Agreed. I am on the spectrum, and I know many others who are as well, and it is not free reign to be an asshole. I really want to know what op actually is getting out of this relationship, because it sounds like a miserable one.
It's very possible it's mental health or deployment related – in my opinion he's always struggled on and off with depression, however he's never been treated for it in any way.
Aside from feeling very hurt, I guess I feel safe. I would hate to cut things off now if they're going to go back to normal once we're in person again, but there's never a guarantee unfortunately. He did tell me a week or two ago that he'd be willing to go to couples' therapy if we couldn't work this out on our own, but his attitude is considerably different now so I'm not sure if his answer would be different.
Thank you so much for your advice 🙁 I do agree that's a cornerstone of relationships and I know I can't go without it long-term.
I think it's even more simple. She said she wanted a kettle ball and they were on sale for half off. Jewelry probably wasn't. I think it was a crappy gift, but not a cruel one. It would be weird if she had never mentioned it. I think it also would've been nice to pick up at that price in addition to something else that wasn't super expensive, and just not present the kettle ball as a birthday gift.
I agree to talk to him, but having someone try to make up a gift doesn't usually work out great. Let him know for future occasions. This was inconsiderate, but it's not the end of the world and imo not indicative of larger pervasive character flaws unless there is an established pattern across a few different areas.
he's a jerk and gaslighting you for whatever reasons.
dump him and you won't have an ounce of insecurity in your life anymore.
trust me, you'll love it
I bet he fucks her way better too lol
You’re asexual, he is not, you’re not fundamentally compatible anymore. Leave him alone. Coparenting can work out.
Do you know the difference between assault and SA? Because it doesn't seem like you do…
Agreed. I am on the spectrum, and I know many others who are as well, and it is not free reign to be an asshole. I really want to know what op actually is getting out of this relationship, because it sounds like a miserable one.
It's very possible it's mental health or deployment related – in my opinion he's always struggled on and off with depression, however he's never been treated for it in any way.
Aside from feeling very hurt, I guess I feel safe. I would hate to cut things off now if they're going to go back to normal once we're in person again, but there's never a guarantee unfortunately. He did tell me a week or two ago that he'd be willing to go to couples' therapy if we couldn't work this out on our own, but his attitude is considerably different now so I'm not sure if his answer would be different.
Thank you so much for your advice 🙁 I do agree that's a cornerstone of relationships and I know I can't go without it long-term.
Why are you all living together? That’s really weird.
I think it's even more simple. She said she wanted a kettle ball and they were on sale for half off. Jewelry probably wasn't. I think it was a crappy gift, but not a cruel one. It would be weird if she had never mentioned it. I think it also would've been nice to pick up at that price in addition to something else that wasn't super expensive, and just not present the kettle ball as a birthday gift.
I agree to talk to him, but having someone try to make up a gift doesn't usually work out great. Let him know for future occasions. This was inconsiderate, but it's not the end of the world and imo not indicative of larger pervasive character flaws unless there is an established pattern across a few different areas.
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