Thanks for the suggestion. Like I said in my post though, I haven't had any luck making friends at all here for the last few months. I can't go out on my own because my husband feels guilty and will want to come along, and I don't want to coerce him like that.
Do you disapprove of this girl? Does your bf know? If so, he could be lying because he's worried you might say no to him going on the trip. It would be the emotionally easiest decision, since if you did say no then he'd have to decide whether or not to attend.
Its not necessarily a red flag, but I think you should tell him you're not OK with him going on trips like that without telling you (if you aren't OK with).
Also it's not clear to me if he has feelings for this girl. Again, depends on how you feel about it, but you may want to think a bit aboit what your boundaries are regarding your bf and hanging out with other women
What a silly thing to ask, honestly, if you see an anniversary as a budget thingy then you two shouldn't be together… Maybe plan better, eat less outside as you approach the date, many things you couldve done.
And I understand you're explaining context, but that's a lot of noise trying to justify you not keeping your word, money comes and go, but your word should remain.
Her family being rich shouldn't even come into the Convo, it has nothing to do with you being a man and keep your word. going to a restaurant does not have to be expensive as well.
When you say this…
“I realize her point and tell her I’m sorry and that I will go and treat her even though it’s out of my budget. Just moving forward, we will need to eat out less.”
For the love of God, I sincerely hope you didn't tell her that and that's just in your head. Not only that's the wrong mindset to have but that's the type of thoughts you keep to yourself.
Also, I personally cringe when people speak like.. 'spending money on her', she is not your property… If that's an issue, you two need to sit down and set rules you can both be happy with on a regular basis… But for an anniversary you should've kept your word and be a man that makes her feel happy she is with you.
This is a problem for many people, i personally think most relationships only work, if the people in it can actually be happy alone. A relationship is an enhancement to your life and should not be a pillar you build your happiness on. This puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship and it shows in your behaviour from the start, as you said, you get clingy and stuff cause your happiness is bound to this other person and the relationship working out.
Couldn't agree more. Also being comfortable with being single gives you the psychological armor to know that your life won't fall apart if you feel the need to break up with someone.
nsome for your hubby.
Thanks for the suggestion. Like I said in my post though, I haven't had any luck making friends at all here for the last few months. I can't go out on my own because my husband feels guilty and will want to come along, and I don't want to coerce him like that.
Do you disapprove of this girl? Does your bf know? If so, he could be lying because he's worried you might say no to him going on the trip. It would be the emotionally easiest decision, since if you did say no then he'd have to decide whether or not to attend.
Its not necessarily a red flag, but I think you should tell him you're not OK with him going on trips like that without telling you (if you aren't OK with).
Also it's not clear to me if he has feelings for this girl. Again, depends on how you feel about it, but you may want to think a bit aboit what your boundaries are regarding your bf and hanging out with other women
Give it time lol
Why waste your time. Sounds like a loser with unresolved issues to me
I don't care what the odds at that casino table are. I'm not playing.
What a silly thing to ask, honestly, if you see an anniversary as a budget thingy then you two shouldn't be together… Maybe plan better, eat less outside as you approach the date, many things you couldve done.
And I understand you're explaining context, but that's a lot of noise trying to justify you not keeping your word, money comes and go, but your word should remain.
Her family being rich shouldn't even come into the Convo, it has nothing to do with you being a man and keep your word. going to a restaurant does not have to be expensive as well.
When you say this…
“I realize her point and tell her I’m sorry and that I will go and treat her even though it’s out of my budget. Just moving forward, we will need to eat out less.”
For the love of God, I sincerely hope you didn't tell her that and that's just in your head. Not only that's the wrong mindset to have but that's the type of thoughts you keep to yourself.
Also, I personally cringe when people speak like.. 'spending money on her', she is not your property… If that's an issue, you two need to sit down and set rules you can both be happy with on a regular basis… But for an anniversary you should've kept your word and be a man that makes her feel happy she is with you.
You were okay being a side chick and now you are asking this question ?????
Those women who were polled chose to abort. OP’s wife doesn’t want an abortion.
This is a problem for many people, i personally think most relationships only work, if the people in it can actually be happy alone. A relationship is an enhancement to your life and should not be a pillar you build your happiness on. This puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship and it shows in your behaviour from the start, as you said, you get clingy and stuff cause your happiness is bound to this other person and the relationship working out.
Couldn't agree more. Also being comfortable with being single gives you the psychological armor to know that your life won't fall apart if you feel the need to break up with someone.
Sorry. Totally disagree. It seems totally innocent. He cakes her dude.
Men need friends who they can express their feelings and frustrations with… Privately
OP is super shitty for betraying his trust.
good luck!