What in the fuck is wrong with both of you (but especially her).
You’re a dumbass for a few reasons; first that you think pulling out is birth control, and second, that you seem to think you’re not also responsible for this pregnancy due to not you know actually using birth control. You have NO idea which time she got pregnant from and it could easily be a time when she wasn’t on top. Even protected sex bears the rush of pregnancy. You also agreed to unprotected sex. So you need to take responsibility for your own actions-even if you never finished inside her, you were basically playing Russian roulette.
Onto your wife-which is much, much worse. What she did is a form of sexual assault, and is completely inexcusable.
I’d say couples counseling but at this stage where you resent her and she doesn’t have respect for you, I say separate, get a custody agreement, and for heavens sake get individual counseling and some education on birth control.
Sounds like she is the one that needs a new therapist. This is all just too much. she's making her problems, your problems. Your therapy is none of her business. She doesn't need to know who you see, when you go and most importantly it's not her business what you talk about in therapy.
What happens later on in life when she doesn't like your co-worker? You have to quit your job?
What if you have kids and she decides to not like the babysitter, teacher, doctor, etccc…. she needs to probably be single and work on her own issues before trying to make a relationship work. A relationship will never work with all that….
It’s been over a year since her last relationship. She’s dated since then before me. She says she started to feel these things once it started to get serious and she got real feelings towards me. She said what I said above and said she doesn’t not want to date around, talk to other people. She just needs to grow and heal. Wants us to grow as friends because a boyfriend should be a best friend. She wants to exclusively talk to me and just me… as “friends”.
I have no words
What in the fuck is wrong with both of you (but especially her).
You’re a dumbass for a few reasons; first that you think pulling out is birth control, and second, that you seem to think you’re not also responsible for this pregnancy due to not you know actually using birth control. You have NO idea which time she got pregnant from and it could easily be a time when she wasn’t on top. Even protected sex bears the rush of pregnancy. You also agreed to unprotected sex. So you need to take responsibility for your own actions-even if you never finished inside her, you were basically playing Russian roulette.
Onto your wife-which is much, much worse. What she did is a form of sexual assault, and is completely inexcusable.
I’d say couples counseling but at this stage where you resent her and she doesn’t have respect for you, I say separate, get a custody agreement, and for heavens sake get individual counseling and some education on birth control.
Sounds like she is the one that needs a new therapist. This is all just too much. she's making her problems, your problems. Your therapy is none of her business. She doesn't need to know who you see, when you go and most importantly it's not her business what you talk about in therapy.
What happens later on in life when she doesn't like your co-worker? You have to quit your job?
What if you have kids and she decides to not like the babysitter, teacher, doctor, etccc…. she needs to probably be single and work on her own issues before trying to make a relationship work. A relationship will never work with all that….
It’s been over a year since her last relationship. She’s dated since then before me. She says she started to feel these things once it started to get serious and she got real feelings towards me. She said what I said above and said she doesn’t not want to date around, talk to other people. She just needs to grow and heal. Wants us to grow as friends because a boyfriend should be a best friend. She wants to exclusively talk to me and just me… as “friends”.
Congratulations OP! You dodged a cannon ball! Good luck in your single life.
Cheers!