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Date: October 31, 2022
Don’t look back
You're wanting to have her back, but can you REALLY change how you are? Really? for sure? because change is hard.
Go ahead and shoot your shot, you have nothing to lose but your pride. She'll let you know. I'm guessing she turns you down.
He randomly asked me to go out with him for New Years too. So I get confused because he sends me a lot of mixed messages
Thanks for that. I have definitely been like that before in the past so I can understand that many years if experience leads him to defensively react like that, but I've tried for a long time now the approach of speaking solely about how I feel, instead of how he is making me feel and that doesn't seem to get through to him either. Again, I try to be understanding that a relatively “newer” way of going about things won't always trump the way things have been in the past, but now I feel like there was too much damage for him to see it from that perspective now.
No, he’s not cheating – that’s a given. I got him to talk a little – it looks like the problem is that I ignore him – from little things like “don’t leave the dish sponge in the sink” to more globals – and I’ve been thinking that maybe I really do – but I definitely don’t do it on purpose. I want to change it, to stop – and for some time it works, but then according to him I revert to “old ways”. He doesn’t believe I can stop doing it anymore – and I’m not even sure if I really can, but I want to try and try again. But I feel that I can’t promise I will stop, and even if I do promise – I myself not sure I will. I’m lost and don’t know what to do. I understand his frustration as I’ve been ignored time and time again before – it feels like a dead end
It's never okay for your partner to disrespect you or make threats in an attempt to manipulate you. It may be helpful to set some boundaries in your future relationships and have a conversation about what your expectations and stick to them. For example, you could let your future partner know that you split the bills 50 50 and that you expect them to communicate with you in a respectful and open way. I would advise to leave this person as she does not respect you.
Terrifying. This is above Reddit’s pay grade? OP. You should discuss this with a mental health professional and maybe an attorney. Make the choices that are best for you but know that if you have this man’s children you will be inextricably linked to him forever.
If this is a one off and he has apologised let it go. He’s learned something and you can be the bigger person here.
This is not a hill to die on or you’ll end up very lonely.
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Doesn't entirely make sense. I could see you distancing yourself from your friend if he was her ex and you wanted to be with her now, meaning that seeing him would remind you of a time that they were together, creating feelings of jealousy. In this scenario, however, why should it bother you who she sleeps with, she's a bygone relationship and you should have no emotional ties to her. If you do, time to look inwards and move on.
Why is the immediate solution not to talk about your lack of sex life and your needs not being fulfilled… But instead to propose an open relationship? Seems out of nowhere for me.
My(20M) Girlfriend (20F) Hates when I play video games
She's a fun hater, plain and simple. And it'll only get worse the longer you stay together.
If she'd rather play games than see you, then you have your answer. She just not into you anymore sorry.
Thank you everyone for your advice and your thoughts!! I felt reassured after reading the nice comments. I wanted to update you all that i talked with my boyfriend again last night and got so much more clarity.
One thing that i didn’t mention (that i didn’t realize was a factor in his asking) was that I’ve been with women before and i am sexually attracted to them. My boyfriend said he thought that it would be something i would enjoy too since i like women and that he doesn’t want to just have sex with another girl, but wanted something that could be enjoyable for us both. He also said that he wouldn’t want to have a threesome with another man because he wouldn’t like to see another man’s penis inside me (lol) and i said that’s exactly how i feel about him with another girl. He said he understands and he doesn’t ever want to do anything to hurt my feelings and he reassured me that he didn’t bring it up bc I’m not enough and he never wants to make me feel that way. ❤️
I feel so much better and my boyfriend is great! Thank you all!
I guess it because i still have hope. I’m hoping he’ll realise but I’m also taking space to myself. I need to get my head sorted. He told me that if I got wind off my feelings. He’d drop me but he hasn’t. I miss him but I’ve been around him for so long. Then he pops up after posting about uni. My friend he said he doesn’t want me and he’ll never want anything etc, so I should move on. Which hurts because I’ve had a 9 month relationship with him.
I can see your point and I appreciate your honesty even though it's a little tough to take right now.
I'm going to try therapy for myself and suggest at least couples therapy and see how it goes.
As it stands, she's not given him money in almost 4 years (in 5 days it'll be 4 years to the day) and she's not had any one on one contact with him in at least 2 years, maybe more. As of late, she's not interacted with her family very much except for one of her nieces. She didn't even visit with them when we were there for Christmas (my family lives in the same town). I asked if she was going to visit with them and she said no, that they have their own traditions now, whatever that means. Maybe she was just making an excuse.
She realizes her family is f'd up because they have the same “let's forget you're a criminal and act like nothing happened” attitude with her other nieces husband but that's a whole other story. That one is about drugs and stealing.
Or maybe she just asked to see if he was into it? Flat out asking is not trying to get away with something. He said no and she backed off. If she's been trustworthy in the past why would you assume she isn't now?
I've never seen them meet in person, it's just what he told me. He even confronted her once when he's had enough of the conflicting behaviour in reality / messages. And she said it's completely normal for friends to make out, hold hands etc. and that he just perceives it as an illusion and there is nothing going on between them. She is just being “friendly”.
I wouldn’t say so. I would be equally annoyed if an insecure wife started bombarding me with ridiculous questions based on a smell..
Tell your friends it's making you uncomfortable and you don't want to be included in activities or events that she will be attending. Tell them you made it clear to her that you wouldn't be comfortable with her joining the friend group and should have been more honest with the rest of them with how much it bothered you. Be direct and lay out your boundaries for everyone and then take a step back and invest in exploring new hobbies, join some clubs, volunteer and work on meeting some new people with common interests.
But that’s not what happened here. He did not just dump his daughter. He raised her the best they could while raising himself too. He PAID for her school, bought her car, paid for her rent, paid for her holidays. Daughter just sounds spoiled and entitled and doesn’t like it that her father is treating her like the adult she is.
Of course that nobody is the perfect match for every little detail, and try to remedy that is being childish, I think (I don't speak English, if I manage more words I would not say “childish”).
Anyway, I think you don't have to share everyhing, and that is a good thing.
Recording you without your consent is what most would consider to be a huge violation of respect and trust. You said that you were up front with him that you were not ok with this unless he asked first. Then he did it anyway. You told him again, you are not ok with being recorded without giving consent…. and then he did it again. I honestly don't think you'd be overreacting at all if you broke things off with him. Also, I would strongly recommend you have him delete all videos of you and make it perfectly clear that he understands that there are laws against “revenge porn” because people who violate boundaries with images and videos like this are usually the ones who end up posting these videos on porn sites, showing the videos to friends etc…
I would suggest not being paranoid.
Of all the things in this world that can kill you, this seems like the most unlikely. Don't become a prisoner of irrational fear.
Of course! And good luck!
Yeah unfortunately you can only hope that F40 is also equally mid-western and offers a massive thank you once this all calms down, unless you’re comfortable being more upfront.
But if you figure out dream walking that would probably be the easiest option lol.
Agree fully.
Sounds like they just aren’t compatible. But instead of talking honestly, OP is just…freaked out by her timeline?
…But it’s not that unreasonable at 25 for her to HAVE a timeline like that.
I’ve always wanted kids. Started dating my husband at 21. Got married at 25. Tried for two years. Couldn’t get pregnant. Started the fertility investigation process which took a full year. Found out we had to do IVF. Saved money for two years. Now doing that to try and make a family. At 30.
35 is still considered advanced maternal age. Doctors recommend we aggressively work to complete our family sooner than later, to avoid complications.
So in order to have the three kids I wanted, I have to get VERY lucky and shoot them out back to back, or risk more serious issues every year it doesn’t work. At great risk and stress and financial cost.
…Men seem to downplay that. Because they don’t understand women’s health. And because mens fertility doesn’t decrease with age like it does for women. So they don’t get why we sometimes NEED a timeline in order to commit.
This woman’s (based on MY timeline and personal experience) already hearing the biological clock start ticking, and doesn’t want to waste time.
If that doesn’t work for OP, he should end things amicably because they are on two separate pages.
But it’s not like she’s being insane for wanting to settle down and place roots at 25. That’s pretty understandable.
Nobody’s really a terrible person here, but I do get irritated with men like OP that think women hysterical for being conscientious about the reality of fertility for women.
Are you guys having lots of sex, are you happy with your intimate relationship? Is it happening as frequently and enthusiastically as you’d like?
Do you think she treats you lovingly as you would expect from a partner?
If yes, good news. You may not be the type she usually goes for but her actions show she’s attracted to you and committed to the relationship.
If no I’d be concerned that she’s settling for you because you tick other boxes but she isn’t that attracted to you. This would concern me greatly. Judging from the posts I read here it leads to you being insecure and unsatisfied, a recipe for disaster.
Yh I get that but for me it’s, firstly ethically and morally I don’t agree with it at all, I think it sets a bad precedent for children in future (mummy got them so why can’t I) and lastly I genuinely don’t see that as beautiful I get it’s beauty standards that have put this pressure on women but it doesn’t appeal to me whatsoever, she set a picture that had some filter that was supposedly made her ‘perfect’ how she ‘should’ look and I was like I dont think that’s beautiful or that’s not my perception of beauty
That spotting was probably your hymen, unless it is common for you to spot.
I will say that Xanax wouldn't knock you out cold. If someone were having sex with you, you would wake up.
Girl, come on… How are you still confused?
On the very same day and in the very same conversation that your boyfriend heartfeltly told you he finally understood his mistake, he lied to you yet again and told you the other women he was texting was “nobody”.
He only told you the actual truth after you pressed him, and it wasn't exactly a good truth, was it? It was only further proof that he acted unfaithfully all along and excerberated your already lacking trust in him.
No, the two of you shouldn't have a second chance together. You should have a second chance, but not with this man who has consistently lied to you and continues to do so even after “realising his mistakes.”
just a cop-out by people who want whites to be the root of all evil, thus showing their own racist views.
It’s been a year, you don’t feel emotionally attached and seem to be implying she is stupid or at least mentally beneath you. Do you really need advice to break up?
This is partly why I posted. I would say I do have a good sense for manipulation if it doesn't involve me directly. If the other person is offended by my actions and reacting to me, I really struggle to understand whether it's an issue with them or if I'm trying to minimize my own involvement and not taking accountability. Thank you for your response.
Ooooo you owned me! There's a different definition in Canadian law!! Still doesn't invalidate the point I was making in the first place
Well I'm curious now as we haven't had relations for a while now, but he's been getting weird things going on down below keeps saying it's infections. My mind is totally messed up, to be honest and I'm currently on the start of a divorce from my ex as well l, so could do without this extra stress,but saying that he's narcissistic as well and will turn the blame onto me when confronted
Block that jerk's phone # or change your phone #.
Personally, I don't believe your sexual history, including body count, should be anyone else's business and you should not feel obligated to reveal that information to anyone. Your guy is only a boyfriend at this time – not your fiance and he should be willing to accept and love you “as is”, worts and all. If his love for you is conditional, then you should keep looking for that special someone who will love you, “as is”!
thank you. I was doubting myself because I didn't want to hold him back, but I agree that it's best to communicate and let him choose. it would be wrong of me to take away his right to make decisions trying to protect him.
That would be a spinal surgery if he regains his ability to walk. You really think that’s a one day surgery?
I have this New York bridge to sell you. If you don’t like New York, I have Arizona beach property to sell you.
Yes, I have a bit of memory problem. She expects me to care for her more, I better write down the stuffs I might forget. We do not live together. She told me to wait as she was doing chores, and will come back to text me after 15-20 mints. But I didn't, I fell asleep.
This is all very vague. But almost sounds… intentional for the lack of a better word. Like, you like the drama it causes between the two of you. As if, you prefer her to be upset and needy about the “small stuffs”, which makes her give you the attention, instead you reciprocating.