You’re about to get #metoo. There’s no such thing as consensual relationship when there’s a power dynamic involved, not in today’s climate. How’d you get a management position, because you’re obviously not smart if you’re thinking of pursuing her.
This was my thought too. She's so adamant that DNA testing can't be done (when it 100% can), that it makes me think the children aren't his and she knows it.
Have you tried contacting your family or friends? I think you might find you have more support than you realise.
Contact your mum. Tell her what hes put you through. Ask for her help.
This change isn't permanent. Babies don't fix abusive situations. He will revert to his old abusive self. He will likely hurt your child at some point to.
If you intend to keep this baby, you need to PROTECT IT starting by protecting the babys mother – you. I know others have commented about abortion, which I think is something you should also seriously consider here. But if you want to keep this child and keep them safe – you need to leave.
Even if she's putting 'enough' (as in, what the sponsor – i.e., your boyfriend – considers to be enough) effort into finding a job then it might drag out.
I think a major aspect here is that you'd stop working and live in your boyfriend's apartment supported 100% by him if you could, right? And you're offended that he doesn't want to do that?
Some asexual people have some sexual desire and just aren't attracted to people.
Other sexual people have no sexual desire, but are happy to engage in sex with partners because it makes them happy, in the same way one might give a massage even though it doesn't do anything for you. (I love giving massages, but many people don't)
Some asexual people are sex repulsed, will not want sex ever and even have problems being around sexual situations and get uncomfortable being flirted with.
Its weird you pressured her to kiss you. Dont do that.
I think my advice would be to talk to her, listen to what she wants, and reassure her that you'll be with her either way, that is, if you would still want to be with her. Because your post is making me think otherwise. Its likely she feels pressure from you and that is making it even more difficult for her to know what she wants and know if she feels ready.
I think if we stayed together I’d always be questioning whether he’s up to no good so it realistically can’t work
You’re about to get #metoo. There’s no such thing as consensual relationship when there’s a power dynamic involved, not in today’s climate. How’d you get a management position, because you’re obviously not smart if you’re thinking of pursuing her.
This was my thought too. She's so adamant that DNA testing can't be done (when it 100% can), that it makes me think the children aren't his and she knows it.
Like models in swimsuits or lingerie?
Ppl he crushes on? Like IRL? Does he have suggestive pics of them or like a pic of them at a party?
Have you tried contacting your family or friends? I think you might find you have more support than you realise.
Contact your mum. Tell her what hes put you through. Ask for her help.
This change isn't permanent. Babies don't fix abusive situations. He will revert to his old abusive self. He will likely hurt your child at some point to.
If you intend to keep this baby, you need to PROTECT IT starting by protecting the babys mother – you. I know others have commented about abortion, which I think is something you should also seriously consider here. But if you want to keep this child and keep them safe – you need to leave.
Seeing that there are at least 2 age gap rage bait posts an hour these days
I'd say the chances are very high for that “reveal”
This is what I do. The first alarm goes off and husband is forced to get up. He soon started setting it half an hour later.
That bridge will be crossed when they come to it.
Even if she's putting 'enough' (as in, what the sponsor – i.e., your boyfriend – considers to be enough) effort into finding a job then it might drag out.
I think a major aspect here is that you'd stop working and live in your boyfriend's apartment supported 100% by him if you could, right? And you're offended that he doesn't want to do that?
Way too much work for a simple hookup. I’m sure you can find better
Some asexual people have some sexual desire and just aren't attracted to people.
Other sexual people have no sexual desire, but are happy to engage in sex with partners because it makes them happy, in the same way one might give a massage even though it doesn't do anything for you. (I love giving massages, but many people don't)
Some asexual people are sex repulsed, will not want sex ever and even have problems being around sexual situations and get uncomfortable being flirted with.
It's a spectrum, like most sexuality.
Its weird you pressured her to kiss you. Dont do that.
I think my advice would be to talk to her, listen to what she wants, and reassure her that you'll be with her either way, that is, if you would still want to be with her. Because your post is making me think otherwise. Its likely she feels pressure from you and that is making it even more difficult for her to know what she wants and know if she feels ready.