I really hate feeling like I am quiting or giving up on a friendship/love interest. This is because I know there is no way for me remain friends with her and not want more with her. You are right, I just needed to hear it.
My buddies were mainly just like “fuck her and get it out of your system, and move on” and not only did I not want to use her like that but I know if anything I would want to be with her even more because I just know me.
Yes it is open for me as well. But I wouldn't get involved sexually with someone who was already my friend nor would I want to become that close of friends with someone I'm having sex with.
I don't think you should ever have to cut a friend out of your life simply for having a good friendship. If your friend never made any passes at you and you never had a thing, I don't understand that.
I do think this guy makes you feel more than “a little uncomfortable”, though. I think you should probably have an honest conversation about that. And if you're okay with them talking, remind her you don't want to hear about their conversations. If you're really not okay with it, be honest. Be direct.
I have already contacted her only bestfriend (that I know of) and told her to keep on supporting my gf regardless of what she did. I also wrote many drafts to send to her parents, bc they are sensitive to this kind of topic (mainly bc everyone are thinking of letting us marry each other in a few years), and to make sure about her wellbeing, I framed myself and I would gladly be the person at fault to her parents just for them to treat her right in her time being mentally unstable (when she’s most likely to make decisions that she’ll regret)
No. He straight up asked me. “Are you sure you’re straight? Because it seems like you want a weaker partner that you can control and do things yourself”
Time heals most wounds.
Thank you. I appreciate your response.
I really hate feeling like I am quiting or giving up on a friendship/love interest. This is because I know there is no way for me remain friends with her and not want more with her. You are right, I just needed to hear it.
My buddies were mainly just like “fuck her and get it out of your system, and move on” and not only did I not want to use her like that but I know if anything I would want to be with her even more because I just know me.
It's a big gap. Have your partner ever met him?
Yes it is open for me as well. But I wouldn't get involved sexually with someone who was already my friend nor would I want to become that close of friends with someone I'm having sex with.
You can stop wasting your time – you’re not making a point.
Your wife needs some other hobbies
I don't think you should ever have to cut a friend out of your life simply for having a good friendship. If your friend never made any passes at you and you never had a thing, I don't understand that.
I do think this guy makes you feel more than “a little uncomfortable”, though. I think you should probably have an honest conversation about that. And if you're okay with them talking, remind her you don't want to hear about their conversations. If you're really not okay with it, be honest. Be direct.
I have already contacted her only bestfriend (that I know of) and told her to keep on supporting my gf regardless of what she did. I also wrote many drafts to send to her parents, bc they are sensitive to this kind of topic (mainly bc everyone are thinking of letting us marry each other in a few years), and to make sure about her wellbeing, I framed myself and I would gladly be the person at fault to her parents just for them to treat her right in her time being mentally unstable (when she’s most likely to make decisions that she’ll regret)
How much time a day does he spend looking for a job? How hard is he working on gaining employment?
No. He straight up asked me. “Are you sure you’re straight? Because it seems like you want a weaker partner that you can control and do things yourself”
Just text him 'We are done. Don't contact me again.'
Then block his ass.
You owe him nothing.