He's definitely stressed, and we've both been having a hard time in this relationship. I have PTSD and I'm not always the easiest to deal with, but when I talked to him about this his answer made no sense to me. I think he is having a hard time communicating and is stressed about the sex being bad, and he doesn't know what to do. I've been trying to communicate and tell him what I want, but because he finishes so fast it's not really making a difference. I can try the things you've suggested, I just feel like using sex toys specifically when he's not satisfying me at all is just going to cause a bigger rift.
Called his bluff? She put her nose in his business. He didn’t even say anything. There was no game to bluff in. She got in his face about being anxious and she said it’s not a life and death situation. All he said was that it felt like it.
He didn’t run around the house screaming he was going to die at which point his heroic gf called the bluff on her hysterical boyfriend.
People are being very harsh in the comments, but I personally agree with you. I wouldn't end a close friendships because they cheated on someone while they were in an unhappy marriage, and my partner wouldn't either. If this is something you and your wife can't overcome on your own, then I suggest going for some counselling so that you can get help by a third party to clear up your respective feelings.
To say what I need to say. He needs to know how how badly this is to me. We aren't talking anymore anyways, so it literally makes no difference.
Get a background check, and go to therapy, then when it comes back clean break up with her for lack of trust.
Bonus, she'll have a therapist to work with after you leave.
He's definitely stressed, and we've both been having a hard time in this relationship. I have PTSD and I'm not always the easiest to deal with, but when I talked to him about this his answer made no sense to me. I think he is having a hard time communicating and is stressed about the sex being bad, and he doesn't know what to do. I've been trying to communicate and tell him what I want, but because he finishes so fast it's not really making a difference. I can try the things you've suggested, I just feel like using sex toys specifically when he's not satisfying me at all is just going to cause a bigger rift.
Called his bluff? She put her nose in his business. He didn’t even say anything. There was no game to bluff in. She got in his face about being anxious and she said it’s not a life and death situation. All he said was that it felt like it.
He didn’t run around the house screaming he was going to die at which point his heroic gf called the bluff on her hysterical boyfriend.
People are being very harsh in the comments, but I personally agree with you. I wouldn't end a close friendships because they cheated on someone while they were in an unhappy marriage, and my partner wouldn't either. If this is something you and your wife can't overcome on your own, then I suggest going for some counselling so that you can get help by a third party to clear up your respective feelings.
Holy shit I’d be consulting divorce attorneys if my spouse did that shit.
It's mostly off an old post with similar story from a few years ago. Reduce. Reduce. Recycle.
Ghost him and get tested. There’s no reason to be worried about how you come across to a cheater.
WTF is this world coming to when a 29yo man wants to wear a superhero costume to a wedding? Grow TF up!