I don’t understand why ultimatums are always treated like a bad thing on this sub. Sometimes in a long-term relationship, they are perfectly warranted to get someone to understand what your hard boundary is and what’s at stake if they cross it.
Big difference between “you can’t do that,” and “you can do whatever you want, but I won’t be around for it if that’s what you choose to do.”
I broke up with her. She hates that i didn’t give her enough time but I didn’t feel anything in the relationship anymore, even when she was being good to me.
If he’s demanding blowjobs- that means he really likes them and is not happy without them. This is not rocket science- find someone you are comparable with and let him find someone he is compatible with. Or keep trying to manipulate and control each other and continue being unhappy, those are your choices.
I mean wouldn't your shared memories with them do a better job than a clip of fur?
A lot of this seems about her, suggestions for her… but not about what’s best for HIM.
I don’t understand why ultimatums are always treated like a bad thing on this sub. Sometimes in a long-term relationship, they are perfectly warranted to get someone to understand what your hard boundary is and what’s at stake if they cross it.
Big difference between “you can’t do that,” and “you can do whatever you want, but I won’t be around for it if that’s what you choose to do.”
I broke up with her. She hates that i didn’t give her enough time but I didn’t feel anything in the relationship anymore, even when she was being good to me.
If he’s demanding blowjobs- that means he really likes them and is not happy without them. This is not rocket science- find someone you are comparable with and let him find someone he is compatible with. Or keep trying to manipulate and control each other and continue being unhappy, those are your choices.
Thank you for the help!