I think the goal shouldn't be to “forget”, but to fully accept her past. This is part of her experiences, her experiences made her who she is now, and if you love that person you should be able to find it within yourself to move past whatever she did you find so disturbing.
It's kind of weird you're still holding onto it 5 years into the relationship. Why do you do that? It seems like a pointless way to weaken the connection you have with your partner.
My ex and i were 11 years apart. Nobody really cared. But overtime i realized that my went after younger women because they are more naive and have less expectations.
Just quiet quit the relationship, stop emotionally investing, just don't put effort in at some point they'll realize and put effort in or they won't but it'll be less dramatic. They text about dinner 2 hours before just respond “sorry, won't be able to make it wish I had more notice” and go about your day. Don't attempt alternative plans just say you can't make it. Take yourself on vacation for Christmas instead of waiting on them. Build some friendships instead of putting energy into all this then you still have someone to take you to the hospital. When you mom calls you crying tell her you'll put the same amount of effort they do into the relationship and then talk about something else or get off the phone.
I don’t know about you but I have boundaries in a relationship. ?♀️ If you’re okay with your partner having lust for other people than you, then that’s your opinion. But for me, it makes me feels uncomfortable and disrespected.
I was seeking advice for how to talk to him about it, so no, I am not just going to disregard it because it’s “controlling what he does”. It’s called having respect for me.
Have you started on any medication you didn't have before? ?
I think the goal shouldn't be to “forget”, but to fully accept her past. This is part of her experiences, her experiences made her who she is now, and if you love that person you should be able to find it within yourself to move past whatever she did you find so disturbing.
It's kind of weird you're still holding onto it 5 years into the relationship. Why do you do that? It seems like a pointless way to weaken the connection you have with your partner.
My ex and i were 11 years apart. Nobody really cared. But overtime i realized that my went after younger women because they are more naive and have less expectations.
Shoot your shot! It may sting if it doesn't work but it's better for you in the long run.
“Actually I was thinking just us but it's fine if you'd rather do a group thing.”
Live seperately. You can have a pet in your own space if you want to.
Thank you! Just ordered the book off Amazon. Idk if he will actually read it BUT it might be good for me to read it to understand him better
Just quiet quit the relationship, stop emotionally investing, just don't put effort in at some point they'll realize and put effort in or they won't but it'll be less dramatic. They text about dinner 2 hours before just respond “sorry, won't be able to make it wish I had more notice” and go about your day. Don't attempt alternative plans just say you can't make it. Take yourself on vacation for Christmas instead of waiting on them. Build some friendships instead of putting energy into all this then you still have someone to take you to the hospital. When you mom calls you crying tell her you'll put the same amount of effort they do into the relationship and then talk about something else or get off the phone.
I don’t know about you but I have boundaries in a relationship. ?♀️ If you’re okay with your partner having lust for other people than you, then that’s your opinion. But for me, it makes me feels uncomfortable and disrespected.
I was seeking advice for how to talk to him about it, so no, I am not just going to disregard it because it’s “controlling what he does”. It’s called having respect for me.
I've considered doing this, he works 45 min away however, I could leave one before he goes to work!