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Date: October 4, 2022
If you both agreed to not sleep with anyone else during the separation, she screwed that up. She’s not devoting any time or energy into fixing your relationship if she’s in someone else’s bed.
FYI this is the same and only woman I have been with for 6 years. I've been loyal.
I cannot say enough how very helpful your message was. I was doing exactly what you were saying, taking it personally. I haven't suffered from anxiety in my life so it's hard to relate to what he's going through. Thank you so much for taking the time to write and help. Please know I am going to take your words to heart
Sorry for the confusion
One thing I did figure out. My mom must have gotten her HPV infection from cheating. She got cervical cancer when she was 45, so that's 15 years after she cheated which is about right.
Unfortunately, my ex boyfriend cheated on when I was 20-21 and he gave me HPV as well. I guess I am doomed to get cancer in a few years as well.
Your attitude, post, and comments make it clear this is some big fetish for having kids and not a rational choice. You need to step back, wank, and call a therapist to help you deal with this.
But he doesn't feel that way about marriage.
Find someone who is more similar to you in that regard. And if you've always wanted children, you should be with someone who also wants them. You may not feel it now, but plenty of people get older and resent that they made the choice to have/not have kids for their partner.
Honey no, this isn’t the way. Yes, you want and need to build a family for yourself. But it doesn’t have to be with the first dude you talk to!
You’re 19. We were all 19 once. We all remember feeling like the most grownup person because we were adults. And then you turn 30 and realize “damn I was an idiot”. Every comment here comes for somebody who was you.
You’re in college. Build a space for yourself in that community. Meet your peers, your colleagues, make friends. You owe it to yourself to build something beautiful, not settle for the man who shows interest in you.
What about you? You’re skipping over an entire segment of your life where you learn about who you are, what you want, and who you want to become. Please, I beg of you, take time to experience your life. Don’t throw away a world of possibilities for an older man who has shown he isn’t a good husband or father.
It is his wife’s business though, so I’d probably share it with her.
No need you can edit 🙂
If he isn’t neurotypical than you do absolutely need to be really straight. Hints will do nothing at all.
I personally have become numb to death after my mother passed away. After so many deaths in my family, it has started becoming a more private matter for me to cry and just try to hide my feelings; with the notion of helping those who can't hold the crying for a more private time.
I think hes just starting to get in that phase that the end of his time with his pet is over. Along with everything else that is stressing him, he probably doesn't want to grieve in front of you.
I suggest you just be a loving girlfriend and just try to make his day better one thing at a time. For instance, making breakfast or helping him out with his laundry. IDK his love language but whatever it is I would just try to be as nice as possible until he feels better to talk about it.
I hope you're able to get therapy when you need it. This grown man groomed a child. No other way to put it. Sorry this happened to you and that your family doesn't care. Your cousin actually cares about you.
Yeah, absolutely do not reconcile.
Thank you.
Sadly, she’s making your lack of comfort and pleasure during her race play kink into the butt end of a joke and laughing at it. This is not painting a picture of a very amazing woman or even one that is kind, considerate and respectful. This is some one who is finding racism sexy, you realize that? Since you have clearly tried to talk to her about this, and instead of taking you seriously she turns it into comic relief for herself, the only other option you have is to end it and find a nicer lady who will listen to your concerns and does not get off on being a racist in the bedroom. Then you can have the last laugh.
I'm in support of progression. This is how I choose to be apart of it. I apologize that I do not see the difficulty of his position. I explained my side with love and understanding and empathy of his side. And he knows that. Our conversations was gentle and full of love. I am truly shocked how the way i wrote it out i guess came across this way to everyone.
Was that while you were dating? You're both young enough to walk away and nothing bad will happen.
I wrote all of that before I read the rest of your response
“He's a little bitch that needs a job”
Is not a healthy statement
And you're communicating like a child right now. You're almost exactly as mentally healthy as he is by the way you communicate.
“yall men need therapy watching porn becomes a addiction and unless your partner is ok with it then you just shouldn't.”
Porn can be an addiction if it's negatively effecting the person's life. You have a baseline bais against porn, one instance of watching porn is the worst thing that someone can do. That's your issue you have to deal with or find someone with your worldview but porn really isn't that big of an issue here and there.
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So what makes you think her mother is going to be able to just drag your 26 year old partner to detox against her will?
Maybe there's more to the story you haven't included. Again, I'm on your side here and think you should leave. But with no other context, this plan seems incredibly misguided.
This is a very viable reason to break up tbh. That is his kink and there are MANY women on fetlife into it. He needs to find others into it instead of looking in the general population.
Awww honey I'm so sorry! Girl go talk to him. Male him define “likes” and “attracted”. As in checking them out all the time? Fantasizing? Flirting? Just thinks they're pretty? And why tell you that? Does he consider how you feel before he says this stuff? Would he be hurt if you were into your male friends like that? Figure out exactly what he's thinking and proceed from there but be calm and solution oriented. If you feel at all that he doesnt really care how you feel or isn't going to respect boundaries, then you need to reconsider the relationship. Best of luck ?
I didn’t plan on changing him. I but when I found out he was prolife I thought he might think vegan was in line with his beliefs if I could just show him?
Whatever you do, never buy a car with massaging seats.
Let it go.
He cheated. He will do it to the next person.
Go to therapy to talk about what you feel in a healthy way.
You dont need closure. Why would you want to talk to the person who hurt you just for that person to give you bullshit excuse? Do you really need him to acknowledge that he hurt you? I mean, you made this post, so I think you know he did
“Apart from me, who was the best?” totally leaves it open that he could be number 1, and she’s talking about number 2.
Record the threats and go to the police. I'm sorry that you ended up in this fucked up situation, but it's better to try to get out than staying. If you get out you don't know the outcome, if you stay you know that you'll be abused and most likely killed some day.
Definitely this. And make sure you do it in person. Six years deserves a face-to-face breakup. (Unless there is any kind of abuse ofc).
I've been with my husband 18 years. He randomly started doing this to me about 5 years ago. I also just stare at him when he does it. Now it's become a game where he'll try to get me to grab something when I'm distracted, so I hide it in his coat pockets or work bag for him to find later. We get a rise out of it.
You sound a bit “hotheaded” yourself.
There's a tendency on Reddit to barrage the OP with over-reactive advice.
OP can decide for himself if my observation seems applicable, or if it's “bullshit.”
Post in legal advice. They did test for pregnancy so then not doing blood work or ultrasound doesn’t really matter. They did their due diligence.
like, i get why you feel the way you do, but at the same time if you're making a ton, begrudging her 3-6 hours a week of early freedom seems petty.
if salaries were closer or money was more tight, i'd be totally on your side. As it stands, i'm in the middle. I empathize with your feelings of feeling taken advantage of.
OP said her husband is the one to call the new job though
Don't settle for this. It may be better for a while, but then he will stop making effort again. Doing chores is not “helping”, he is living there too, and as you said you are not his maid or a mom. He just cares more for his comfort than his wife. You should think about that.
I do have untreated ADHD. My mom didn’t let me take meds as a kid and I didn’t realize how much of adhd affected me. Depression and ADHD combo is insane and I don’t think my bf takes into account about my adhd. I don’t want to use it as a crippling word for me but it explains a lot of my behavior but with that said I know others who have ADHD and so well in life.
He’s got your money in a joint account, won’t let you spend it, spends it himself freely, and got you to open credit cards in your name to finance your lives when he wasn’t working? And he guilts you into doing all the house work?
This is clear-cut financial abuse. Separate your finances while you can and book it out of there. Do you have friends or family who can help you?
This won’t get better.
So you wasted 15 years of her life? Make a decision today and stick with it, break up and never waste another moment of her time or commit to children and start trying today.
Cut your loses the heartache and wondering is going to take a while to get past and not everyone does which is bad for both parties im not one to say people can’t change but once that trust is broken it’s really really hard to get it back and there’s not guarantee she didn’t sleep with other guys and if she won’t do it again. Also GET A PATERNITY TEST please for your own sake
She says that she still loves me, but that she doesn't “see a way to get through this without getting out of it.” I don't know exactly what she means by that, but I know that she still has feelings for me.
I don't want to be a pest but I also don't want to walk away from someone I love when they still love me too. I also don't have anywhere to go at the moment and no real savings to speak of. I'd rather spend the next few weeks trying to work through this than awkwardly saving and trying to find a place. Especially since where we live is expensive, it'll take me a while to save up enough for my own spot.
Thanks so much, I will look into it!
How do you know they’re yours?
If you’re going to ask him about it, I wouldn’t be vague. I’d say something like “hey babe, I was cleaning and organizing and found some loose pills in a baggy. They look like the same kind as I was prescribed for surgery. I know I didn’t put them there. Do you know anything about this?”
And then be prepared in advance if you’re going to take him at his word or not. Because if he took them, he’s likely going to say he doesn’t know anything about them or that he brought them with him and forgot them.
I’d be pretty offended if someone accused me of getting into their medicine cabinet and taking medications. And I’d be even more offended if they didn’t believe my answer. If I had actually done it (I wouldn’t) I probably would lie about it. I don’t think you’re going to get an answer that puts you firmly at ease either way.
If they're non-human children, then people who share custody of pets should present themselves as single parents when dating. It should be very clear from the get-go that they will be in frequent if not daily contact with their ex, will have to work around custody time, their pet will always come before their SO, etc.
“Wife, you need to set boundaries with this guy. Tell him directly that you don't want him expressing his love to you nor talking about anything besides work. If that doesn't work then you need to escalate. Of course you won't be going on holiday with him just I would not go on holiday with another woman.”
It's interesting that you expect transparency from her when she sees her friends but you don't have to be transparent about you smoking in her house.
We don’t get health insurance with our jobs, are there free inpatient programs he could go to?
The fuck? No, you are not a snowflake. That is beyond vile. That is enough Reddit for the day
Pick up the book “sex talks” by Vanessa Marin. Good luck
Odds are pretty good it’s yours. You should discuss a paternity test. I am not sure how the court views it anymore if you behave like the father but are not the biological father- I have heard they often don’t care as long as they have someone to pay child support.
If you have a good enough relationship with the mother to share parenting duties and you want a child- even if it’s not biologically yours you can still be a good father. I have a friend who has two adopted kids and one biological child- he’s a doting dad to all of them.
There are guys out there who will not only support you in your weight loss goals, but will appreciate how you look at the moment. I went INSANE when my partner told me that he likes the 5 extra kilos on me. It actually motivated me to work out more because I am no longer focused on just being thinner, but overall more healthy. You deserve to be fully accepted as you are. Drop the boyfriend.
Here is a simple short hand to help you decide how deep the problems in the relationship are. Reverse the roles and say you were the one sending sexual messages to men on Reddit, how do you think your bf would respond? He'd be angry, scream at you, and break up on the spot. Yes it is a gray zone in terms of cheating, but it isn't something you should do when you have an SO. No idea how much of a future there is, but I don't see much.
24 hours a day work?
24 hours a day work?
24 hours a day work?
What do you do? You leave.
You need to remove yourself somewhere you'll be supported (friends or family) and leave him alone with his anger. At the moment he's projecting onto you because he can't bear to feel the grief and loss that's inside him, and he needs to see that and get help.
It’s time to say no and you won’t be supporting this anymore.
She does it because you allow it.
If she won’t stop then you have to decide if it is really worth being with her. You could be separated and have less stress. It depends in how much you tolerate.