What was the nature of the relationship with this “old fling?”
Either way, we need to put things into perspective. Before we do, the truth is that he might very well be an absolute piece of shit, a horrible partner, and everything you fear; we simply don’t know that.
What we do know is you, so that’s what I’m going to focus on. You’re four months in and you’re here worried about literally everything. In short, you don’t trust him. Whether you’re right or wrong doesn’t matter; no healthy relationship works without trust.
Finally, you’re again this early in and already snooping through his personal shit. Is that really how you want to live? There’s no good ending. You snooping means you already don’t trust him. BEST case scenario is that you’re right, which means he’s a scumbag and it’s over. The other scenario is that he’s a good person but your insecurities push him away.
Did he tell you not to talk to him anymore out of frustration for being woken up? I don’t think asking people not to call late at night is controlling, it is a courtesy. Why was your friend calling at 130am? How long was your phone call? Was it an emergency? Did it wake your BF up?
Get a std test, because if he exchanges nudes so easily, and is sexting and pushing for more, means he is COMFORTABLE doing it, and it’s not the first time. You don’t know what else he is into.
You don’t own him or his family anything, but you can say with certainty that he stepped out of the relationship and you are not longer trusting him. You don’t need to tell them why or how.
He has an eating disorder. That said, guilting and accusing you after a meal because he’s anxious about his calorie intake still isn’t fair or right at all. The disorder doesn’t excuse that. But he clearly needs help.
I know porn is normal in some relationships but I felt uncomfortable about it in mine and then I told him if he watched it I'd end it with him
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What was the nature of the relationship with this “old fling?”
Either way, we need to put things into perspective. Before we do, the truth is that he might very well be an absolute piece of shit, a horrible partner, and everything you fear; we simply don’t know that.
What we do know is you, so that’s what I’m going to focus on. You’re four months in and you’re here worried about literally everything. In short, you don’t trust him. Whether you’re right or wrong doesn’t matter; no healthy relationship works without trust.
Finally, you’re again this early in and already snooping through his personal shit. Is that really how you want to live? There’s no good ending. You snooping means you already don’t trust him. BEST case scenario is that you’re right, which means he’s a scumbag and it’s over. The other scenario is that he’s a good person but your insecurities push him away.
Did he tell you not to talk to him anymore out of frustration for being woken up? I don’t think asking people not to call late at night is controlling, it is a courtesy. Why was your friend calling at 130am? How long was your phone call? Was it an emergency? Did it wake your BF up?
If it was true, why not say it?
Should I tell my bf I voice recorded us or just delete it and move on?
Had a similar situation with my Ex.
He got what I thought was a vile tattoo- kindly told him my opinion prior to him getting it but naturally, his body his choice.
The problem was that afterwards I was physically turned off by him until I got used to it.
No guy would want his gf to move in with another dude lol
Get a std test, because if he exchanges nudes so easily, and is sexting and pushing for more, means he is COMFORTABLE doing it, and it’s not the first time. You don’t know what else he is into.
You don’t own him or his family anything, but you can say with certainty that he stepped out of the relationship and you are not longer trusting him. You don’t need to tell them why or how.
Good luck
He has an eating disorder. That said, guilting and accusing you after a meal because he’s anxious about his calorie intake still isn’t fair or right at all. The disorder doesn’t excuse that. But he clearly needs help.