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Date: October 12, 2022
My boyfriend and I were vehemently child free when we met and now I warm up to the idea of a child with him and I think he doesn't mind the idea very much either. I feel like if he hasn't warmed up to it and this has been an ongoing argument, he won't change his mind.
You don't owe him an explanation or anything else – that just usually results in him trying to talk you out of leaving.
Lost the savings money I trusted him with ($300), had a video of his ex giving him brain in an album labeled “arsenal” on his phone. An album that had our videos and stuff in it. Told me it was just him going through his old nudes and that he didn’t watch it or care about his ex. (Didn’t see any other of his nudes.) And told me he went broke to come visit me so that proves he loves me and I should basically not be mad at him for it. Got mad at me for saying he wasnt the biggest D size I’ve had- even though I’ve told him he is perfect for me. And he asked me straight to my face. Told me I chose another dude over him, tried to get me to message and harass the dude who was bigger. And etc. Got upset that I hung out with a friend when he said he needed me. But I had asked him prior if he wanted me to cancel my plans but they kept telling me no. Until I just canceled and he was still mad. Things like that.
Damn what kind of Airbnb is that? Maybe he just wasn’t thinking when he asked you for money. Since he has money. He thinks everyone has money. But the joint account for dates? He is living at home with only a few expenses and he wants you to cover part of a date? I have to say I would think about this relationship and where it’s going.
Therapy and perhaps taking lithium as a medication against your manic issues.
Therapy and perhaps taking lithium as a medication against your manic issues.
If you are still feeling guilty you should work through that first. It might be some internalized homophobia. You’re allowed to have feelings and fall in love and be upset when someone isn’t careful with your heart. Give yourself some grace. It’s not easy to just get over things like this and you can’t just decide to not feel things. Best of luck to you. It’s not impossible to be friends with exes, but it needs to be from a place of strength and mutual respect. He needs to be good to you as well.
I think 1 in 10,000 relationships with an age gap where the younger person in their 20s isn't problematic. Could you be the 1 in 10,000? Sure. But I'm skeptical (and biased) so I'm pointing out the one thing that gives me the big ick in this story.
“he has said he typically cannot date younger women because he can sense their naivety and has difficulty relating to them. However, when the two of us are together we completely forget about the age gap.”
Sounds like something someone would say in an effort to “other” you from your peers. When your friends comment on the age gap he's cuing you up to think “well yes, but I'm special and my friends just don't understand because they're not mature like me.” Power dynamics depend on cutting you off from your support systems and it feels like seeds are being planted.
Whatever money you would lose by canceling the wedding will be much less than a divorce. Do not marry this man.
Post it on SM and tag her, him, and her friends and family. Then I would block her and everywhere. No need for direct communication as she knows exactly why and she deserves to have her world blown up without you talking to her ever again.
I wouldn’t be able to forgive something like this, also what was even the point in telling you if he’s not going to admit it’s a problem and try and work on it? Personally I would move on, there are plenty of men out there that would be more than happy to treat you right.
What’s your parental situation?
Regardless, as for punishment, that’s not for us to decide.
I would, however, at the very least sit down and have a long talk about all of this. Physical violence will never be the acceptable answer even if any of us say it’s justified. There’s simply too much to lose.
But he needs to be told that as angry as he might get, he needs to learn how to remain calm and escalate it in a more pragmatic manner.
Why did you split up ? Document this and show it to your lawyer as this is psychological abuse and blackmail
Move the cat food.
I’m not trying to pick on him. I assure him all the time that I’m not gonna break up w him but it hurts that he thinks I am despite my assurances
Dora she know divorce is coming? Then she may be love bombing.
Is she unaware? Then what brought on this change? That, I think, deserves a talk together.
Filing for divorce is not the end of anything. Life continues. Love for someone can continue. It may just be you are not right for each other. You both should be in therapy, and heal. Without healing, there can be no healing relationship, whether together, or in the future with others.
Your girlfriend is not acting like a friend. Or a human being.
Drop her now before you regret it later
Which is also kind of a red flag.
Secure people don't get mad at you when they've said something upsetting.
And him saying he's going to r*pe her (“masked and gloved” in disguise so she doesn't know it's him) after she's been kidnapped and her life has been threatened, it's an upsetting scenario to present to someone.
I give it max 5 years before he cheats again.
Cheaters don’t change, he’ll get bored with you again and find that excitement somewhere else. Please don’t take him back when this happens again.
Your friend is 100% right and that man is sick probably cheated way more than you know of
Do the 180
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who gives a shit how she is doing?
do your own thing and forget about her
Doesn't matter. Guessing at it won't help but no sane person would cut off communication like this unless there was more to it. And, if he's not sane, she's better off not being with an insane person.
Depends on the state. Not all states have alimony.
No it doesnt, unless you dont trust your partner or 1.5 years.
Seriously if you think theyre going to cheat on you with the first man they make friends with, just dont date them.
I wonder if he's getting pressure from his family to get you pregnant? He doesn't sound like he's a bad person, you both just seem like you're not interested in each other.
I'm assuming he's working towards having sex so he can satisfy his marital obligations as per his family.
Lawyer up. Your best bet is selling the house and splitting the profit, not selling to her if she's not going to be amicable. You may be able to get through this in mediation. But go talk to a lawyer asap.
It was a peck
Absolutely not. He is your coworker and he could ruin your profession life/income if he doesnt take it well. Too risky. Wait it out. Like a lot more.
I wouldnt be surprised, I'll look into it and ask my doctor. Thank you!
Okay awesome I took a screenshot of this, thank you!!
Because you would gain pleasure from it and she wouldn't? Dick is abundant and low value.
Are you going to fund her acting single around the world? Just protect yourself for STD if you're foolish enough to take her back
Isn’t it strange to have a friend that your partner can’t be friends with. Like, you talk to them all day every day… laugh… share memories… visit. And your partner is not allowed to be part of that friendship (b/c neither you nor the ex will facilitate that). Also, you used to sleep with this person.
Istg that’s not me
Oh really? He said that? do him a favor then and pack his shit. ??it’s time to go. Lie to him maybe say they are fumigating the place. Talk to your landlord and change the locks ASAP! Screw him and don’t even think about giving him 30 days. Stop doing things for him. Stop cleaning up after him, And cooking and he definitely isn’t welcome in your bed never mind the home.
My GF is very clingy and unstable. What do I do?
Throw, if your GF has been diagnosed as having BPD (aka, “EUPD” in most countries), it will be difficult for you to avoid doing more harm than good when she moves in with you. My experience with my BPD exW is that whatever you do will be hurtful to her much of the time.
For example, a comment or action that pleases her on one day may greatly offend her when repeated a week later. Moreover, she often will perceive you as being hurtful when you DO something and hurtful when you DON'T do it. In this way, you often are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
This conundrum is due to the position of her two great fears — abandonment and engulfment — at opposite ends of the very same spectrum. This means you often find yourself in a lose/lose situation because, as you back away from one fear to avoid triggering it, you will start triggering the fear at the other end of that same spectrum.
Your predicament is that the solution to calming her abandonment fear (drawing close and being intimate) is the very action that triggers her engulfment fear. Likewise, the solution to calming her engulfment fear (moving back away to give her breathing space) is the very action that triggers her abandonment fear.
Consequently, as you move close to comfort her and assure her of your love, you eventually will start triggering her engulfment fear, making her feel like she's being suffocated and controlled by you. A person with BPD (“pwBPD”) usually craves intimacy like nearly all other adults — but she cannot tolerate it for very long.
Because she has a weak sense of self-identity, she easily becomes very enmeshed in your strong personality during sustained periods of closeness and intimacy. This is why her sense of personal boundaries is so weak that she has difficulty seeing where HER feelings and problems stop and YOURS begin. Yet, as you back away to give her breathing space, you often will find that you've started triggering her abandonment fear.
In my 15 years of experience with my BPD exW, I found that there is no midpoints solution (between “too close” and “too far away”) where you can safely stand to avoid triggering those two fears. Until a pwBPD learns how to better regulate her own emotions and tame her two fears, that Goldilocks position will not exist. This is why a relationship with an untreated pwBPD typically is characterized by a repeating cycle of push-you-away and pull-you-back.
Indeed, even if you are sitting perfectly still and not saying a word, a pwBPD who is experiencing hurtful feelings will project those feelings onto you. Her subconscious does this to protect her fragile ego from seeing too much of reality — and to externalize the pain, getting it outside her body.
Because that projection occurs entirely at the subconscious level, she will consciously be convinced that the painful feeling or hurtful thought is coming from you. This is why an untreated pwBPD usually BELIEVES the false accusations coming out of her mouth (at the moment she is saying them).
Hence, as long as you remain in a relationship with an untreated pwBPD, you often will find yourself hurting her — i.e., triggering her engulfment fear as you draw near, triggering her abandonment fear as you draw back, and triggering her anger even when you are sitting still and saying absolutely nothing.
Run away
Hmm, maybe there's some correlation?
Use that famous Alabama education system and find out