Being in a relationship doesn't entitle you to allow or disallow the other person from posting whatever pictures they want of themselves on-line. You even said it yourself that she did it before, just this time it was slightly more revealing.
Also, completely agree with her being mad at you for not being on her side against the athletics coach. It's not 1800s anymore, her posting whatever photos she wants on her profiles should have nothing to do with her sports team and this guy's behavior is disgusting. Too bad the main person she probably expected support from failed her (you).
I wouldn't bother. they have been together since he was 21. He has been an excellent boyfriend, and now she is asking for this. I would leave. She a drama queen.
Do you really want to marry someone who isn’t sure about building a life with you after 6 years? You deserve a proposal from someone who loves you and your flawed personality and is excited to be married to you. You’re not going to get that from him. Don’t settle for this. You’re so young and already so accomplished. In another 5 years you could be happily married to someone who felt like the luckiest man on earth to get to marry you. Hold out for the real thing. This ain’t it.
boundaries arent an excuse to be controlling or set an ultimatum. boundaries are what YOU will tolerate. not how he needs to behave. you need to respect your boundaries, and you need to take actions when they dont align. but theyre not a way to force someone to do what you want them to do when they disagree. thats toxic
This isn’t just about what decisions she made in her past or even how she treated you. You need to look to your immediate future and beyond. Based on what you know will she be a safe presence around your child(ten). Exhibit good decision making skills? Demonstrate appropriate patience? Not show up under the influence? If you aren’t entirely, unequivocally sure she is safe she can’t be around the kids. Even if she’s sober as she’s demonstrated such poor judgement. I’d also take a long look at my relationships with her family. There are a few unhealthy behaviors there if they knew there was a problem and did nothing to intervene
Being in a relationship doesn't entitle you to allow or disallow the other person from posting whatever pictures they want of themselves on-line. You even said it yourself that she did it before, just this time it was slightly more revealing.
Also, completely agree with her being mad at you for not being on her side against the athletics coach. It's not 1800s anymore, her posting whatever photos she wants on her profiles should have nothing to do with her sports team and this guy's behavior is disgusting. Too bad the main person she probably expected support from failed her (you).
I wouldn't bother. they have been together since he was 21. He has been an excellent boyfriend, and now she is asking for this. I would leave. She a drama queen.
I wouldn't trust her with my heart.
Do you really want to marry someone who isn’t sure about building a life with you after 6 years? You deserve a proposal from someone who loves you and your flawed personality and is excited to be married to you. You’re not going to get that from him. Don’t settle for this. You’re so young and already so accomplished. In another 5 years you could be happily married to someone who felt like the luckiest man on earth to get to marry you. Hold out for the real thing. This ain’t it.
boundaries arent an excuse to be controlling or set an ultimatum. boundaries are what YOU will tolerate. not how he needs to behave. you need to respect your boundaries, and you need to take actions when they dont align. but theyre not a way to force someone to do what you want them to do when they disagree. thats toxic
This isn’t just about what decisions she made in her past or even how she treated you. You need to look to your immediate future and beyond. Based on what you know will she be a safe presence around your child(ten). Exhibit good decision making skills? Demonstrate appropriate patience? Not show up under the influence? If you aren’t entirely, unequivocally sure she is safe she can’t be around the kids. Even if she’s sober as she’s demonstrated such poor judgement. I’d also take a long look at my relationships with her family. There are a few unhealthy behaviors there if they knew there was a problem and did nothing to intervene