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Start out by being extremely observant. Pay attention to the time of day he likes to have sex and plan your doings to fit in that window. Pay close attention to him while you’re having sex, and note when something you do seems to get him excited. Next time, do that same thing, and amplify it a little bit. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t seem to work this time. Keep observing and keep amplifying until you find something that works. Once you do, amplify some more. You don’t need confidence for this as much as you need determination and persistence.
I guess somewhere I’m feeling guilty, I was hiding from him this thing because I didn’t want to hurt him. Im not really looking for advice, just wanna see other people thoughts and maybe find some answers
Yeah I kind of feel like this is just an excuse. It feels like a huge overreaction or leap. It would have been easy to sit down (like…alone??? not in front of his friends?!?!?!?) and talk about this. He also could have sat with his feelings for more than 15 minutes before he started texting me we were done and wanting me to get my stuff from his house less than 12 hours later.
I know all the above is true, but I still feel heartbroken, horrible and at fault right now.
I really feel for your girlfriend. Wanting to spend time with someone who very clearly considers you a low priority hurts like hell, and she keeps trying anyway.
If you don’t approve of him talking to your sister, then distance yourself. You’ve already said you disapprove, the most you can do now is either discontinue the friendship or go lower contact with both of them. If you think he’s a bad influence or you think your sister is stealing “your” friends (which you don’t have a claim on them) then do not introduce your sister to your friends. Do not bring them to events she’ll be at, remove her from your social media and private it so she can’t hit them up on the low. But they’re two grown adults, who can make their own decisions on who to converse with.
You’re under no obligation to give him the time of day, but if you are considering it ask him what he’s done to improve himself. If it’s just words and promises, no actions, don’t waste your time.
Forgive me, I’m not sure if you’re being serious or not but I’m still going to answer.
I don’t think I’m cute. I don’t think I’m super ugly but I don’t consider myself pretty either. I’m average I would say. There’s no way he would be into me. Doing that would be stalking and it seems very wrong. That would be crossing a line with my husband too.
No, my bf asked me to have sex with a stranger while we were in a relationship. And that's the guy I hit up for sex after the break-up because I knew him already
“I wouldn't call my observations and opinions manipulation. You also wouldn't normally guilt-trip me for having an opinion, which strengthens my believe that you have a problem.
As of the guy in the picture, no I wouldn't date him, because I'm dating you and yes I'd date you still, if you gained weight.”
I mean, I'm not suggesting they are but that sounds like they might have some issues they need therapy for. They could also just be doing that highschool girl clique thing where they think talking shit about your friends is “bonding” which in itself is an issue that needs help for. You can just politely tell them when they're feeling like venting about this stuff to not include you in it.
Also p.s what ive learnt from people like this, they do it about you too.
No no I meant like I get very very into the sex and close my eyes most of the time. I’m shy and don’t like to watch haha. So I don’t know if he’s pulling out to change position or just pulling out to go right back in. It’s hard to tell if I’m not watching.
Maybe you’re just not compatible. She’s what’s known as a “pillow princess.” She’s happy to be passive in bed, but she’s not willing to put forth much effort. You’ve told her what you’d like, and she actually COMPLAINS about exerting herself in bed.
There’s nothing wrong with breaking up with her bc the sex isn’t satisfying. You’ve only been together 3 months. This is likely as good as the sex will get.
Thank you for your thoughts. This is definitely what I’ve been doing to some degree. I have been putting myself first, but it’s still fresh, so I do of course think about it a lot.
Okay since I’ve been with my now husband I’ve completely changed my way of eating, learnt about proper nutrition for the human body and dropped nearly two dress sizes. I did it FOR ME!
I would never go back to what I was eating before, the balanced diet fallacy, have treats because you deserve them etc. But because I don’t want to feel the way that makes ME feel. Get the picture?! Everything feels better when you fuel properly -mentally, physically, sexually – honestly it’s just the best. I look forward to every day.
Your bf can have a body size/shape preference. But he doesn’t get to tell you what to do.
He doesn’t get to shame you into anything
He doesn’t get to make you feel his love is dependent on you losing weight.
No one can really advise you what to do. Only what we would do. And I wouldn’t put up with his attitude!)
Start out by being extremely observant. Pay attention to the time of day he likes to have sex and plan your doings to fit in that window. Pay close attention to him while you’re having sex, and note when something you do seems to get him excited. Next time, do that same thing, and amplify it a little bit. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t seem to work this time. Keep observing and keep amplifying until you find something that works. Once you do, amplify some more. You don’t need confidence for this as much as you need determination and persistence.
OK, well you asked and I answered. No, I don't think this person cares about you because if he did care about you he would treat you better.
Feel free to ignore that if it makes you feel better.
Maybe. It doesn't seem like a healthy situation for either of them.
I guess somewhere I’m feeling guilty, I was hiding from him this thing because I didn’t want to hurt him. Im not really looking for advice, just wanna see other people thoughts and maybe find some answers
Are you willing to change and push your comfort zones?
Uhm. That’s not how it works. I do these things with my male friends. I’ve been friends with them for like 10+ years.
Why do you even care? He obviously doesn’t get attached easily and he doesn’t want a gf. Why are you trying to control his life?
Bro u love her but not in love with her. Say that
Sounds like the guy is a big Halo fan. But damn he needs to pump the brakes.
If she comes back with the let’s just be friends crap it’s me not you, but your not ready for a relationship. Bs
Tell her no to friend zone, I wish you luck in life and I hope you find whatever your looking for.
I’m female and it’s your in or your out, non of this maybe nonsense.
Everyone's different and it's always good to chat about little stuff like this.
What was the fight about?
Yeah I kind of feel like this is just an excuse. It feels like a huge overreaction or leap. It would have been easy to sit down (like…alone??? not in front of his friends?!?!?!?) and talk about this. He also could have sat with his feelings for more than 15 minutes before he started texting me we were done and wanting me to get my stuff from his house less than 12 hours later.
I know all the above is true, but I still feel heartbroken, horrible and at fault right now.
He’s making you prove you are where you say you are. HUGE red flag. Creepy!
That's not normal love, you might want to look into therapy.
So why do you think she's stayed with you for 3.5 years?
I really feel for your girlfriend. Wanting to spend time with someone who very clearly considers you a low priority hurts like hell, and she keeps trying anyway.
If you don’t approve of him talking to your sister, then distance yourself. You’ve already said you disapprove, the most you can do now is either discontinue the friendship or go lower contact with both of them. If you think he’s a bad influence or you think your sister is stealing “your” friends (which you don’t have a claim on them) then do not introduce your sister to your friends. Do not bring them to events she’ll be at, remove her from your social media and private it so she can’t hit them up on the low. But they’re two grown adults, who can make their own decisions on who to converse with.
Thank you
Thanks for the advice. I don’t want to break anyone’s heart and end up in a stalemate because of this.
You’re under no obligation to give him the time of day, but if you are considering it ask him what he’s done to improve himself. If it’s just words and promises, no actions, don’t waste your time.
Fair.
Forgive me, I’m not sure if you’re being serious or not but I’m still going to answer.
I don’t think I’m cute. I don’t think I’m super ugly but I don’t consider myself pretty either. I’m average I would say. There’s no way he would be into me. Doing that would be stalking and it seems very wrong. That would be crossing a line with my husband too.
Let her go on a trip, some people lose all sense of person identity in marriage and/or parenthood.
Support her and encourage her, you and your daughter will benefit greatly from your wife reclaiming her own sense of personal identity.
Don't negative it some big negative thing when it's not.
We talked about karma in your last post and you said something about 'having to become karma.' I explained to you that's not how karma works.
But it seems karma DID dole itself out here because:
His karma was cheating and knocking up his ex that plans to keep the baby.
Your karma is you fucked an 18 year old for nothing and now you are a cheater as well.
So congrats, you accomplished nothing except bringing bad karma to yourself.
No, my bf asked me to have sex with a stranger while we were in a relationship. And that's the guy I hit up for sex after the break-up because I knew him already
Your response should be:
“I wouldn't call my observations and opinions manipulation. You also wouldn't normally guilt-trip me for having an opinion, which strengthens my believe that you have a problem.
As of the guy in the picture, no I wouldn't date him, because I'm dating you and yes I'd date you still, if you gained weight.”
I will say, without getting into it too much. This is absolutely a kink couples have. Each gets their own kind enjoyment out of it.
I’m not judging, just FYI..
I mean, I'm not suggesting they are but that sounds like they might have some issues they need therapy for. They could also just be doing that highschool girl clique thing where they think talking shit about your friends is “bonding” which in itself is an issue that needs help for. You can just politely tell them when they're feeling like venting about this stuff to not include you in it.
Also p.s what ive learnt from people like this, they do it about you too.
No no I meant like I get very very into the sex and close my eyes most of the time. I’m shy and don’t like to watch haha. So I don’t know if he’s pulling out to change position or just pulling out to go right back in. It’s hard to tell if I’m not watching.
Maybe you’re just not compatible. She’s what’s known as a “pillow princess.” She’s happy to be passive in bed, but she’s not willing to put forth much effort. You’ve told her what you’d like, and she actually COMPLAINS about exerting herself in bed.
There’s nothing wrong with breaking up with her bc the sex isn’t satisfying. You’ve only been together 3 months. This is likely as good as the sex will get.
Thank you for your thoughts. This is definitely what I’ve been doing to some degree. I have been putting myself first, but it’s still fresh, so I do of course think about it a lot.
Okay since I’ve been with my now husband I’ve completely changed my way of eating, learnt about proper nutrition for the human body and dropped nearly two dress sizes. I did it FOR ME!
I would never go back to what I was eating before, the balanced diet fallacy, have treats because you deserve them etc. But because I don’t want to feel the way that makes ME feel. Get the picture?! Everything feels better when you fuel properly -mentally, physically, sexually – honestly it’s just the best. I look forward to every day.
Your bf can have a body size/shape preference. But he doesn’t get to tell you what to do.
He doesn’t get to shame you into anything
He doesn’t get to make you feel his love is dependent on you losing weight.
No one can really advise you what to do. Only what we would do. And I wouldn’t put up with his attitude!)