That sounds like a lot of phone time. Kind of like you expect to put him, a human being, on pause and then unpause him whenever you're available. He's got a life too, he needs time for his own interests too. It's super unfortunate that you're feeling sick, and if the two of you had made plans to talk or watch a movie at a particular time he should be present for that time. But it sounds like he can't make plans to play games or hang with friends because you might call
Your story is… Heartbreaking to day the least. I don't even know how you and your wife are hanging on. My mom would have been a mess if my sister passed but she would have followed after my brother that is 100% sure.
I tried to picture myself in your shoes, and the only thing i can say is that when things got dark for me (at some point i didn't feel like living and getting out of bed so i just stop eating. I just didn't feel any desire to eat anymore so i went days without it), the only thing that got me going was my dog. I love her to pieces and i couldn't let her go hungry cause she's the goddest of doggos, so i would have to get out of bed at the very least once a day to feed her, and eat every 2 to 3 days to be able to stand up and climb the stairs to get to the food, or go buy some more. And it's not that i wanted to die. I just didn't want to put in the effort to live. She got me through it, and when anxiety was really bad, she would lie down directly on me in bed, and i felt a bit better.
So i guess, my advice is get a dog. There is a lot you still cab't express through words that you may be able to express with a dog. They love inconditionally.
Individual therapy is a must. You guys went through the worst, but you are not the same person. Even if it is frightening to accept any separating views of the couple because once you've stopped being one, it might feel like you'll feel more alone. But i think this is the only way to try to move forward.
You have to treat the symptoms as well as the core issue because this is too much. Therapy helps with the core issue. Medication can help with the symptoms, the dog is also to address the symptoms
I think people are reacting this way because of his reasoning for it, he’s not saying to op “I am almost pissing myself and not making it to the toilet” he’s saying “I don’t feel like standing out of bed”. Also, people aren’t saying to get lawyers now, but if he continues to justify it without changing his behavior, op has every right to do what they feel is best.
The best thing to do after a relationship ends is to throw yourself into things that take your mind off it. Ya got any hobbies you've always wanted to put more time and energy into?
Don't worry about how he comes at you. If you're feeling good about yourself and I'm good shape, he can screw off.
With that being said, just because you can bench press, squat and leg press various weights didn't necessarily translate to you being able to hurt him.
I'd recommend you taking the lead on pouring cold water on that situation, because obviously your dad isn't going to. One of you needs to squash it.
Personally, I would see a psychiatrist one time just so you have the option of doing the “I Told You So” dance in his face right before you break up with him. But I'm petty.
So was my partner. But the thing is, they didn’t get married. Life worked out just so you two could be together! He realized he was looking for something else and, based on the fact that you’re dating, he believes he’s found that potential with you. This is nothing. Go and make him realize you’re the one that deserves the ring and the happy ever after!
He has continually allowed this woman to come into your marriage. This is so very wrong. I am so sorry. You deserve so much better than this. He continues to lie. He continues to bring this into your marriage. He allows this to have physical closeness regardless to how you feel. This is definitely an EA, but is it also a PA.
Again I so sorry. I wish you a Happy Birthday and I hope you can find some peace and happiness. You deserve love and respect.
That’s super weird. I wouldn’t be with someone who wouldn’t introduce me to their friends. He’s either hiding something from you or he’s hiding you from them.
That sounds like a lot of phone time. Kind of like you expect to put him, a human being, on pause and then unpause him whenever you're available. He's got a life too, he needs time for his own interests too. It's super unfortunate that you're feeling sick, and if the two of you had made plans to talk or watch a movie at a particular time he should be present for that time. But it sounds like he can't make plans to play games or hang with friends because you might call
Hey OP.
Your story is… Heartbreaking to day the least. I don't even know how you and your wife are hanging on. My mom would have been a mess if my sister passed but she would have followed after my brother that is 100% sure.
I tried to picture myself in your shoes, and the only thing i can say is that when things got dark for me (at some point i didn't feel like living and getting out of bed so i just stop eating. I just didn't feel any desire to eat anymore so i went days without it), the only thing that got me going was my dog. I love her to pieces and i couldn't let her go hungry cause she's the goddest of doggos, so i would have to get out of bed at the very least once a day to feed her, and eat every 2 to 3 days to be able to stand up and climb the stairs to get to the food, or go buy some more. And it's not that i wanted to die. I just didn't want to put in the effort to live. She got me through it, and when anxiety was really bad, she would lie down directly on me in bed, and i felt a bit better.
So i guess, my advice is get a dog. There is a lot you still cab't express through words that you may be able to express with a dog. They love inconditionally.
Individual therapy is a must. You guys went through the worst, but you are not the same person. Even if it is frightening to accept any separating views of the couple because once you've stopped being one, it might feel like you'll feel more alone. But i think this is the only way to try to move forward.
You have to treat the symptoms as well as the core issue because this is too much. Therapy helps with the core issue. Medication can help with the symptoms, the dog is also to address the symptoms
I think people are reacting this way because of his reasoning for it, he’s not saying to op “I am almost pissing myself and not making it to the toilet” he’s saying “I don’t feel like standing out of bed”. Also, people aren’t saying to get lawyers now, but if he continues to justify it without changing his behavior, op has every right to do what they feel is best.
Odd.
The best thing to do after a relationship ends is to throw yourself into things that take your mind off it. Ya got any hobbies you've always wanted to put more time and energy into?
My guess would be he's insecure and protecting.
Don't worry about how he comes at you. If you're feeling good about yourself and I'm good shape, he can screw off.
With that being said, just because you can bench press, squat and leg press various weights didn't necessarily translate to you being able to hurt him.
I'd recommend you taking the lead on pouring cold water on that situation, because obviously your dad isn't going to. One of you needs to squash it.
Personally, I would see a psychiatrist one time just so you have the option of doing the “I Told You So” dance in his face right before you break up with him. But I'm petty.
So was my partner. But the thing is, they didn’t get married. Life worked out just so you two could be together! He realized he was looking for something else and, based on the fact that you’re dating, he believes he’s found that potential with you. This is nothing. Go and make him realize you’re the one that deserves the ring and the happy ever after!
She literally tried to shack up with a dude right in front of you. And when you stopped her, she got violent.
Too much BS drama for my tastes. Wonder what she does when she gets drunk and you aren't around…because I'd never trust her again.
A cheater is usually a liar, good luck moving forward without this numb nutz.
My guess would be the sister expects her to the leave the husband and she's embarrassed that she isn't ready to do so.
He has continually allowed this woman to come into your marriage. This is so very wrong. I am so sorry. You deserve so much better than this. He continues to lie. He continues to bring this into your marriage. He allows this to have physical closeness regardless to how you feel. This is definitely an EA, but is it also a PA.
Again I so sorry. I wish you a Happy Birthday and I hope you can find some peace and happiness. You deserve love and respect.
That’s super weird. I wouldn’t be with someone who wouldn’t introduce me to their friends. He’s either hiding something from you or he’s hiding you from them.