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Date: January 22, 2023
Sorry but it’s not just your home anymore, gonna need to make compromises
How is this bad for women exactly?
I'd agree with you if OP had responded to any of the requests for more info. She's had 13 hours and numerous people have asked at this point and still nothing.
I had a similar experience, feeling guilty and ill after kissing. But that guy… I didn’t even like him and felt guilty for kissing, even though I knew, I wouldn’t want to meet him again.
You on the other hand, seem to really like him.
Have you heard of „relationship OCD“? I would advise you not to trauma dump the entirety of your feelings on him right now. It’s a little early to do that, if you yourself aren’t clear on what’s going on.
Why do you think him wanting to kiss you, says something bad about you?
You „felt like“ kissing him back. Do you like him less, because you got to kiss him? Probably not.
So why should he?
Yeah, I wonder if all of his friends that are going are single
I'll look into ketamine. My brother-in-law witnessed a horrific accident (cyclists mowed down by a truck) and struggled with PTSD. Ketamine therapy was helpful for him.
I just want something to work. I miss my spouse. His breaks are so sudden and so hard that it has just become super unmanagable… it feels worse because he wants help and wants to get better but it's just been getting worse.
She's using sex as a weapon against you…..what's the point of you sticking around…. to live a sexually frustrating life?
I see her valuing partying more than her relationship. I never said she was loose. You brought that up, not me.
Idgaf how his feelings get hurt from now forward, he'll feel the same hurt I am.
Did you at any point ask him if it would be OK with him for you to create a profile on said dating app? I mean I'm old school…. If it's OK for him it should be OK for you. Otherwise the profile comes down and he goes to therapy.
Break up with him NOW. Do not have sex with him unless there is birth control used. You do not want a baby with this guy. The pull out method will lead to an unwanted pregnancy with an asshole baby daddy.
It's the carrot and the stick. It's a combination of reward (when he's helpful) and punishment (when he's hurtful) it's used as a control tactic. He is keeping you in a constant state of never knowing whether it's gonna be a good day or a bad day. That is abuse. He should NEVER intentionally hurt you or demean you. Which he clearly doesn't care about. You're too young please just move on.
My boyfriend struggles with some serious mental and physical issues following his military service. One time, it got bad and it started affecting his hygiene. It sucked to tell him that he needed to brush his teeth and wash up more often. To be fair, he didn’t expect intimacy (he also wasn’t up to it because he felt really bad). I would just be honest and tell him you find it gross that he doesn’t care about cleanliness. And that you’re worried about what that means for the future.
Are you sure your boyfriend isn’t actually 17 instead of 37? Because demanding blowjobs and being a dick when you don’t give one is something an immature teenager would do.
The marriage is failing. His offence at this is, without wanting to sound too harsh, a “so what?” situation. Is anything else working? He doesn't want therapy, is anything going to change?
What other choices do you have here? Continue to be miserable?
Unless there are readily apparent solutions that you're both ignoring, what other options are there? Also, if you don't want to be with him, don't be with him. His offence is kind of irrelevant at that point.
But…why? What's the joke?
Jesus Christ you people can not be real.
Yes just give her your number and say to text you if you have limited time. Say I’m normally free on Saturdays or after 3 on weekdays, let me know what works for you. If you have more time to talk and she seems comfortable and interested then ask when works for her. If she never texts you and avoids you after then accept she isn’t interested.
You should follow instruction and run as fast as you can bro!
Because she wanted a baby in the context of a loving marriage with a supportive husband. She may not want a baby as a single parent with an unstable and potentially misogynistic co-parent. She should consider all her options now given the time constraints. Not everyone sees abortion as the horrible option you seem to.
Just break up. This is never going to end well.
You already see each other 2-3x a week and have a life + kids. What more do you think you can offer him? He sounds too needy tbh
It’s fine that a prenup is not going to happen no matter how many people try to convince you they are good. And it’s fine that you are willing to be with him without marriage and keep your finances separate. But that means one of will own the house and the other will be a renter. Buying a house together without being married is always a disaster. And you can have children without being married. But whatever your idea of marriage is doesn’t seem to be his and that can lead to problems in the relationship whether you are married or not.
You do what you’re doing. You give her space and leave everything in her court. If she wants to be friends again she’ll reach out.
A female friend took a kinda artsy picture of your girlfriend fully clothed, standing on some stairs at a train station and you think the focus of this photo is the ass?
She needs to see this and drop you dude. And you need to examine why you’re so hung up about this.
A female friend took a kinda artsy picture of your girlfriend fully clothed, standing on some stairs at a train station and you think the focus of this photo is the ass?
She needs to see this and drop you dude. And you need to examine why you’re so hung up about this.
What? Why do you think that I hate women?
Really? Lol you’re attracted to the girl. You can’t and shouldn’t convince her to be okay with this.
Please know this is not okay. During a difficult, stressful time, it's normal for libido to drop. While your partner may be frustrated at times, it's not okay for her to lash out at you or pressure you into sex.
And it's not okay for her to beat you with a mistake constantly. You make up and move on. It shouldn't be used to bludgeon you with every time she's unhappy.
This is all textbook toxicity and you should not stay and put up with it.
Do not engage with the BIL and get security. Do not tell anyone you are getting security. Security can be discreet. A clown will not be discreet.
This has to be a troll post. Nobody is so dumb.
oh sure, cause a jerk that is enabled by a whole family and a fiancee that is not willing to stand up for their partner is never a telltale sign of a soon to be fractured marriage/relationship
Also I don’t think he would get mad if I was on his phone and “accidentally” saw it so I can say that…
Short answer is no because you should unwife her
Your daughter sounds really fun. Sure it might not be for everyone but being different isn’t bad. Let her be and know you would be a horrible parent if you try and change her.
Yo…red flag red flag red flag. One day it could possibly be you in the place of the ex. Think about this….he was willing to let her change his son’s last name just because he didn’t want to get into with her!!! A man that is active in his child’s life and is a great father was willing to let her change the son’s name just to keep the peace with her. That man must have some trauma from dealing with your fiancé. You better be careful because she sounds like a lot. She’s going to run you ragged!!! Think long and hard how she reacts when she doesn’t get her way!!! On my gracious. Run man run!!!
I’m trying not to. I’m just afraid of making a mistake. I’m also afraid of leading on my girlfriend.
Idk there’s a huge context missing and that’s the actual phone call. Besides the vague one sided version Op have none of us here know how that phone call went to even begin to say half of the comments that were sent already. Everyone just assuming their own shit per usual.
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You combat that by calming down and being genuine. The truth wins out, even if not immediately
You ultimately have to decide. You are more fluid than she is as evidenced by the fact you forgave and worked out issues with her exes. She however is unwilling to do that. In fairness was very direct about her boundaries and you did not adhere to them. So both are caused problems.
Frankly leave her alone and see what happens. Don't be one of her posse. This may be a thing with her like the runaway bride….I know you weren't engaged yet, but she has men before you as a posse, so she may have an issue.
I agree, but I think it’s more legitimate when people actually do what there suggesting. I use to volunteer all the time and I should volunteer more now, again.
No. You want to share ‘the experience’ of having sex with him. Of having an orgasm. Of having passionate time together.
Could do an eyepatch and say you had some eye surgery.
Wow, I didn't expect my unofficial diagnosis to be so spot-on (!!!). Another long reply:
Obviously, you should never feel like you are your partner's therapist, nor his parent. Now that I read one of your older posts, I understand more of your situation. While there can be flexibility in who acts as the “alpha” in the relationship, you have ended up in more of a parent or psychologist role than as an intimate partner. I can't see that working out long-term.
I'm blown away by how much of this you already understand. Very few people, including psychologists, understand this.
Now it's time for some hard decisions. Your situation is stable, and you (unlike most people) understand it well.
Your advantages if you were to marry and move to the US:
You as a couple would be able to afford to live in a good neighborhood (which is hard to do today in the US!). While pediatricians in the UK make £129K, in the US it's $216K ( £175K), which is enough for all but the most extreme cities (e.g., Manhattan, San Francisco, Miami). If you also are high-earning, anywhere is fair game. You would eventually qualify to become a dual citizen. With only one caveat: Americans are the only people in the world who have to pay double tax on earnings on anything above about $110K USD. So your net income would go down if you ever moved back to the UK as a dual citizen, assuming you have a high-paying job (with gains in travel and retirement options). Note that I've been tempted to do something similar: my wife and I would qualify for a quick dual citizenship if we became residents of Spain. She would get it in about 2 years, mine would take about 5. But to find my job in Spain at a salary equivalent to what I earn now… unlikely!
But:
You would still be living basically as the parent and therapist instead of the intimate partner. Racism has reached a high point right now in the US (we've gone backward about 60 years!). My children are literally a mix of about a dozen countries, and we have to be very selective about where it makes sense to live. The other half of it is that, while the LGBTQIA community now has more rights and is more accepted (especially gays), much of the gay community in the US is VERY racist. So finding a good location that is both gay-friendly and not racist is HARD. Good cities may include: New York City, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Houston, and Miami. Not sure about Atlanta and DC (good for blacks, not sure about Mediterraneans). It would require some serious investigation. You should assume that anywhere that voted for the angry orange toddler in the 2016 and 2020 elections isn't a safe space.
In my case, I have aphantasia and some autistic traits. My wife is asexual 99% of the time, and had some traumas in her youth. It's far less extreme than your scenario, yet it's still been difficult.
I especially relate to your scenario because my children are in similar circumstances.
One has ADHD, some autistic traits, clinical depression, is nonbinary, is pansexual, has PCOS, and is demisexual. Complicated. An attempted marriage was a disaster. Due to being demisexual, a long-term intimate relationship could never last (demisexuality eventually turns intimate partners into roomies). The other is fully autistic, greyromantic, nonbinary, has PCOS, and is a sex-repulsed asexual. Marriage absolutely cannot happen, unless it was with someone with nearly identical characteristics (“needle in a haystack”). That child has dated a little bit, but it always has been “friends without benefits”.
Some would suggest for your scenario an “open relationship”, but that would never work. Your partner would freak out about it, and from your perspective, you would be further separated from each other. If you cheated on the sly, you would feel bad about it, and would still end up breaking up.
I wish I had suggestions on what you could do to improve your relationship, but you are facing things that don't have a “cure”, they are aspects of your partner that are permanent. He's not “broken”, he's just very different from you.
Please let us know what ends up happening. Onward and upward!
It’s nothing.
This!!!! It really is pathetic and emabrassing