.
the 180 is true and I recognize that as being unfair to her; however it was never intentional and came about organically. I can't robotically ignore feelings that emerge 6-7 years into a relationship.
I'm also wondering why a detailed description is a bad thing?
Absolutely. I do wonder if perhaps OP’s wife had a period in between, and he just doesn’t want to get into that-if so that would be a good reason for assuming he is not the father. Otherwise, it seems there is a lot of room for doubt.
Thank you so much!
You're right.
And then he changed behavior again unprompted and stopped?
Well, you'd have to decide whether that makes a difference to you.
For me, I could see how I might think I'd be okay with something in advance, but then in the actual moment I might realize I'm not as okay with it as I'd thought. In that case, I'd talk to my partner and tell them what I was feeling.
You might've thought you'd be okay with her not telling her parents, but if you're not okay with what that means in practice, then you should talk to her about it. And you two will have to figure out what to do about that. And, ultimately, if she refuses to tell them and you do not want to live with what that means in practice … then you have to make some decisions.