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Yeah being 18-19 is infact very relevant. Didn't have to read any of this to know where your mental maturity is. Having a crush on your significant others friend and then needing to post about it tells me you have some feelings for this guy and obviously you aren't as I to your boyfriend as you think you are. Remove yourself from the situation because you already emotionally cheated on him. Don't even think about going after the friend either, that's just plain scummy.
Are you developing deeper feelings because you are desperate to make this work and not have to find another partner whilst you are getting close to the crucial age for most women (mid 30s) when it comes to starting a family/getting married etc?
From reading your post, it seems like you'd rather be dating somebody who takes the lead most of the time and much more assertive than this guy is.
Yes, you can click and get on very well when hanging out, but over time, that isn't enough. The fact that he doesn't even initiate anything sexual is definitely a red flag. I can find excuses for him, such as being scared of violating your boundaries or having read up on too many false rape accusations. But to me, it feels like he views you more like a really close friend rather than a lover.
Tell him you require more passion and more assertiveness from him, but accept that this guy may never be able to be that way either due to his personality/character or some level of asexualness.
The fact you were coworkers for a long time and surely at least one of you had some lust built up over time while you couldn't act on it makes this even more perplexing. Either way, it's time for you to decide if he's the right person to spend 18+ months with or if he's just yet another casual relationship while you move your way towards your eventual long-term life partner?
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I've seen quite a few therapists and also had some training in being a therapist.
Sharing a limited amount of personal information can help build rapport with a client, and is thus therapeutic. However, the things you are describing, from only two sessions, are very excessive. I get the feeling the therapist is using the client (your bf) as a listening ear for her own issues!
I would recommend he find a different therapist. Of course you can't make him, but you can suggest that this was an awful lot of her talking about herself, which is not the way therapy works. It's unprofessional and wrong. That's my opinion.
I've never been able to tell this to myself even though I've felt it. He probably is trying to do what you're saying – making me beg for him to stay to treat me like shit forever.
I don't think he cares about the abortion. He's never asked me about how I feel about it or anything of that sort.
Half-and-half. I am one of his many female friends. I am not sure if he had plans to ask me out, but I am sure that he knew I was interested and he also did show more explicit interest in me (we were very flirty back then). The parts where I am depressed indeed took place in my head, and he didn't know that he is the one who made me sad.
You are right that I shouldn't wait for him, but I missed the best time to ask him out.
Contact a local domestic violence center to get assistance with an escape plan. If it’s a violent situation, it’s best to get help and find a way to get you and your child moved out while he’s at work or something and getting a restraining order.
My ex wanted a DNA on our son because he thought he wasn't his, I said sure I've got nothing to hide.
Took the DNA and unsurprisingly son is his.
A friend went through similar but she left the day they got the results as she said she couldn't be with someone who didn't trust her without reason
This doesn't sound embarrassing:
We went to a Michelin star fine dining restaurant that had a set menu. He asked the waiter if he could tweak some of the recipes on there and asked the chef to make his food extra spicy.
The rest are a bit cringey, but nothing too much. Why not just tell him that his behaviour makes you feel embarrassed?
He should’ve bought the condoms. Or pulled out like she asked. She’s 21. Her 33 year old boyfriend should know better
You must be young or naive. First, OP’s wife has revealed that she is selfish, manipulative, and a liar. Second, there is no reason to assume these are the only times she has cheated. Third, there is no indiscretion that has a 0 chance of happening again. If you did it once, you could do it again.
If the last 12 years have been “happy,” then it makes it all the more sinister that she cheated.
Fundamentally you dont believe people (or atleast women) shouldnt be responsible for their actions, i believe they should.
You wont change my mind and i wont change yours without changing this belief so ill stop arguing. Have a good day.
You said you'd break up if he took drugs again. He took them. There's your answer.
She sent them to the guy before and regretted it most likely. He could have easily used those nudes as leverage to blackmail her and get what he wants. Don't press the issue, she doesn't want nude photos of her out there and you're not entitled to her nudes. Save it for the bedroom.
What country is this?
Just lay there and be an actual fish and see how he likes it
My mom used to say “you fly with the crows, you get shot at”
Essentially, you are only as mature as the company you keep.
Having friends do this, makes you look bad as well.
No one cares what you look like … they are concerned about differences in experience, maturity and power. You sound more mature, but he is presumably more experienced and if hes making more money then also maybe in a more powerful position in this relationship. Relationships need to be equal in order to function at a healthy level. That's what concerns people.
Read my other comment, though.
Other than the time you've already sunk into the relationship and the fear of change or being alone… Ask yourself what is keeping you where you are. It doesn't sound like trust right now, so… Love? History? The hope he'll change? You don't need to answer here, just mull it over for your own benefit. You might also ask yourself, if you decide to stay despite this deal breaker, will your choice be different next time? (yes, next time. People who break trust despite knowing the consequences rarely change when it turns out there are no consequences). What other deal breakers are you willing to overlook, if any? How many years of your life are you willing to spend feeling like this?
Whatever you choose, I hope you find happiness ns love.
One of the most valuable lessons you learn in life is that the things people do have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. His ex was treated that way because he’s a piece of trash not because of anything she did. A cheater doesn’t cheat because of their partner. They cheat because they’re a cheater. An abuser abuses because that’s who they are.
His ex’s story will be your story soon.
This hole Situation Sounds really sad. I personally think it is everything but normal to tell your new Partner that you miss your ex so much. Thats fucked up and i wouldnt want to be with someone who is unable to commit to our relationship because he wants to fuck 2 different Girls
Either press charges or get someone to kick his head in. He's a fuckin piece of shit. I'd do it for you if I could.
Getting approved with credit card debt like that is hard. I had a 400$ medical bill I didn’t know about and I couldn’t get approved in the current loan structure.
You’re a fucking idiot. Science says late 20s and early 30s is best time for women to have children. If you don’t know what you’re talking about while you’re trying to be a dick to someone, don’t talk at all.
The age is no excuse. That’s a fast reason to a bigger problem. He’s a grown man. A brown man should have the capacity for respect. He respects his children and friends. He hasn’t been like this from day one, so no, there were no warning signs
First night I was with my ex, he took a video. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he just wanted to use the flashlight to see better. This happened a bunch more times and for some reason I never said anything. I later discovered he had a whole collection of videos of me, exes, girls he lied to me about, etc. He was abusive in a lot of ways. I was really just an object to him. Do you feel objectified by your boyfriend? Blatant disrespect of your boundaries is a sign he may not see you as a person.
I've always told my husband i hate when he leaves me in the living room at bedtime.
sounds like you both need therapy, as I said.
Your insecurities are warranted and necessary and this woman is trying to reveal who she really is to you.
Listen now, or regret it for the rest of your life.
Marriages, like all friendships and people ebb and morph over time.
If you’re trying to be the best ‘you’, and he can’t adjust, ask him how he’s still a real partner.
For him to be scared of change is normal.
But if you’ve explained and shown how it can work and if you’re happy with your current employment path, he should support you.
He has insecurities. (We all do) Once they’re exposed, kindly navigated and proven unnecessary, he should be more supportive.
Just saying “divorce!” Is stupid and not how good marriages work.
Keep working on him. But stay on the path you think I’d best for you as well.
Much love.
I guess the progress is with his CPTSD mostly. I helped his get diagnosed and get some initial therapy. I'm not going to go into specifics of his trauma but he is realizing that what he experienced isn't normal. He thought it was until he met me. Becoming a father gave him a sense of what parenthood is actually supposed to be. He has realized that big parts of the life he lived when he was young is not normal. But it's still all he knew for so many years. Change takes time and it's not always a straight line.
I am trying with therapy. It's really expensive here so i have only been to one session. I guess i wanted to go here cause i feel conflicted with my feelings. She did a lot to financially provide without our dad's help. She was raised by a narcissict mother. So sometimes i feel bad for her too.
If you want to feel attraction to your wife again then, well buddy…do the fucking work to make yourself appreciate her like you used to.
As far as your marriage goes, you fucked up bringing another person to the bedroom. If your sex drive is the same as it’s always been, then you need to stop watching porn, stop looking at other women, and focus all of that on appreciating your wife. You’re not “missing out” on shit having only been with 2 women. Sex is an important aspect of life, but I can promise you that if you seek out only the best you possibly can get your life will end up hollow and meaningless.
The grass is always greener on the side that’s watered. If you don’t water your own fucking lawn then no matter where you go it will turn yellow and die.
OP doesn't know. That's why he's asking for advice
Would you still love me if I did this completely irrational and life altering decision without consulting you first?
The people who ask stupid questions seem to always expect a stupid answer.
Thanks for confirming!
Leave. He won't change. He needs to do the work to fix himself and it sounds like he's not interested in doing that.
maybe I need help, but…
What the heck is a situation-ship???
Regardless, You decide if you want sex, nobody else can make that decision. If he's pushing you to have sex, and he doesn't acknowledge the “no”, break up (or whatever you do in a situation-ship) and avoid him.
Crazy that you say she needs therapy because she’s been talking about seeing a therapist!
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My parents asked me to download Life360, an app that tracks your location 24/7, on my phone when I was in high school. I didn’t have a problem with it then, and I’ve had it on my phone ever since. I moved about 1,000 miles away about 3 years ago to transfer universities my junior year of college and my mom still tracks me, even though I am now 22, have a full-time job, and am completely self sufficient.
I understand her worry of being so far and wanting to make sure I am safe and I understood it when I was a student, but she checks my location quite literally all of the time. I even noticed the other day she has “circles” set for different locations like my friends homes, work, and my ex boyfriends place. Apparently these “circles” notify you when someone enters or leaves them? She also shares a Ring account with me and sometimes gets notifications for my doorbell and will alert me of certain things/notifications.
I’ve asked her before if she can lay off the location tracking, and she’s been adamant about staying on it, saying “if you have nothing to hide you shouldn’t have a problem with me seeing where you are” and “I just want to make sure you’re safe”. I don’t have anything to hide, but I am an adult and would like some privacy. I’m totally down to just text her where I am if need be. I talk to her very frequently. My mom is just EXTREMELY overprotective.
For context, I do not have my own phone bill as my parents have some “insane” deal with AT&T that they’ll lose if my line comes off the plan, so saying “it’s my phone, I’m deleting the app” doesn’t really work for them. Everything else I have I pay for myself, and have been financially independent from my parents for over a year.
Any advice on how to communicate this to her would be appreciated. I’m sick of walking on eggshells, but I love my mom a lot and don’t want to worry or upset her.
TL;DR: I’m a financially independent adult whose mom still obsessively tracks me on Life360. How do I kindly tell her to stop tracking me without upsetting her/how would I open up this conversation to begin with?
EDIT: I have disabled location sharing services per yalls advice. Will update when she says something and I will be using some of y’alls advice to use this as an opportunity to set up boundaries. Thanks!
There’s no “insane deal”. And even if this mythical insane deal existed, it’s not working for you anymore, which is reason enough to end it.
So the conversation sounds like this: “Mom, I’m a 22 year old adult, and I’ve decided it’s time to remove the tracking apps from my phone. I know you might not agree with that decision, but it’s my decision to make, and I’ve made it.”
And know that she’ll almost certainly blow a gasket. Probably several. There’s pretty much no chance that’s she’s going to be like “cool, high five!” So just prepare for it to kinda suck for awhile, relationship wise. She’s used to a certain (at least perceived) level of control, and this loss of that perceived control will freak her the. Eff. Out. So expect that. Expect the panic, the bargaining, yelling, sobbing, accusations, love bombing, silent treatment…all the things.
Hold firm anyway.
This IS your choice to make, and it IS a reasonable one. Really really. Mom’s response, whatever that might be at the time, doesn’t change that. She’s going to try REALLY hard to convince you otherwise, but nope.
And if the prospect of dealing with this freaks you out…well, yeah! Of course it would! Change is hard! Especially with moms! But hang in there. And be kind to yourself if you slip up or regress. It’s ok, you’ll try again tomorrow.