Is this the only way that you feel he isn’t proactive? Like, do you have to prompt him to do lots of things that you need? for instance, will he take out the trash if he sees that it’s full, or does he wait for you to ask him to do it?
I ask this only because it’s incredibly common in hetero relationships for men to expect women to be the “house manager” and they are just waiting for instructions. This is referred to as “emotional labor” and many people grow to resent the burden of it over time. If he is generally pretty proactive around the house, then I would chalk this up to a miscommunication or difference in preference regarding how one should respond to the other being sick. But if this is just yet another example of him requiring you to ask him for assistance instead of offering it unprompted, you might want to think about what that will mean long-term.
You are angry that he has an emotional affair with a man. he seems more interested in him than you
you are both bisexual
you should break up with him
every other offer will make you cheat on each other
UpdateMe!
That means it's not the right person
Is this the only way that you feel he isn’t proactive? Like, do you have to prompt him to do lots of things that you need? for instance, will he take out the trash if he sees that it’s full, or does he wait for you to ask him to do it?
I ask this only because it’s incredibly common in hetero relationships for men to expect women to be the “house manager” and they are just waiting for instructions. This is referred to as “emotional labor” and many people grow to resent the burden of it over time. If he is generally pretty proactive around the house, then I would chalk this up to a miscommunication or difference in preference regarding how one should respond to the other being sick. But if this is just yet another example of him requiring you to ask him for assistance instead of offering it unprompted, you might want to think about what that will mean long-term.