So far no one has blamed her, let’s just act like he isn’t under stress, gramps is dead, sister pass out in his house has to pick up mom to drive for hours to a funeral on little sleep , and the Mrs acts like this a regular occurrence,
among people who aren't violent it generally doesn't lead to a physical fight.
But it's the guy's good friend, he should know how to tell his friend to shut it without escalating to violence. “Hey man, can you just knock it off?” is an option. But also, calling your friend's GF a stupid ass bitch is already fighting words, it's pretty weird to not care or even respond at all.
My partner and I are gamers, though him more than me because I’m in school and the SAHP. They also work day shift, 8-4, and we don’t have to be attached at the hip. I actually encourage them to game with their friends, especially on the weekends when they finally have time to relax.
We have 3 kids together and they can still be a parent and help me around the house while having game time.
Is there anyone that you guys trust to take your kiddo for a night so you two can have date night twice a month?
I’m sure she’s feeling the mental load, even though you clean and care for your kiddo, too, she’s home, alone, with the kiddo for 9 hours a day and I’m sure she’s feeling extremely isolated from other people, including you.
She shouldn’t be dictating your gaming time but it sounds like she needs more interaction from you and only just the two of you.
Maybe one weekend, arrange overnight child care for your daughter, send your wife out to get her nails done or something then while she’s out, cook dinner for her, have a hot bath ready and waiting for her and her favorite snack/drink for her to use while soaking in the bath.
I think she’s just starting to hit her limit because she sees you leaving the house for work then you get to game with your friends and she probably doesn’t have any friends, or people that she feels even remotely close with.
I think you and your wife need to sit down and have a serious conversation. Ask her where she’s at mentally and if she needs a break (which she probably does and doesn’t know how to ask for it or she feels mom guilt for even thinking about wanting a break) and find some way to help her with that.
Definitely google “the mental load” and “mom guilt” to get a better understanding of what they are and how to approach the situation.
What he tells his therapist is a snapshot in time. A snapshot you should never have looked at.
Keep in mind, his feelings can change over the course of a day, month, year, decade. Do not confuse him working through his feelings as a statement on his part regarding what he really wants for his future. ALSO, given that pregnancy is a burden that falls entirely on you AND he can change his mind at any point re: sticking around to raise the child, his feelings may not be based in a realistic view of the work involved in having and caring for a child. He may have Christmas puppy excitement about a baby that, again, he needs to work through because those feelings are real, but not ones that should influence the rest of your lives.
So far no one has blamed her, let’s just act like he isn’t under stress, gramps is dead, sister pass out in his house has to pick up mom to drive for hours to a funeral on little sleep , and the Mrs acts like this a regular occurrence,
among people who aren't violent it generally doesn't lead to a physical fight.
But it's the guy's good friend, he should know how to tell his friend to shut it without escalating to violence. “Hey man, can you just knock it off?” is an option. But also, calling your friend's GF a stupid ass bitch is already fighting words, it's pretty weird to not care or even respond at all.
My partner and I are gamers, though him more than me because I’m in school and the SAHP. They also work day shift, 8-4, and we don’t have to be attached at the hip. I actually encourage them to game with their friends, especially on the weekends when they finally have time to relax.
We have 3 kids together and they can still be a parent and help me around the house while having game time.
Is there anyone that you guys trust to take your kiddo for a night so you two can have date night twice a month?
I’m sure she’s feeling the mental load, even though you clean and care for your kiddo, too, she’s home, alone, with the kiddo for 9 hours a day and I’m sure she’s feeling extremely isolated from other people, including you.
She shouldn’t be dictating your gaming time but it sounds like she needs more interaction from you and only just the two of you.
Maybe one weekend, arrange overnight child care for your daughter, send your wife out to get her nails done or something then while she’s out, cook dinner for her, have a hot bath ready and waiting for her and her favorite snack/drink for her to use while soaking in the bath.
I think she’s just starting to hit her limit because she sees you leaving the house for work then you get to game with your friends and she probably doesn’t have any friends, or people that she feels even remotely close with.
I think you and your wife need to sit down and have a serious conversation. Ask her where she’s at mentally and if she needs a break (which she probably does and doesn’t know how to ask for it or she feels mom guilt for even thinking about wanting a break) and find some way to help her with that.
Definitely google “the mental load” and “mom guilt” to get a better understanding of what they are and how to approach the situation.
Do you have a source on that first, incredibly bold claim? I don't think the average anyone is this overly sensitive.
What he tells his therapist is a snapshot in time. A snapshot you should never have looked at.
Keep in mind, his feelings can change over the course of a day, month, year, decade. Do not confuse him working through his feelings as a statement on his part regarding what he really wants for his future. ALSO, given that pregnancy is a burden that falls entirely on you AND he can change his mind at any point re: sticking around to raise the child, his feelings may not be based in a realistic view of the work involved in having and caring for a child. He may have Christmas puppy excitement about a baby that, again, he needs to work through because those feelings are real, but not ones that should influence the rest of your lives.
Frankly, that whole part screamed of wanting her to be on a BC he could “accidentally” sabotage.
Bro, if you're engaging in kink both parties have to be aware of it and there's gotta be negotiation and safe words. What he did wasn't cool.