In personal/romantic relationships, if trust has to be “gain”, then the relationship will fail. The couple should trust each other by default, and if there are trust issues with one partner, then that partner needs to work out the issues on their own.
If presents mean so much to you I have bad nees for your relationship. A true partnership i sabout being there for eachother every day of the year throigh the bad and the good. Presents are just not that important compared to all of that. Get your priorities straight.
Thank you for this! I have felt this way for some time and I have been very open with him abiut next steps. I have seen great changes but I do agree we are on different maturity levels atm. I’m questioning now if he will ever step up like I have. There’s a lot of background involved but the crux of the issue improving ourselves and growing which I’m trying to do but he’s in a very different situation
I do believe I said during the talking stage “we should be exclusive” but i think i was just motioning that i wanted to be talking with her and that was not me asking her to be my girlfriend because I did that at a later time days later. Does that change your outlook?
That’s not the same thing as you wrote. You just assigned chores and discussed responsibility of the chore.
It’s nothing like you wrote.
You need the meta conversation.
What does he expect from you moving in? What does he think should be done? How does he think chores should go and when, who should do them? What does he think about cooking? Does he think it’s fair you do everything? Does he think he is responsible for any? Ect
You have no insight into his thought process or if he thinks it’s important. You may have entirely misjudged everything.
You had a story about your expectations. Tell him. Does he see your point?
That's rough. If my partner hated the gifts I gave him, I would really not want to give gifts anymore. But then, if they're mostly for her, then I guess that makes sense!
I would just continue not doing these things until she gets tired of wasting money
In personal/romantic relationships, if trust has to be “gain”, then the relationship will fail. The couple should trust each other by default, and if there are trust issues with one partner, then that partner needs to work out the issues on their own.
Your boyfriend is an idiot. Don't breed with him
If presents mean so much to you I have bad nees for your relationship. A true partnership i sabout being there for eachother every day of the year throigh the bad and the good. Presents are just not that important compared to all of that. Get your priorities straight.
Thank you for this! I have felt this way for some time and I have been very open with him abiut next steps. I have seen great changes but I do agree we are on different maturity levels atm. I’m questioning now if he will ever step up like I have. There’s a lot of background involved but the crux of the issue improving ourselves and growing which I’m trying to do but he’s in a very different situation
Came here for this lol
She's for the streets dude.
I do believe I said during the talking stage “we should be exclusive” but i think i was just motioning that i wanted to be talking with her and that was not me asking her to be my girlfriend because I did that at a later time days later. Does that change your outlook?
last week or so. I tried holding it in but it was making me miserable
he’s mentioned before how he hates confrontation!
That’s not the same thing as you wrote. You just assigned chores and discussed responsibility of the chore.
It’s nothing like you wrote.
You need the meta conversation.
What does he expect from you moving in? What does he think should be done? How does he think chores should go and when, who should do them? What does he think about cooking? Does he think it’s fair you do everything? Does he think he is responsible for any? Ect
You have no insight into his thought process or if he thinks it’s important. You may have entirely misjudged everything.
You had a story about your expectations. Tell him. Does he see your point?
That's rough. If my partner hated the gifts I gave him, I would really not want to give gifts anymore. But then, if they're mostly for her, then I guess that makes sense!
I would just continue not doing these things until she gets tired of wasting money